Follow The wife - Is It A Good Career Move For A Man?

As a BOY, we follow GIRLS ........As a MAN, we must follow WOMEN...I mean own WIFE.........You know there is FUN in FOLLOWING.......Follow your WIFE, one day you will make it..........

follow ...............  but be focussed...

because your wife or paramor will be loyal to you only if she cannot reach the inner recesses of your thoughts ..

otherwise .. u will be used like tissue paper ..

so follow albeit with conditions ..

Husband and wife should be like friends.  First of all we should know why we should get married and what is the purpose.  Our life should be in action not in auction.  If this phylosophy maintains between the couples then moulding, bending, dancing, twisting, etc. etc. will not arise. 

Of course, men will have more public exposure than a lady and men by nature have the quality of tackling any situation according to the convenience in a society.  But, women will always have the controlling power, not only controlling the husband, of Revenue & Expenditure.  If ones wife is not in the house the house will looks like a desert.  Let us maintain a mutual and cordial understanding and association with each other rather than superior and inferior quality.

The operative term Nikhil should be "good career move" rather than 'follow the wife'. If indeed following the wife who is employed and posted somewhere else is a good career move for the husband then what's the harm. There shouldn't be any gender bias here. If the wife follows the husband if its also a good career move for her then it's good too. But if you're trying to pose a question on who sacrifices the career -partly or completely - when the spouse moves then it's a different debate.

I am not supporting this side because I am a female. However, if the situation arise that a man should go and take up residence where his wife is, then why not? If better job opportunities exists in her area I do not see any harm to go for it.

There is nothing wrong in following the wife. In fact, my husband has done that when we relocated from Kolkata to Delhi, and I can say for sure that he is extremely happy, happier than anywhere else he has lived!!

It all depends on the fact whether the move is good for both the wife as well as the husband.  Both should be benefited- it does not matter who moves first.

Well, I think the issue here is more about what makes common sense or is practical. Its not about who follows who..or other gender related issues which many times is based on perceptions.

If the wife's job adds more value to the financial stability of the family, then it would make more sense to consider her job as priority. End of day the decision should be based on a mutual understanding and agreement between the couple!

Why not follow a woman of your choice? In fact its always better to have opinion and critisicm which in the long run favours both as individuals. Its all in mind and an attitude towards gender. Both as man and woman are responsible for each others behaviour.

If my wife advises me best, when I have to make a decision, if she helps/advises as to how I have to find resources (I don't mean money.. or money alone); if she helps me network fruitfully; if she encourages me to, when I need to update and enhance my skills to ensure career growth; if she is stable and solid so I could have the confidence that I would remain stable and solid if I follow her AND if she has that wisdom to understand life and make me understand it, WELL, I WILL FOLLOW HER TO ENHANCE MY CAREER

Men, if you expect your wife to follow you to enhance her career, ensure that you are all of the above.  Else, if there is a vacuum in any or many of the above, each individual should find the best person whom they should follow, to fill the vacuum.

Following wife for carreer...I don't understand. I prefer not to talk about work at all at home.

But then I can not afford to say 'no' because if she will come to know that I am not in favour of following her..... you know.

I agree with Dhiraj when he says," understand this when your wife says something and it makes sense please follow that."

Mr Jain, nobody compromises anything to be in a healthy relationship. When we read the definition of Interpersonal Relationship on wikipedia.... we understand that when taking decisions for somebody else in a relationship never means that the relationship is healthy. Healthy means Mutual which doesnt involve compromises but the right decision to be taken.

As I said earlier, We need to standby our decisions ourselves, ones partner is just another guidance giver and eventually the decisions belong to us.

only if the wives get you job and save you from getting ::
1] retrenched

2] debts

3]getting killed

4]............

only then ... otherwise follow the lala who is the employer ..

I think it is a good career move to follow one's wife. It has always been taken for granted that a woman’s career is less important than the man’s , that she will never be the breadwinner and consequently, may or may not pursue a career after she marries.

The woman’s income is generally considered no more than a fringe benefit to be tacked on to her husband’s pay packet. But the recent recession underlined the advantages of belonging to a doubleincome family.

Many men lost their jobs at short notice and it was the ‘fringe benefit’ of the wife’s salary that kept things going.