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Created by : Shakil A. Hashmi, Sales Manager, DELMON CO. LTD.  | 05 08 2010 10:17:16 +0000
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Even after marriage be with your parents and brother's as well. Vs Separating from parents after marriage and going far away from
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According to me staying along with parents and siblings is the strongest relation. It give you the real happiness and joy. But in this present world it is becoming difficult to stay with our parents, because of the need of money. We go to other states & countries for money.

But we are really missing the happiness....... :) 


By Sudeep Tarafdar, Senior Consultant, IBM  05 10 2010 08:50:45 +0000
 
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Staying along with parents and brothers' is all about our strong relationships. As we know "happy moments become double & Bad divides many parts" while living in a big family. So i strongly support this side,
By Vipin Bhasin, Private Equity/Hedge Fund/VC-Manager, Indian Investment Co.  | 06 19 2011 18:38:01 +0000
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Our parents have sacrificed so much in their life to give us education, culture and make ourselves settled.   How can we repay them if we cannot even be with them during their old age.

We also need their advice to guide us all through our life.  They have been through the phase we are currently in and have got the experience to help us avoid the pitfalls.

Coming to think of the topic, is it the correct one?  Nowadays we are dependent on our parents more than they are dependent on us.  Why?

Working couples are everywhere and they need somebody to look after their children. And who would be better than their own parents?

And brothers?  You have to see your children playing with their cousins and growing up automatically without giving you any trouble.  And the children learn to share with others, become more adjustable with the surroundings.

Those from a joint family are more successful in life than those in nuclear families.  I am not talking of monetary success alone.  In all respects

 


By Raju V P, Senior Manager, an International Bank  | 06 19 2011 17:43:39 +0000
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I strongly agree with Sudeep, why to separate from someone who gave us birth, but very few lucky people get the opportunity to stay with their parents and fortunately i am one of them. That adds a lot to your family, Complete and Happy Family, Cheers!


By Mohan Murari, Marketing Manager, Confidential  | 06 19 2011 15:18:48 +0000
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Every thing is fine if the spouse is equally shares your views.


By Santosh Kumar Mohanty, Civil Engineer-Municipal, Sambalpur University  | 05 20 2010 17:14:56 +0000
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I strongly believe that, physical distance does not pose any issues so far as emotional bonds are kept the hearts together. In this network world, family remain in touch on hourly basis as my neighbour's daughter inlaw makes a point to talk to her parents twice in a day on Video Chat ..they discuss and gossip...goes with out saying they are as happy as they lived together.

Family is close social system where in individual creates emotional bonds so, mostly it's thinking by heart but there are situation where in brain/mind need to be also used along with Heart.

Situation demands siblings to go away from home varies. It's give and take situation. Let us consider financially backward family where in one of the son gets good opportunity to overseas and parents ask him to go for it for betterment of family. Let us say after couple of years, same family felt need for individual to be back @home, one need to take the call of duty....

 


By Hitesh Thakkar, Project Manager, Sun Microsystems India  | 05 11 2010 09:55:20 +0000
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Good to see that majority views are in favor of 'Keeping up relations by living with parents, post marriage', in these time of many who advocate for  "Pre-marital living together and having sex with no strings attached"  In India, everything is not lost yet.


By Abraham Paul, Senior Telecom Consultant, FCOMNET- Future Groups  | 05 11 2010 09:14:51 +0000
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I completely agree with Mr Sudip Tarafdat on the subject since the family bonding is very high and we are habituated seeing the same from childhood. One and everybody feel secure and the comfort of feel home.

With modernisation the balence is changing and weighing more towards money and accordingly there is a split in the family since everybody try to go out of the home to a different place to earn more with the same basic of leaving in comfort for everybody once they used to stay together.

On coming back during holidays see the real love & affection that is bestowed on you & your family by all they are living in home.

With the advancement of socity in general this thing bound to happen. Look at USA where everybody stays seperately and meet only during dinner or breakfast time the same applies in Europe also but if you go back to the history till late 19 th century all the above mentioned peoples used to live together.


By Rathin Deb, Advisor and retail consultant, currently as Branch Manager, Tower Infotech Ltd  | 05 11 2010 05:28:08 +0000
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I am a staunch supporter of living with parents but nuclear families are growing at a much faster rate.This is directly proportional to the rate of globalization.We have to see more of our Hindustani culture evaporate to a greater extent because of the globalization.I support globalization but this is the biggest sacrifice which we indians are giving.


