Every individual is different and very unique.....so no two women think alike. I know a newly married couple who contantly have marital discord over the man not having a 'great' job. She compares her husband to her male cousins who earn much more that he does....so much for human ego - male or female.
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Stephen O. Rajan, Technical Architect, Zenith Software Limited
| 06 11 2011 17:50:42 +0000
This JOB stuff is very much cosmopolitan a city phenomenon they are hardly 40% jobbers in India. What about the rest? Jobless BOYS marry JOB less girls. What’s your problem are you having to marry a jobless girl? Or your girlfriend doesn’t want to quit her job after marriage? she won’t bother about you and carry on with her nakkra? (burkha or remain Veiled)
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Joydeep Dasgupta, Business Development, New Horizon
| 06 11 2011 17:13:28 +0000
Naturally. No girl would like to have an uncertain future. Guys are supposed to look after the girls. Forget about the exceptions. Exceptions do not make a rule. If a girl also works, it is better for the family and the girl herself. But not mandatory.
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Raju V P, Senior Manager, an International Bank
| 06 11 2011 14:04:33 +0000
guys have to work cos nature has moulded them tat way.a man always goes out for work and this is accepted of him.Girls, on d other hand were always considered homemakers so its not diffcult for a man to marry a non-working girl.But times r changing and these days men do look for working women as life partners cos standard of living has increased and the family cannot run just with a man's earnings
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srirang gollerkeri, Senior Recruitment Specialist with AimPlus Staffing Solutions
| 06 01 2011 04:37:49 +0000
Yes. It happen with me also.
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kumar chiman sinha, Research Scholar
| 05 31 2011 08:59:09 +0000
BOYS SHOULD HAVE A JOB TO CREATE THEIR OWN IDENTITIES IN SOCIETY.ONLY THEN THE GIRLS WILL ACCEPT THEM AS THEIR LIFE PARTNER.THE CASE IS DIFFERENT IN THE OTHER WAY ROUND.
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A S Viswanath, Trainee Software Engineer, Mphasis-an HP Company
| 05 31 2011 07:52:34 +0000
if boy can earn money he should not marry...if u are not able to earn something in ur life ..how you can expect a girl in ..otherwise one day girl will neglect you & u will be in helpless
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rahul p rinayat, Software Developer, Geometric Solution
| 05 31 2011 07:01:29 +0000
btw, it's not only upto man's joblessness.. but also about what is the Quantity of money earned by him. :) anyways, As per world tradition man must work and is socially responsible for the economic status of the family. Girls may be working.. but it's not a "must" for them. Socially they are free for their choice. It can be for an enjoyment, a timepass, a license to marriage with a say rich/highly educated guy/NRI etc, can be a way to strengthen economically and can be responsibility in some cases (When she is a sole earner of her family). However things may change in India in next generations ( and can be seen changing in this generation too), where it boys too would be bound to search for a jobful girl. That may happen due to the money-race that would greatly increase in coming generations.
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Vishwas , -, --
| 05 30 2011 17:07:54 +0000
irrespective of a girl choosing choosing a jobless guy or a guy having a job...... the men's have already framed a dominant history saying that men should be the head of the family and a decision maker and women should help men in all his work........... which i hate the most.......
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MOHAN RAJ, MBA/PGDM student, Kongu Engineering College, Erode
| 05 30 2011 11:18:33 +0000
Husband need not feel guilt of using wife's money as they share life. Everyone has their egos and I believe their is no life without ego. But limit it, and leave it at times, should help in happy living.
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Bhargav , Team Leader -(Technical), Mahindra Satyam Computer Services Ltd.
| 05 30 2011 10:25:03 +0000
It depends upon family of the person whom you marry.
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anuradha , NECC Ltd.
| 05 30 2011 08:40:53 +0000
Good thought and its an very real one.
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Santhosh Kumar, Environment Engineer/Officer, Enviro care India Pvt Ltd
| 05 30 2011 07:10:48 +0000
Dear Darshana, your point of view is far away from the given topic....
