How can such a cruelty acceptable by any religion.. not that it is region centric. .but relating it to Quran or any holy book is insulting God himself. No religion teaches or accepts violence. Wife beating is terrible thing...but let me tell you a bigger secret ..there are husband beaters too..so is it physical strength?? No ..no ways .. it is a strong psychological disorder which makes human a beast. it needs a proper psychiatric help to get out of this..
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Bindu Narayan, Product Development Manager, Care Biomedicals
| 02 14 2011 12:26:58 +0000
Lakshmiji, that was some radical thought coming from a woman and Teacher! Cheers to you! I agree that feminism to some extent has surely worsened the position of Indian women! Media hype and coverage are the major weapons used! But we should also remember that "Wife beating" is prevalent mostly in the most downward/ illiterate sections (not to forget the privileged class as well who take pleasure in dominating the opposite sex!). Staying in a modern city like Bangalore itself has not concealed one or two cases of such kind from even the most casual onlooker! There are such practices that have still paved their way into the modern world, but as you said- "Such incidents happen everywhere in the world!" Good thoughts! Feminists beware! Cheers! :)
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Anantha Shayana. D, CTO/CIO, RAYSITI
| 01 20 2011 17:15:47 +0000
In general, no one is allowed to hurt anybody even a child for example, parents do not have the right to beat their child. In any case it is not permissible, just think from an individualistic point of view.Male is stronger in built so it happens..lol...
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konkan SINGHA, Head- Talent Acquisition (IT), OptedJobs
| 01 20 2011 09:13:28 +0000
Most women i know have been hit at least once by their husbands, and all are of the south Asian origin. It is deeply engraved within the culture where a woman who was once beaten by her husband, enforces the same on her son to beat his wife to keep her under control. Moreover, if the women report it or even think about reporting it, they are subjected to emotional abuse specially if children are involved. Children start believing that it is correct to hit women which includes both boys and girls, and hence it is not reported. Wife beating is considered a right, and has become an integral part of the culture.
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Lubna Siddiqi, CEO/MD/Director, Hyacinth Training Consultants
| 01 19 2011 08:09:30 +0000
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No, if at all, it's come from America. I dont understand why men want their wives to continusoly stay relevant. It's impossible, especially if you;'re not allowed to stray.
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neha singh, Content Editor, Avestia Corp
| 10 05 2011 08:24:40 +0000
its not any religion which matters, basically ego, inferiority complex, frustration on something which is not any way related but still to let out, an illegal relationship or one who has big ears to listen for others report or doubt in relationship. Only above written type of people will beat and show off their physical power.
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parimala.c.wagh , Tech Architect, Rites.Ltd/GC/BMRCL
| 10 04 2011 09:00:03 +0000
man since the begining of world has been trying to please the woman. did we forget the ADAM has left the Heaven at the asking of HAUA and also ate the forbiddeen fruit. so to say that man beats woman is completely weakness of intellectuality and is an immature thought.or the question we may say.
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birander singh dhankher, Private practitioner/Lawyer, birander sngh & co.
| 01 30 2011 11:13:02 +0000
wife beating has never been a problem, but it has beenmade a problem now by our politicianes. we may see that the gentlemen and ladies have been living since centuries but the bad elements have been creating problems . what is now? thousands of the families are behind the bars for nothing. Why? due to the New Acts and the Laws and the same ladies are misusing the same and sending the innocent In-Laws behind the bars and our systems adds to the suffering. making law is not the solution but adds to the suffering of the citizens.birander singh
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birander singh dhankher, Private practitioner/Lawyer, birander sngh & co.
| 01 30 2011 11:09:12 +0000
I am totally diagree with konkon singha as she stated it is because of the male built stronger,as per me it has nothing to do with any physical appearance harder or stronger,But this kind of situations develop from the phychologial embalance or mental problems and there could be n number of reasons to come across this situation,and it could happend with any one not only with men but could be with woman also.Nor even it relates to any kind of inferiority complex and men tries to get over women and start beating.
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Dinesh Kumar Mahto, Software Developer, Aithent Technologies,Gurgaon
| 01 20 2011 15:34:15 +0000
I m totally disagree with Konkan singhs as she said it happens as man is stronger physically,but this is not developed anywhere from your body appearance of physical appearance but it developed from the phychological disturbance,or any thing that relates to ur mental,financial or relation problems.and this we can find more in rural area anywhere not in any particular region like south asia as stated in the topic.The only solution is to develop mutual understanding between spouses and co-operate each other in any kind of situation.
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Dinesh Kumar Mahto, Software Developer, Aithent Technologies,Gurgaon
| 01 20 2011 15:23:52 +0000
Taking of one off cases an universal problem cannot be accepted. Family relationship should be both "Give" and "Take"! Ego plays a major role in such differences and develops anxiety! Beating could happen in many situations, viz., inebriated condition, not accommodating one's point of view one is stressed out, nagging constantly on an avoidable issue, procrastination, reminiscence of the past, expectations beyond one's own capacity, jealousy towards siblings of the groom, or siblings' nagging. Whatever said and done, wife beating is a phenomenon that should be dealt with very strongly to eradicate this menace! Why these issues are not reported in Malaysia or Arabian countries where the laws are very stringent!
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S. Muralidharan, Executive Director, Knowledge Foundation & Campus Around the Corner
| 01 20 2011 04:31:59 +0000
Yes ! I do agree that there are comparatively many cases of so called 'wife beating' in south Asia than rest of the part but I dont think it is called as problem that too chronic. In most of the cases wives starts beating husband mentally and get beaten physically.Thus both sides of the equation get equal. Then where is the problem ? If not equal, then there must be problem either in equation or in the variables in the equation. I will say that in 90 % of the cases equation is tallied. Hence no problem and not at all chronic problem.
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Deepak Madhav Padher, Sr. Manager ( Tool Engineering), Bajaj Auto Limited
| 01 19 2011 11:13:58 +0000
Not chronic "South Asian",but I would say, mostly Asian problem. Here the concept of a woman is very uniquely presented in the scriptures and in the democracy as well. The incapability to understand this concept has resulted in mindless male population trying to dominate the female kind. yes, I totally agree with you that if the punishment given towards systems like dowry and abuse should be severe. Also, the couples entering into a relationship of marriage should be serious enough to judge the outcome of such a an eternal bond! We are intelligent in "starting a private limited company"; we are too careful in investing into shares and MF; too careful in getting a new maid to work at our homes; why not be careful while choosing the right partner? After all, we only choose once! Good question!
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Anantha Shayana. D, CTO/CIO, RAYSITI
| 01 18 2011 13:04:59 +0000
No....One can't generalize wife beating as a south asian problem. It is only because here it is not given that much importance, and considered as part and parcel of a marriage. Unlike yester years ladies don't accept it lying low, becasue they are more educated and financially independent. If and when punishment is meted out it is not severe. Whereas in the Western countries, it is viewed seriously and punishment is severe and meted out without delay. Which acts as a deterrent.
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Shweta Nigam, Asst. Manager/Manager -(NonTechnical), IBM-Daksh
| 01 18 2011 11:36:43 +0000
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