By DEEPAK SHARMA, International IT and ITes sales,Account Management, Relationship Management, Drish Infotech  | 05 11 2010 01:36:57 +0000
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It is absolutely necessary to be with parents even after marriage: The compulsions to stay with parents are: They need to be looked after at their old age like your children. It is your duty since they have taken care of you and given you the education and some infrastructure and capital for you to start yoour life. Most parents think their child should have the difficulties which they had faced in life and so takes care to educate the child, create some assets fo him and so on. Also your child requires grand parents love and care and when both husband and wife goes for work it is the grand parents, who take care of your child with all the care and love your child needs.

But then if there are brothers and sisters (You have forgotten about sisters- why is it not also the duty of girl child to take care of her parents - Gone are the days when people used to think after marriage the girls become virtually properties of inlaws and used as such in our society for producing children, cooking, cleaning the house , providing nursing care to husbands parents etc. This bad system of our society needs to be removed.) then it will be like joint family and may pose some problems since we are neither taught in schools or by parents on how to live in joint family set up. I have seen in some families of my friends where married children and parents live in seperate houses, some times in a apartment complex or a family apartment complex so that all of them are near but stay saperately but still maintain the togetherness. They have a family trust where they pool funds for the education of children and for emergencies, they meet every week ends or at least once in a month in one of th houses by rotation so that every one gets a chance to be a host and spend for food etc depending upon individuall effordability. How nice it will be.

We  need to conduct a study and come out with receomobdations on how to be together and yet live separately, with out any gender differance and with equity.


By K LAXMINARAYANA RAO, Freelancer  | 05 11 2010 00:38:03 +0000
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So far four of them support for being with thier parents and brothers as well but who is actually following that ??

Perhaps to consider parents only as brother/s become a different parameter when there are responsibilities and multiplications. Being with parents gives u a sense of sociability and togetherness because the same has to be followed for the next generation of urs as well. Your community may hardly know your kids when they grow up if u are staying away from your parents.

The values and principles what the grands can give them, definitely u would fail to give that to your kids.. So the ties has to be firm and strong with parents though you are married


By Rajendra , Logistics Manager, Supreme Industries Ltd, Papua New Guinea  | 05 10 2010 13:55:41 +0000
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it good to stay with your parents after marriage


By Yatish Kuril, Chairman of Board of Director, Proponent consulting & centre of Entrepreneurship, Innovation & Incubation  | 05 10 2010 12:29:02 +0000
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relationships are nothing but words ...made of vibes which in turn are electrical signals.
By Ajay Ziz, Dy. Registrar,, University of Jammu  | 05 10 2010 08:55:34 +0000
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It’s been really very fantastic experience being related with your parents as well as your brothers even after marriage and its gives very powerful impact in development/growth like five fingers in your one hand makes together more power in your hand.
By Shakil A. Hashmi, Sales Manager, DELMON CO. LTD.  | 05 08 2010 10:17:16 +0000
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This can be a tough decision for many to make. Being in a marriage & separating from your parents is something to think about. You really have to do what’s best for you. In a marriage its time for you to move on & start a separate life in a new home. But that does not mean that you should move completely away from your parents. You can live next door or live in a different neighborhood or live in a different city. Then you can go back to visit them sometimes.

You can still have a relationship with your parents but they have to know and understand that you will be starting a new chapter in your life and you need space. You can still have a relationship with your parents and be close with them but you have to think about your marriage too.

Being in a marriage it’s time for you to experience a new way of life. It’s time for you to experience life that’s different from being with your parents. That does not mean that you should forget about them. You can still spent quality time with them but you need space and a different home to really experience your marriage. In a situation like this you have to do what’s best for you. It’s something to really think about.

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By Renee: CEO Life Coach & Life Strategist, Owner, Company: CEO Life Coach  | 06 18 2011 17:52:57 +0000
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Staying along or far has nothing to do with the way we are doing ,what is expected of the a responsible son is to just take care of their emotions and should provide them with the same affection as once they gave us ..Staying away is becuse its the need of the time ..but as very rightly said

"Its not about the years in life but the life in your years you live " 

Same appilies with spending time with parents ,whenever you get the time to live with them ..live it to the most.


By SAURABH THAKUR, SOFTWARE TEST ENGINEER, QA InfoTech  | 05 31 2010 07:31:14 +0000
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A person's responsibility is most towards parents for the reason they did everything for bringing up. So as long as one can take good care of parents there is no separation. In case parents need help with younger siblings the same becomes a part of sharing the parents responsibilities.


By Ravindra Sharma, Managing Consultant, CHEF-India  | 05 11 2010 08:48:41 +0000
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