Not necessarily. In Public bosses like "You are so nice, so sweet". In private, they can, if boss is sensible, take any amount of directed and positive criticism if it is valid and correct. Criticise the boss yes. In private and face-face with hi,.
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V. Srinivas, Freelancer, Information Technology
| 01 20 2011 14:10:29 +0000
only those people without self esteem and dignity would do that kind of think. you gotta support your boss in a way that he can acknowledge your credibility and calibre and yes, most importantly skills.
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Geo Vincent, Industrial engineer, MRF LTD
| 01 18 2011 14:24:47 +0000
Neither only kissing nor only performance make you go ahead. You have to keep safe distance from boss so that s/he can't avoid you at the same time whenever you require leave s/he should be able to leave you with your backup. Even though you have calibre,one needs to have smooth relation (not so sweet) with your boss,because talents can be replaced by other personnel (may be at the cost of time,money) but one can't withstand utter bitterness.
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Dhawal , IT Consultant, Electro Industries
| 01 18 2011 13:57:45 +0000
I 101% agree with this statement that"kissing up your boss is the only way to go ahead"..its not only applicable in the case of females,but even in the case of males also..the best example is me...I lost my previous job only due to...i was not buttering my boss..i was only believing on best performance...otherwise i was the best performer in my team of 6 project leaders...Boss told it my attitude problem....and the butterers are still surviving.....
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Pankaj Kumar, Project Leader, TVS motor company,
| 01 18 2011 11:19:08 +0000
well.. i believe kissing your boss is unjustifiable as it satisfy your emotional and professional senses for a while but it will create a bottleneck for you in the long run.
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devendra singh negi, Sales manager, Indiamart
| 01 18 2011 06:03:32 +0000
Gulo se sikha hai muskurana Kanto ne hai sikhaya sath nibhana Uski judaai ne di aankho me nami Milan ne fir sikhaya khilkhilana Chhuwan ne uski sikhaya sarmana Aagosh ne uski hi sikhaya simat jaana Panchhio ne sikhaya aasma me udna Sapno ne sikhaya mujhko pankh lagana Jindagi ne sikhaya mujhe jeena Halat ne sikhaya aage nikal jaana Dariya ne sikhaya na kar kisi ki parwah Jindagi ke tedhe-medhe raste me kabhi na ruk jaana SWADESH
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swadesh jangde, Assistant Billing Engineer, Gannon Dunkerley & Co. Ltd.
| 11 01 2010 10:18:50 +0000
I completely disagree! one who believe in themselves wld not do all this and if someone is doing this for any success it wld be a momentary thing and wouldn’t last for long,and can be prepared for sme more favours
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neeta menon anand, Freelancer, Advertising/PR/MR/Events
| 06 27 2010 16:55:08 +0000
I do not see a reason whay the peros shoudl nro kiss teh bossif he /she wanst promotiosn I cannot hence I am not a VP of a company had I doen so i would haev reached greater heights Let us be practical there are people who are at low grade ie below manager adn who go sleeping around these people are ready to do anything to rise high
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Nikhil , Senior Manager, Insurance
| 06 10 2010 08:32:13 +0000
kissing up to boss is one of the first moving ways to go ahead, confident as I am that competition in this chapter is going to foto finish. kissing to boss definitely help the runner to finish with fraction of seconds.
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Debasish Dutta, Sales Head, R.H.Automobiles Pvt Ltd
| 03 14 2010 14:31:46 +0000
90% of people as boss,like some degree of flattery and importance as 905 of people are doing this, u cant stand alone and expects great favours only from performance, calibre etc kind of bookish words, its harsh reality
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Abhishek Gupta, Director , Skills Factory
| 03 03 2010 14:31:02 +0000
i fully agree with your statements that these kind of people are lame but as a matter of fact, corp are full of people in this skin, so you ought to have a rappo, apart from good work and performance.
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Abhishek Gupta, Director , Skills Factory
| 03 03 2010 14:23:52 +0000
I agree 70% to this Idea, although its majority depends on kind of boss you have. good performance cant be substituted by this but you cant get promotions and perks , only based on performance. its your job to be humble to your boss, ask their opinion , gave their name to your idea, dont argue with them, its a tricky situation but you have to develop a very good rappo and you have to extra mile to assure that u have a rapport as rightly said, for some other reason boss's have their likings and when they have likings , they neglect their faults but if u dont have a good rappo, u will be dash dash. so its kind of combination u require to excel in your career.
