An all time Best Question..Which One IS better LOVE MARRIAGE or ARRANGED MARRIAGE?

Love has few elements psychological (socio cultural habits, religion cast etc.), emotional (feel of well being i.e. security), intelligence (judgement opinion accountability), seduction (Libido for getting into sexual activity which is pleasant for both), physical compatibility, energy level to thrive.

Marriage is a socially legally accepted relationship, governed by the law of land and / or religion among an adult male and female individual from different family background.

Under courtship partners are not under the same roof legally, socially, in this situation, what you understand about your partner may or may not stand when you marry, both side would have friends and relatives, some may be common.  

As far as my knowledge goes baring few tribes when a women marries she goes to live with the husband, this situation is different from live together, live together has no social  legal hold or any accountability.

Few young men and women get sawed by education (western life style), or few examples within by movies and their stars, trend to think love marriage is good, well if you have the above supporting elements  it is going to be a success.

Love marriages break up due to the low level of acceptance in Indian society, (As sex, sexuality  and its expressions freely is a taboo in our society, even today in city like Navi Mumbai a well planned city, I observe people find it difficult to gulp strong personalities as sex and its expression builds ones persona.) which creates a huge pressure psychological, and emotional, breaking trust, understanding, resulting into collapse of space between the partners.

Arranged marriage is good for Indian Middle and Upper Middle class society as this tribe is stuck with all mediocre conversation, and for Indian Business class, Land owners etc.

Amrita what you said may be liked by many like you,  the above are the atoms and molecule, Use them to create, your love story.

Yes Basil approval is needed.

Now a days Love marraiage is not a perfect match becuase our young generation do not follow the true love ........ because love is a fire but if you do not handle correctly it can flame you so aware of that..............so support arrange marriage.............................

Dear Chandra Shekhar,

I was not forcing my concept on you, rather I was asking for clarification about your own idea, which was not in tune with the actual question, as you just tried to side track the issue. But, I find, still you don't have any answer in support of your own answer. Anyway, thanks.

Dear Chandra Shekhar,

First of all your answer that "marriages are made in heaven" was quite irrelevant to the question "which one is BETTER, love marriage or arranged marriage." Secondly, the idea of "marriages are made in heaven" was first floated by you only that too having no relevance with the question, and it was your liability to prove that. You tried to confirm your idea simply in the name of God stating that IF I believed in the existence of God, then you were not required to prove that.Irrespective of whether I believe in God or not how that was going to prove your own idea that marriages are made in heaven. You will have to prove that. If you were unable to prove your own idea what was the fun in sponsoring any vague idea. Not being able to prove that, you stated that by stating that marriages are made in heaven your approach was self explanatory, and also stated "it is just a name" (marriages are made in heaven. So, if it was just a name, where does your opinion itself becomes vague in your own words. Then in support of your idea, you asked me to go through a video clipping, even that was quite irrelevant to your idea. Still you were not ready to prove that the illicit relation of the couple without marriage was the result of their invisible marriage in heaven. If you don't have any stand, why you float such a vague idea. Is it just to make yourself visible on the forum in one or the other way? In fact some people, like you, just respond senselessly to the questions of the members of the forum that corrupts the knowledge of members instead of enhancing that.

IF YOU ARE UNABLE TO PROVE YOUR IDEA, WHY DO YOU TRY TO MAKE FUN OF THE IDEAS OF OTHERS?

Dear Chandra Shekhar,

I may or may not believe in God, but don't accept illogical statements in the name of God, as everything cannot blindly be proved merely in the name of God. God should not be called to prove on your behalf, which you have to prove, yourself.

The helping hand of the husband in the referred video, no doubt, shows the love and attachment of husband towards his incapacitated wife, but that does not indicate whether the marriage of couple was a love marriage, or arranged marriage; or made in heaven or earth.

In fact we do follow blindly the saying of some one, but without going deep in to the meaning of the saying, or whether that can be proved or not.

i am supporting arranged marriage,cos Indian society is yet to grasp the finer profile of the love marriage.Arranged marriage as it is prevailing in other states like Gujrat and Maharashtra and slowly and gradually sapping in the families of other states is better option.Once the "ROKA" or formal acceptance of would be brides/grooms obtained,they are allowed frequently to meet and understand each other.The marriage ceremony is fixed when the relationship is properly understood.Love starts from infatuation and culminates into marriage leading to many a problems and ultimate break ups.

