In a way , Yes. If as a child one has a right, that parents take due care of him/her. Why he/she should not be expected to payback similarly in this case to parents. What is wrong with expecting ??
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Ravindra Sharma, Managing Consultant, CHEF-India
| 08 02 2011 04:45:59 +0000
- The Parent have to seek protection from Senior Citizens Association , The person liable to provide maintenance has the means and he has neglected or refused to maintain the dependent and The dependent is unable to maintain oneself are the important factors which will decide the fate of maintenance.
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Rajesh Tekale, Counsel, Advocate on Record , High Court, Mumbai
| 08 01 2011 19:17:00 +0000
The right of parents, without any means, to be supported by their children having sufficient means has been recognised by section 125 (1) (d) of the Code of Criminal Procedure 1973, and Section 20(3) of the Hindu Adoption and Maintenance Act, 1956.
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Rajesh Tekale, Counsel, Advocate on Record , High Court, Mumbai
| 08 01 2011 19:10:14 +0000
Two sides - emotional and financial. Financially, it is the duty of the children to take care of their parents. Emotionally, the children should stand by their paernts and see that they are taken into confidence in everything they do and get their advice. Coming to think of it, it is becoming the opposite nowadays. Children are depending on the elders. Nowadays it is very common to find working couples (both spouses employed) and so they need their parents to take care of their children. Such children have the added responsibilities of taking care of their parents more.
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Raju V P, Senior Manager, an International Bank
| 04 19 2011 08:48:40 +0000
Knowledge, health, support, wisdom, thought, education and status in society are all given to us as a suppot , by our parents, and it is our duty to be with them throughout their life....if it was not for them we would not be here...parents are like the roots of a tree, which support the tree always and we cannot ignore them...we too have to walk the same route some day...can't be forever young...give the respect and honor to them like you would expect from your children when you get old...
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Ramesh Shankerlal, EXPORT, IMPORT, INTERNATIONAL COMMODITY TRADE CONSULTING, RANSAE EXIM
| 04 19 2011 00:41:27 +0000
they did everything for us only and now if we saying that its a responsibilities of the parents than what is our responsibilities for them????... as per my opinion its not a responsibility / job / project so that if you do than only you become a person. its a love / respect towards your parents and love of your parents for you.....
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Sanjay Kumar, Territory Manager- Delhi / NCR
| 04 18 2011 18:33:34 +0000
There are some self-centric couples in the society who hardly bothers for their aged parents. For such cynics happiness of parents often takes back seat. Parents suffer from their own loved ones, who were brought up with love and care by these suffering parents. Their agony is heartrending. Here, human rights of aged are definitely violated. In most of the cases, it has been observed, elderly don’t raise their agony with neighbors or law enforcing authorities, fearing humiliation of family’s name in the society. Solution lies in the problem, children should understand their responsibilities towards parents and take their responsibilities as a blessing rather than burden. Also, they shouldn’t forget, one day they will also pass through this phase of life as whoever is born on this earth has to come across four main phases of life, childhood, adulthood, nuptial life and old age.
Having said that, I believe, if water is above neck, then parents must teach a lesson to erring children by reaching out to police and courts.
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Rajiv Azad (Common Man with Uncommon dreams), Manager, Communications, Branding and Content Development at Leading Hyderabad based Organization, Leading Hyderabad based organization
| 04 18 2011 09:48:38 +0000
Aarti shall stand supported. She is right in her views, But alas there could be a discussion as to how this can be remedied?
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Amarendra Gogoi, Law, Law
| 04 18 2011 08:33:26 +0000
Aarti I am in total agreement with you on this. The Noida incident of two sisters is an example whose brother lives in some other sector in the same society. I may sound a little harsh but todays nuclear families treat their parents as unwanted except in some cases and also on those cases where the parent have huge money.
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Rathin Deb, Freelance Retail Consultant
| 04 18 2011 07:15:05 +0000
Yes @ some extent, but I think no one willingly do that. It is happening due to human nature , as everybody wants to enjoy it's freedom irrespective of their age.& this tendancy is more present in the younger generation & is the main reason for this problem. Thanks for referral, Aarti.
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SHRIKANT MANOHAR DANKE, Project Manager, Phadnis Infrastructur Ltd
| 04 18 2011 06:46:59 +0000
All we talked about the nature and policies of the ruling but never under standing what we are talking about always we do against our thaughts for their needs this is the basic factor to disturb the society.
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Nem Singh, Consultant, Consultancy Firm
| 04 18 2011 06:20:13 +0000
Yeah. I cant say its violation of human rights of elderly, but kids tend to leave their parents once they grown up keeping their personal career growth etc. Parents also encouraging them. The parents dont need the money of their kids but they demand the affection and caring. Visiting them often or atleast talk to them on phone regularly and care for their needs is enough for them. Whatever may be the busy schedule one can find sometime for his parents to talk and visit, if he has the interest.
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Srinivas suravajhala, Asst. Manager.
| 04 18 2011 06:04:36 +0000
Yes,it is sad fact and true that elderly do face loneliness,especially single parents,but it is also equally true that many children are also taking care of their parents in some way or the other,so all is not lost yet,but it is a growing problem which needs to be addressed NOW,because we are going to be in that situation when we grow up and our children will take cues from our treatment of our parents!!
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Suresh KP, General Manager, Books for Change
| 04 18 2011 05:44:45 +0000
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Large families or joint families are well known in Indian society for thousands of years. It is intended to support each one by love and affection and not on commercial basis. It is like a small kingdom looked after or managed by the Kartha (Head) of the family, who looks into every one's welfare in the family. There were 101 children in Kourava family. There was no mid- administration or maladministration among them interse. They might have been bad to other families or rival families but history remains that there was unity, happiness and mutual understanding between them. In the large families, now a days, because of education, individual prestige or ego we may come across some instances of disrespect or neglect of elders. Many times it may be the feeling of the elders who always are to idle their time at home. While every other keep engaged in one or the other responsibility the elders may feel that they are not given much importance and the like. This type of Psychic feeling has to be cured by the others on understanding the feelings of the elders. Merely because some unpleasant events take place in the family or certain individual doesn't care for the senior members in the family that itself cannot be a scale to measure that the elders are ignored or that there is violation of human rights. It is not proper to say so.
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Prof V Narayana Swamy, Chef De Partis, V N Swamy Associates
| 04 23 2011 06:14:29 +0000
The concept of nuclear families may be new in our conservative society, but has been an age-old practice in America and in Europe. If we are able to understand that the younger generation get on with shouldering their responsibilities and leading their lives as per their choice, then they also liberate the elderly generation from having to continuously care for their progeny. The elders can now live life as per their means and wishes, pursue their interests and hobbies without hindrance without dependance on their offspring. Such a life for the elderly after a certain stage - NO COMMITMENTS, NO EXPENSES BEYOND THEIR OWN UPKEEP & A FUTURE WELL PLANNED IN ADVANCE - is really the best form of blessing. To expect the children to remain devoted when they grow up and so take up the burden of the ageing of the elders either in part or full is I think very selfish and utopian. If it doea happen then marvellous but if it does'nt? Should we cry foul? Why? The best relations sustained are those where there are little things and large thoughts passed around, being there when the other needs but giving each other the space to be as you wish to be.
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Capt. V.S. Kartik, CEO/MD
| 04 18 2011 06:16:48 +0000
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