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Abhishek Gupta, Director , Skills Factory
| 03 03 2010 14:21:50 +0000
The best way to impress boss is to praise her or him. It is not easy to praise boss. It is very tough skill not thought in any professtional course. Those who have self respect and fear of God will praise God and no one else.
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Ahamed Mohiddin, Financial Accountant, World Bank
| 02 28 2010 09:59:02 +0000
A man is a slave of his vocabulary. Using words such as kissing can lend colour to the concept at hand . What does this colloquial word stand for? Does it mean a man should support his boss in a manner that the emphasis is on a coordinated effort? Does it mean that the man should be a team player and work in harmony? Does kissing mean that the team player accepts the ruling from the Team Captain during the course of the game? Does it mean that after a consensual decision is taken the man works in a manner that there is no difference of opinion between team vision and individual vision? Does kissing mean accepting responsibility for the successful achievement of the boss' and the team's goals? If yes , then one should kiss up to the boss. Instead if it means sycophancy, shallow flattery, playing politics, insincerity, extending sexual favours or the like then obviously no
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John D'Cruz, Pilot, IAF
| 02 28 2010 04:32:37 +0000
Mr Narayan I have written what I have seen and realized over all my life in India in particular. I am both a boss and a subordinate. But I am neither a drunkard nor cigarette socializer nor do I seek false flattery. My subordinates grow out of pure inspiration from my side for which I don't even seek any credits. Of course I evaluate work and appraise accordingly. But I do not value personal association at all, even someone who is critical of me will be rewarded for good work. Unlike the typical "bosses" of Indian corporate world.
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Shyam S, Project Leader/Managing Consultant, A leading EDA firm
| 02 23 2010 04:35:55 +0000
Mr Prajapati, I totally agree with you at this point as its not only a weapon for your job appraisals like a salary hike or promotion but the most successful method to crack an interview in the first shot. Good topic bravo! And those who are still in illusion that this thing is non existent I would like to clear this that everywhere you will find talent in the lowest position or out in sun but the unproductive politically corrupt fellows are enjoying higher positions as well as a good life only by this method.......... and everything else is just a philosophy and a sheer Blah!
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Ardhendu Pal, Upgrading Knowledge Base, Researching in Computer Software/Hardware
| 02 22 2010 18:38:16 +0000
As far as you are a good performer nobody is going to disturb you, but when it comes to promotion and growth, those person are better who are in the boss favorite list.. Of course organisation politics has a major play in appraisal.This is practical that besides being a good worker you have to be dear of your boss otherwise you aren't going to grow.
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Tarun Mishra, Equity Dealer, Religare Securtites Limited
| 02 22 2010 11:38:30 +0000
Kissing up ur boss is nessary to go a head and to get higher position.. In my exp i have seen so many persons who have good knowledge in his/her field. Even though if they don't know how to handle boss will makes them failer in getting promotion.
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kalaivanan , Software Developer, Azure IT Solution
| 02 22 2010 07:13:46 +0000
I agree with the idea. Those who say that they don not agree are themselves bosses or are fortunate enough not to have faced situations in which nothing works. Indian mentality is also very bad in this regard. A typical boss can go to any extent to show that he is right and can make his juniors do whatever he thinks right. There have been instances where bosses are fair but they are very few and they are not the true picture of our corporate world.
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Aditya Sharma, Insurance Advisor/Analyst, LIC OF INDIA, ICICI LOMBARD
| 02 21 2010 09:01:23 +0000
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its the smart work which gets you recognition in the firm,kissing up is just making getting you noticed to A boss and degrading your position in the firm
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Ankit , Project Executive, Offshore Ally
| 01 18 2011 19:53:31 +0000
Everybody wishes to be one step ahead.. In the end, its your hard work and calibre. Casting couches cannot take you far. It's a fleeting sense of being ahead when in reality, you are lying to yourself, cheating yourself by keeping your talents and self-respect at stake. So, in my argument, NO. Hard work is a must. Success will follow.