Dear Chandra Shekhar,

The fact is that you have not understood the meaning of the question itself. Your comments about the couple of the video having not been married but were living together indicate that you believe there is no need for marriage, either love marriage or arranged marriage,and believe only in illicit relations. Even that illicit love relation does not suggest they were married in heaven. If you believe that they were married in heaven and that is why they were living together on earth, better prove that also.

For your information, there is a lot of difference between making love and love marriage. Making love does not prove in itself that they were married in heaven. So, prove that marriages are made in heaven.

Dear Chandra Shekher,

How would you like to prove that marriages are made in heaven?

But, Chandra Shekhar, you seem to have failed to make any clinical surgery of the question, which asks, which type of marriage is better. The question does not asks whether marriage is made in the heaven, or the hell, or the earth.

I liked to arranged marriage.....Even most of our parents done arranged marriage and they are living very happily.....According to my view, it will give financial security,cultural or religious understanding and also divorce is more unlikely happeninng in arranged marriage........... Marriage is a very joyous part of life, and I sincerely hope that everyone going through it, arranged or not, lives happily and well....

Its like if you have people who can decide better about your marriage then its arranged marriage, which is what it is about. On the contrary, if you think, you can decide better, then go for love marriage. Marriage isn't everything though and is just a social obligation. You need to get it going after marriage. While as Man thinks wife will never change, Woman thinks husband will change. While both find themselves wrong, its how they learn about it. I find the quotation very true.

Whatever it may be intentiontion is same.

If the only difference is knowing a person, that can happen in both.

I know several cases where relationship before marriage was much longer in arranged than love marriage.

ITs a very tricky question, but still marraige is get together of two souls, families, and even culture, which gets along life long of relations, which is possible in Arranged marraige, love any how we develop after marraige also.

Theirs nothing wrong in love marrage, where one CAN know each other, the more we know about each other, the less affection is carried togher life long. the more we explore, more deeper develops Affection, and so the respect for each other, in love marriages one exposes only his positives first which attracts one to fall in love, the major disadvantage in love marraige is one knows more of positives insted os negatives. which later bring problms in life.

Above are only my views based on my 15 ys of marraige life, and 30 odd years of relationship life,

ವಿವಾಹವು ವ್ಯಕ್ತಿಗಳ ಪ್ರಮುಖ ಘಟ್ಟ ಇದರಲ್ಲಿ "ಪ್ರೀತಿಯ ವಿವಾಹಗಳು" ಮತ್ತು "ಒಪ್ಪಿಗೆಯ ವಿವಾಹಗಳು" ಆಯಾಯ ವ್ಯಕ್ತಿಗಳ ವೈಯುಕ್ತಿಕ ಸ್ವಾತಂತ್ರ್ಯದ ವಿಷಯವಾಗಿದೆ. ವಿಷಯದ  ಪರ ,ವಿರೋಧ, ಒಳ್ಳೆಯದು, ಕೆಟ್ಟದ್ದು ಎನ್ನುವುದಕ್ಕಿಂತ, ಇಂಥಹದೊಂದು ಅಭಿಪ್ರಾಯಗಳು ಹುಟ್ಟಿಕೊಳ್ಳುವುದಕ್ಕೆ  ನಮ್ಮ ನಮ್ಮಲ್ಲಿನ ಆನೇಕ ದುಷ್ಟಾಂತ, ಅನುಭವಗಳು ಸಾಕ್ಷಿಯಾಗಿರುತ್ತದೆ. ಈ ಹಿನ್ನಲೆಯಲ್ಲಿ ನನ್ನ ಮನಸ್ಸು  "ಒಪ್ಪಿಗೆ ವಿವಾಹಕ್ಕೆ " ಮತ ನೀಡುತ್ತದೆ. ನೀವು ಈ ಸಮೀಕ್ಷೇಯಲ್ಲಿ ಒಂದನ್ನು ಗಮನಿಸಿ