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Chandra shekhar, Technical Writer/Quality Assurance, CMMI 3 Software Company, Hyderabad
| 05 30 2011 06:58:42 +0000
Excellent thought
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Chandra shekhar, Technical Writer/Quality Assurance, CMMI 3 Software Company, Hyderabad
| 05 30 2011 06:29:58 +0000
Difficult to answer?
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Suryanarayan Murthy, Free lancer
| 05 30 2011 05:06:49 +0000
hello Jyothi,i agree to Sindhu's comments.she is right.still we have male supremacy in family to larger extent.
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jairaj shyam prasad, Production Manager, BOSCH Ltd
| 05 29 2011 15:21:40 +0000
forget about a girl marrying a jobless boy... at least will she marry a guy with half her salary... Girls look for a secure life. (nothing to complain about that) who wouldnt want to have a secure life? :0) This need doesn't change even if she has 7-digit salary... :-)
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Vinu Sebastian, Sr. Technical Lead, HCL Technologies
| 05 29 2011 14:17:04 +0000
Yes, this is true because women in India are considered as second class citizens. Even if a jobless guy is ready to live with an employed girl, society will not leave him alone.
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John Jacob, Consultant, confidential
| 05 29 2011 13:58:59 +0000
you nailed the point...well said!
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KR BALA, Providing HR Services, Independent HR Consultant
| 05 29 2011 12:48:06 +0000
Quite funny to see how many people are serious about this topic. However girls do look for a 'billionaire jobless' guy.....Isn't it??????? and guys are looking for girls who can offer them a ****job rather than anything else.
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Satadru Shastri, Partner, Mukherjee & Shastri
| 05 29 2011 12:19:44 +0000
Because Girls better know that they are not going do any job as last as her life partner due to the family responsibility or any thing else xcept few case..... I know that this is not the case applicable everywhere but in general case our tradition, culture and responsibilities towards family compelled to do like that.
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Anupam Anand, Back Office Executive, Jyothy Laboratories limited
| 05 28 2011 10:05:36 +0000
Yes, As per Indians mythology man should focus on Earning and the girl should focus on family but in current situation it depends on the girl and the guy as Darshana told
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Diwakar Tiwari, Chief Manager, THE Arvind LTD
| 05 28 2011 09:50:54 +0000
If a girl choose a jobless guy , then who will run the family? & is that guy is ready to live jobless with his working wife ? I think it will not going to happend. Thanks for referral, Jyoti.
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SHRIKANT MANOHAR DANKE, Project Manager, Phadnis Infrastructur Ltd
| 05 28 2011 08:04:43 +0000
Men can choose a women as void but women cannot choose men in that sense because men by nature is created to go out and fetch whatever he has to. Women of these days may feel otherwise thanks to technology but do not take it as granted to act like men. Your physiology doesn’t help it so far.
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Cyril Kelmen, Admin/Audit Supervisor, IKK
| 05 28 2011 07:43:44 +0000
hehehe ... a very serious topic, Yes! But a very "debatable" too. Lets take an example where girls want to stand right next to a guy and tell us(guys) that we are equal. Agreed, we are and should be. BUT, now the question is, this equality varies based on what they want equal to be... i want your job, i want to earn, you should do the house work you should help in the kitchen, you should understand... but if a guy cant buy a car or doesnt have one then; you cant even buy a car? you cant support us? you cant take care of our baby? I mean come on man ... you cant get everything you want. If both of you are earning, you cant blame only 1 person for everything. But thats where the problem starts. Well even guys feel a little out of place and sidelined if they are not earning and if the female member of the house is running the finances. and thats where they become irritating and frustrated. I do understand Girl's point of view and i am in support of them earning and choosing the partner whos earning too. BUT; i am not in support of that one thing only, if the girl is career oriented and has a job, cause a guy could be doing a few things which might pay off in future say 6months or a year from now. i think guys deserve those chances in their lives of the other member of the family can support the family. I am not a hypocrite and i am surely looking for a working and earning partner, for a simple reason that if she earns; in today's world, it makes life and family easier to live with as you have more potential to take your ideas and opportunities 1 step further and see if something pays off or not. I believe in taking chances with my business and if there 1 support which is consistent; i