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Neha Choudhry, Content Writer, Service Magic Info Jobs (for Atoot.com)
| 01 18 2011 19:49:23 +0000
While some believe that your success in the business world is all about whom you know and your relationship with those people, it can be argued that it is about what you know and how you use that knowledge. To put it briefly, "kissing up" may bring temporary benefits, but does not guarantee to provide long-term benefits. The boss that promotes based on the ego trip provided by an employee runs the risk of facing stormy waters ahead when the employee is proven to be inept. Not only will the expected tasks be incomplete or erroneous but also the cost to repair the damage is not cost-effective from the business standpoint. The company loses profits when it is required to invest more money into a position that should have produced quality work the first time around and in the expected time frame. For the employee's side, "kissing up" to the boss will cause unnecessary stress with the acquired workload from the promoted position. An individual may want a position in the company that offers more money and may be willing to do whatever it takes to get the position but people fail to realize that once in the position, there is an expectation to perform at a certain level. If the individual is not qualified to handle the position, then this will become obvious. Bosses don't like to be made fools of and when the employee fails to perform, this is a bad reflection on the boss that recommended the promotion. There are also repercussions from co-workers. Individuals, who are promoted based not on their skills but rather their relationship with the boss, are quickly cast out from co-workers. Sometimes this sort of treatment does not get to the point where the individual is concerned but there is also the other extreme where the work environment becomes unbearable due to the bitterness and attitudes projected from the co-workers. There was a particular man that was a "kiss up". Prior to his hiring, he had been fired from all of his previous places of employment. In his new job, he fed into the CEO's ego. He quickly climbed the corporate ladder. On the way up, he cared for no one and "stepped" on many people to make himself continue to look good to the CEO. Among the other employees, the man became the punch line of office jokes. His work was poor, his ethics were poor, but he could charm the CEO and knew the right words to say to make the CEO feel powerful. Eventually, things caught up with this employee. Co-workers stopped helping him and fixing his projects. Some became bold and would blatantly call out this employee's lack of capability for holding his position. When all of this caught up with the CEO, the employee was let go. There were no benefits held in this situation and this is one that is very common in the business world. Instead of pretending to be someone that you are not and risking your reputation and future by feeding into someone else's ego, just take the knowledge that you already posses and grow from there.
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Sheethal K, Business Development Manager
| 01 18 2011 09:19:42 +0000
How far it will take you ? one day your boss, work, environment will change and then what will happen ? your new boss may not like to be kissed. She/he may like to be challenged in the area of concern. By that time you are so engrossed in kissing that your actual potential will take a back seat. Agree where you think its right or else challenge positively.
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S mishra, Senior Consultant, inspired tech
| 01 18 2011 06:33:47 +0000
I certainly disagree to this.. then why to look for a job...GET engaged in the field of such type if people prefer to be kissing their bosses !! Let it be a man or a woman ..To survive in this we need not kiss our boss and get what we want...and the method of showing off in front of boss and especially the dress code that particularly woman wear should be stopped !!
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melit deepthy thomas, MBA/PGDM student, Bharathiar University
| 11 01 2010 06:34:51 +0000
I certainly disagree to this.. then why to look for a job...GET engaged in the field of such type if people prefer to be kissing their bosses !! Let it be a man or a woman ..To survive in this we need not kiss our boss and get what we want...and the method of showing off in front of boss and especially the dress code that particularly woman wear should be stopped !!
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melit deepthy thomas, MBA/PGDM student, Bharathiar University
| 11 01 2010 06:34:40 +0000
Its not the only way to move ahead, but needs to be done. It is not easy to just step into a work environment & be accepted unconditionally - one has to work their way up &/or stay in the fray! Playing along is a way of finding your bearings & getting to know what you are up against, esp what effort can get you where in how much time! It is swinging extremities, by saying totally for or dead against - ask someone who has is a standout in a particular work environment - like the lone North Indian in a company of 4000 South Indians! Or an Expat Country Manager in a foriegn country, managing 2000 people without knowing the language! Your credentials get you the opportunity but how you fit in & manage the show to come out tops, depends totally on how you deal with it! Believe me, these may not be spoken of much, but do exist. You just need to hear of it from someone who has been in it!
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Amit Abrol, Business Owner , Primexp
| 06 27 2010 12:58:58 +0000
I would not agree with "Kissing up to your boss", but you still need to have good relationship with the people above you in the hierarchy. In addition to hard and smart work relationships also play a key role in your careers progress. Hard work will only get you up to a certain level, beyond that, if you aspire to be in the senior management, relationships with your seniors will play an equally important role compared to hard and smart work. Regards, Om Deshpande
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Om Deshpande, Business Consultant, JobsXS
| 06 10 2010 14:20:22 +0000
I strongly disagree that Kissing up to your boss is the only way to get ahead because people who don't poses skills, talent and caliber to grow will do these to gain recognition. But real quality workers who does smart work and hard work with enthu to grow will be shown a direct way to get ahead. So believe in yourself and get going!!!