1. ಪ್ರೀತಿಯ ವಿವಾಹವನ್ನು ಒಪ್ಪಿಕೊಳ್ಳುವವರು ಹೆಚ್ಚಿನ ಸಂಖ್ಯೆಯಲ್ಲಿ ಅವಿವಾಹಿತರಾಗಿರುತ್ತಾರೆ. ಹಾಗೇಯೇ ಒಪ್ಪಿಗೆ ವಿವಾಹಗಳನ್ನು ಒಪ್ಪುವವರು ವಿವಾಹಿತರಾಗಿರುತ್ತಾರೆ.ಪ್ರೀತಿಸಿ ಮದುವೆ ಆದವರು ಕೂಡಾ ಒಪ್ಪಿಗೆ ವಿವಾಹಗಳನ್ನು ಮೆಚ್ಚಿಕೊಳ್ಳಲು ಬಹುದು..

ವಿವಾಹದ ವಿಧಗಳು ಹುಟ್ಟಿಕೊಂಡಿರುವುದು ಸಾಮಾಜಿಕ  ಅನುಭವಗಳಿಂದ ಹಾಗಾಗಿ ಒಪ್ಪಿಗೆ ವಿವಾಹಕ್ಕೆ ಇತಿಹಾಸ ಮತ್ತು ಜೇಷ್ಟತೆ ಇದೆ.ಪ್ರೀತಿಯನ್ನು ಕಾಮಿಸುವುದಕ್ಕಿಂತ, ಹೆಂಡತಿಯನ್ನು ಕಾಮಿಸಿ ಪ್ರೀತಿಸುವುದು ಮಾನಸಿಕ ರುಚಿಗೆ ಒಳ್ಳೆಯದು.

In a family oriented system like ours in the oriental, particularly in India where honour killings have become the norm (as horrors that are) with our government helpless on the issue, arranged marriage was and is the norm. It is not a congutation of merely two individuals who are still wet behind the ears or may be just out of it, but between the two families concerned. If one has no relatives to speak of, well one can do whatever one feels like. The fundamental problem in the so called love marriage is that, each party is putting on a front to impress the other. Unless it is a live-in relationship, which is another matter altogether, one does not know the other's absolute private habits, which was hidden all the while. It is a misconception that you know each other better. Hence, a problem on the discovery and no place to run. On the other hand, in arranges marriages, when the elders look at the commonalities of the families and their possible union, a lot many thing gets taken care of, including the private habits (unless deliberately hidden, which is another matter again). As far as the two prime individuals are concerned, they start on a clean slate ready to learn and adjust in all spheres, with no previous baggage of the perceived (albeit wrongly) knowledge weighing them down. This kind of love lasts with no comment such as "I thought you......." In our context, even now, it must be arranged marriage, for social security and comfort with familial and social support. No man/woman is an island. Come to think of it, an island is one, because of the water surrounding it! If in love, get the elders involved to make it an arranged marriage. If they have vehement objections, they may be right! You may not be still dry behind your ears!

BECAUSE LOVE MAARIGE IS BEST BECAUSE I THINK WHEN TO STRANGER MEET THEN THEY HAVE AN EXCITEMENT TO KNOW ABOUT THEMSELVES

I like the idea of an arranged marrriage. I think I could even trust my parents to choose someone suitable and kind for me. I think arranged marriages r better than love marriages cause arranged marriages have less divoces than love marriages. In arranged marriages, there is a chance to knows about "wouldbe" with other relatives. For Indian culture arranged marriage is more suitable. 

People hide their real faces in front of the loved ones they are not the real person whom they are

After getting married with their partner lot of things are revealed about each others Especially in the male species (Sorry Friends). But its true

Marriage however it is arranged or love it is only completed with understanding, support, respect and of course lots of love 

Arranged marriage is best.

i agree with arrange marriage it so much good. i love to arrange marriage so mu=ch

arranged marriage is best

Arranged marriage provides for adequate support and aid of society at large and more importantly closely known relatives , who stand along through emotional , financial , cultural , thick and thin..

Mr. Deepu, There are two similar debates on the same subject which was active till reently.. It would be better if you check on the right side if similar debates are there while u creates... Thanks.. See the links below

http://toostep.com/debate/arrange-marriege-v-s-love-marriege-which-one-is-more-success

http://toostep.com/debate/arranged-marriage-or-love-marriage-which-is-good-according-t