think it makes a hell lot of difference in life. Girls dont prefer and jobless guy because they think he is worth nothing in life and he is a looser, they might wanna rethink ;). Think of Steve Jobs, Bill Gates or for that matter Mark Zuckerberg, these guys probably didnt even go through their formal education to become a billionaire; but if they had never taken a chance and never dropped out to become something or build something that they believed in, there would be NO WINDOWS today. i am not saying that everyone will become a billionaire by walking their path, but if a person believes in something i believe that he should try out. I do and i am Proud. if girls don't like it, i guess that's their problem... they will sue me once i become a billionaire ;) hehehehe [this is no war, its just a debate guys... and girls :)]
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Ashish Gandhi, CEO/MD/Director, Creative Director, PostBox Communications
| 05 28 2011 07:39:20 +0000
Yes because the girls are good for nothing and are so selfish that they usually turn off when they get a better option not in looks but in bank books for girls looks don't matter at all when it comes to selection of boyfriend or husband what matters most is the amount of money the person has and the kind of profile you have in your organization but we the mens are responsible for this as we gave them the opportunity to be greedy because we allowed them to work which further raised more boys to be empty pockets ..... We have the time still now, raise up and keep all girls inside to lend more opportunities for men and to curb the crime rate too .......... Think about this a while and you will find that all the dirty thought is carried by females whether in office or out of office and they are paid more unnecessarily and are given promotions faster so please stop this immediately otherwise t5he day is not far when there will be males working inside homes and wearing bangles........... also mangal sutra will be worn by males if you want that then continue with females on job but if you want that cleanliness everywhere then get these ladies out of work to free up posts for unemployeds and get the deserved people earn........
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Ardhendu Pal, Technical Support Officer, Convergys India Services
| 05 28 2011 07:25:33 +0000
Though I don't believe so but as per traditional indian mythology,boy should be stronger than a girl in all aspect, now a days girls are leading in all feild.
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Seema , Partner/Principal/VP, Angel Associates
| 05 28 2011 07:15:23 +0000
Yes, A man should focus on Earning and the girl should focus on family
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swarna latha, IT-Recruiter, Confidential
| 05 28 2011 07:12:58 +0000
it is true in current life
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MOHD ARIF MANSOORI, Sales Officer
| 05 28 2011 07:07:17 +0000
I am neither agree nor disagree. It all depends about society that you are living in, your family culture, your own perceptions. I agree with Darshan's view. But as per traditional indian mythology, india is "purush pradhan" desh, where guys are responsible for fulfilling family's financial needs. Whereas wifes are responsible managing & running family. She does all family management. Nowadays, both are equal.
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Jatin Kacha, .Net & SQL Tech. Leader
| 05 28 2011 07:04:04 +0000
I appreciate your expression.its sounds nice in the initial stages of marriage.later the decision makers are all the homemaker's decision & that's you.That' s the reason the whole world portrays the women as decision makers in any buying. well the home is made of 2 components of life one is take care of home in allits activities internally and the other is one who takes care of the external activities to earn for internal activities to be in activation throughout. Hence by default in history the homemaker is a lady within and externally who assists in making the home is a man with a good earning capacity.
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Rajendran Mariagnanam Mariagnanam, Founder and managing partner, Braintrain consultancy services LLP
| 05 28 2011 06:54:11 +0000
Dude, Agree !
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Amar Viplow.B, Geographic Information Systems-GIS
| 05 28 2011 06:12:43 +0000
Its mainly because of maternal & paternal age. Most women reach menopause in their early 30's, while most men can fertile till their late 30's or even till 40's. This puts pressure on women to get married earlier, regardless of their professional status. So its natural that such women to opt for men with a good profession & a solid income.
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Harrison Immanuel, M.Sc
| 05 28 2011 06:11:55 +0000
In the present world, they would love to agree, for she would get a "home-maker husband" to handle the household chores, baby sitting, handling in-laws, and what not, so that they can peacefully attend to their kitty parties, clubs, dining and wining with friends, etc.