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Greeshma Reddy, Regional Marketing Manager, eInflexion Pte Ltd
| 06 10 2010 11:24:35 +0000
I support Gargi's view that those people who are kissing around their boss do not have caliber to prove themselves and organisation should not promote such culture because it would lead to negetive impact on the organisation as a whole. However, there are organisations where kissing around their boss is a practice in such a senario I think follow the race and also show your calibre to grow with the system. This is a corporate world and if you see your growth by flattering your boss in this way I dint see any reason why you should not do it when others are also doing it. Nobody will call you lame.
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Nipoon Tandon, Associate Manager HR Shared Service, Control Components Inc
| 03 11 2010 16:56:45 +0000
I don't agree kissing up to your boss is the only way to go ahead. I believe only those person go for this step, who don't have any knowledge,skill regarding their job/ work profile,otherwise somebody is there they are ready to do any thing only for making money,and one more thing who is expecting like Boss he is not a Boss.
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suresh , Officer HR , Volvo
| 03 11 2010 10:37:25 +0000
I really support this idea of Miss Sawant. One should believe in oneself do their job honestly and try to meet the challenges ahead. This certainly will place you on top of others and you will feel happy about it as I am sure you will be getting positive views from your bosses. So be positive always and give your best in each areas of life ...
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Amit Kumar, Asst. Manager/Manager (Technical), Allahabad Bank
| 03 10 2010 07:16:21 +0000
I fully agree with the views of Darshana Sawant.We should not use any unfair,unethical ways to go ahead.Honesty,sincierety,committement,hardwork shall only be the way to climb up the ladder.All other means are only temporary.Though this method may take some time such a person cannot go unnoticed and rewards are sure to come.We should also note that such persons are not perturbed by small happenings who will enjoy working with there heads high. g.n.yoganarasimhan be(civil),mie,fiv,pgdv
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g.n.yoganarasimhan , civil enggConsultant and Govt regestered Valuer for land and buildings, Suyoga enterprises
| 03 09 2010 09:49:44 +0000
I totally disagree with this statement.I believe that it soley depends on your skills ,your carreer targets and how you start building your successful corporate ladder for own carreer growth.It also depends whether you have a clarity on the path towards your career goal.For instance if you have a goal of starting your own business firm after 5 years of corporate life , i dont think you have to wait for someone else to come and build a ladder for you which will take you towards the foundation of business.You are bound to intiate things by your own.
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Harish K K, SBU/Profit Center Head, tataindicom
| 03 09 2010 09:01:06 +0000
if that is the whole mantra then i guess we have wasted our valuable time in studying , putting lot many efforts in growing up as a better person , thinking beign ambitious, etc.. Absolute non sense..even now i feel that iam wasting my time to answer this question but no ways had to answer this..
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Tony Dsouza, Strategic accounts, Wipro Ltd
| 03 09 2010 06:02:31 +0000
Although majority is with "Disagree", this has become trend to butter your boss instead of developing your skill and it sucks when you are working with people of this kind. Although if your boss is insisting on making you kiss,show him the middle finger and find a new job.
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Vinay Pandey, Sr. Software Developer
| 03 05 2010 15:45:06 +0000
Mr Ahamed Mohiddin's argument put the person in the category of "five o'clock shadow"when he makes advances to the boss to entice him with hope to pacify him.But the bosses now a days are more enlightened to listen to juniors because of corporate objectives.
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Mohammad Bakhsh, Project Leader/Managing Consultant, Freelancer
| 03 01 2010 09:46:17 +0000
Let's take this case as a negative impact to the subordinate. All the praise you give to your boss impacts your performance/hike/promotion that's good, but friends, in this corporate environment how many of them will really do this? Let us believe in our strengths and go forward not for the boss. However situation may change according to the boss but after 10 or X years if you want to see yourself in a C-- position, do you really think you will justify the sam ewith your subordinates???? or let us think ME as an indivdual is a owner of a enterprise and I always want my employees to be sincere, honest and hard working but not those who are praising the boss...... so is the same where ever you are working
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Arun , Specialist - Communications, Aegis Limited
| 02 25 2010 14:38:53 +0000
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