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S. Muralidharan, Executive Director, Knowledge Foundation & Campus Around the Corner
| 05 27 2011 13:57:07 +0000
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Is it a issue for long debate? The statement is wrong as like as "ALL FINGERS OF HANDS ARE NOT SAME". Means all girls & boys are not same. If girls & boys are choosing their spouse themselves then Attraction & Understanding capacity plays a major role in that part. Jobless for time being but not dull etc etc. In short it depends on human nature not issue for debate.
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Vipin Bhasin, Private Equity/Hedge Fund/VC-Manager, Indian Investment Co.
| 06 11 2011 18:12:40 +0000
Girls can go with this condition but its the guy's ego which stops her..
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arpita sharma, lecturer of finance, AMITY University Jaipur Rajasthan
| 06 02 2011 11:13:20 +0000
can u explain in brief...?
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Chandra shekhar, Technical Writer/Quality Assurance, CMMI 3 Software Company, Hyderabad
| 05 30 2011 08:52:14 +0000
it depends on girl nature
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mehul , internal auditor, audit firm
| 05 30 2011 06:05:36 +0000
I have so many examples of girl with job marries with unemployed boy and also feed to him.It is depends on love and boldness of girl.I know uneducated girl earns more than her educated husband by normal way.
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LAXMAN KESHWALA, Freelancer, Telecom/ISP
| 05 29 2011 19:01:44 +0000
it's not only the ego but the we are living in a man made society so everybody thinks for the boys to work and marry any girl no matter if she works or not. but girls prefer only a good earner boy for herself.
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puneet , Manager Admin
| 05 29 2011 08:48:14 +0000
Darshana I agree with your views on the subject. Thanks Jyoti for referral.
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Rathin Deb, Advisor and retail consultant, currently as Branch Manager, Tower Infotech Ltd
| 05 29 2011 04:53:02 +0000
Selection depends on the security one can offer to the counter partner. Security may be the job or the wealth or the family bond (love , affection, dependency) .
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KALIYAMOORTHY , Oil & Gas Area Coordinator, Undisclosed
| 05 28 2011 14:33:42 +0000
I don agree with this, in this competitive world with economy with high inflation and the increased cost of living, guys should prefer a girl who is working, even though girl works for a lesser salary also she should be employed which will be a supporting hand in times of difficulties
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Stephen , MBA/PGDM student, Dr. Ambedkar Institute Of Technology, Bangalore VTU
| 05 28 2011 14:11:09 +0000
I dont agree in today world everyone has gone mean.
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anuradha , NECC Ltd.
| 05 28 2011 13:34:24 +0000
The tradition is not only in India or the Hindus. Even according to the Bible when Adam and Eve bit the forbidden fruit God ruled that Adam will have to word hard for a living and Eve will have to suffer pain in bearing a child. Every society is formed on some basic principles based on religion or tradition or customs which are value based. They cannot be rejected outright by a changing world order. The youth are in the “I syndrome” meaning I am supreme and capable of changing the world. Women must be held in high esteem and treated with respect. They should have the best education as this makes them self dependant. They should have the freedom to choose a carrier and profession. Marriage is a union of not only a man and a woman but of two families and the ceremonies involve the participation of children, youngsters and respectable elders. Several issues are loudly discussed amongst all and it is therefore imperative that the good practices in society are religiously observed. Wild thoughts of doing something different to change the status quo are often futile and only bring about misery to be repented for the rest of life.
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Pradeep Saran, Technical Expert
| 05 28 2011 12:42:22 +0000
Its all non-sense on earnings for relationship.
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Jyoti CHETANI, Freelancer, Equity Research/Analytics
| 05 28 2011 07:03:31 +0000
Very well stated.
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Manohar Chari, Project Manager, ABNIC
| 05 28 2011 06:57:17 +0000
IT ,never said it depends on the girl & Guy.it depends on worth candiates .Money doent have other name like wifes or husbands. Its just money to be used for the basic need of family .Why the word EGO come into picture.... ??????????
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Amar Viplow.B, Geographic Information Systems-GIS
| 05 28 2011 05:57:54 +0000
It depends... If a girl wanted a hus"bend", then she may chose one with empty pocket
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Kadal Amutham, Head R&D , Fifth Generation Technologies (P) Ltd
| 05 28 2011 02:51:18 +0000
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