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Created by : Omkar Kulkarni, Accounts Officer, Minilec(India) Pvt Ltd  | 04 03 2010 17:43:07 +0000
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Live in relationship

 

Our family structure is strong point of us. In family mother, father and older members teach good habits, things to their Childs. Good cultured generation is important for good cultured, matured generation for country. Recently I read one article in the newspaper that in USA peoples thinking about joint family. See what a fun, we have a family cultured and thinking about live in relationship and in USA where peoples are thinking about joint family. Most foreigners honored our family culture. In family there is a bond of faith, love and care about each other which gives a moral, power, confidence to fight against the situation, to take new challenges. Though Hon’ble  Supreme Court gives a green signal but It is responsibility of society to respect our culture and our good traditions.

If any child born from live in relationship then who will take care of that child? Anybody don’t have any right to make anyone orphaned. Mother and father have taking hardship for their child with love and care, by not saying trouble. There is a love responsibility which gives a joy. Medical science says that family faith and love reduce your tension and gives a more life. If new born baby start to speak, walk see the joy on the face of mother, father and family members which they never forget. Our ancestor make some rule for good ,secure life and for humanity. marriage is one of them. In our culture marriage is not only any program but it is one breeding. It's a 'Pavitra Rishta".Our family culture have some meaning. We are a human and have to act like human being.   

 

 
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Though i personally dislike  the concept of LIVE-IN relationship as well as being an indian would not recommend anyone to go for it still i would say it's all about their own choice n decision.

The idea of LIVE -IN relationship is difficult for us  to digest as we  are born n bought up in indian culture where we have to follow traditions,rules, n customs.

Still i feel that there are couple who are married but they are neither loyal to each other nor they respect the relationship they are just insulting the concept of marriage.and on the other side there are people they respect their love and break the rules n choose their own way.so why not !!!

so i think it's all about getting good partner for a lifetime.

 


By yogeeta umesh datir, Environment Officer, GOPALAN ENTERPRISES  04 05 2010 16:58:27 +0000
 
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My definition of live in relationships is"Live together, have physical relations, and move out when bored."

I do not support live in relationships although it is sort of common in my country. In the past only people of African descent use to 'live home' as we call it but for some time now people of Indian descent are also following same trend. Live in relationships have become quite popular for all the wrong reasons:

1. People today ask: “Do we need to get married at all when we can have everything that marriage offers without formally tying the knot?”

2. Women have become independent socially and financially and see no problem in living alone.

3.The freedom that you get. You do not surrender any rights or accept any obligations.

4.The relationship lasts as long as both the partners are happy with each other.

5. After some years it is natural for some partners to get bored seeing the same face every morning. That is when the charm goes out of the relationship and one tends to look for a fresh relationship with some other individual. In a live-in relationship, that is no problem. You can any day just pack your bags and move out, leaving behind just a thank-you card.

6. There are absolutely no legal hassles, financial complications or complex negotiations for dividing assets and debts between the partners.

Such relationships lack commitment. When the chips are down, the arrangement usually breaks down. If the partners have children, the situation becomes more complex with respect to their custody and responsibility for upbringing. Since the relationship is informal, the two individuals do not have much stake in its continuity and whenever problems arise, they decide it is much easier to split rather than make efforts to solve them.

Society recognises and respects a marital relationship and treats it as the only “proper” way for a man and woman to share a single roof and rear children. Marriage is protected by the law and both the partners have their clearly defined rights and obligations. If they want to split, there is a laid down procedure that has to be followed. There are strict provisions to take care of children’s upbringing in case of parental divorce.



By Devi Kaladeen, Audit Manager, Health Sector Development Unit  04 07 2010 20:06:28 +0000
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"live-in relationship is practiceable if you are smart enough to convert it into a well planned marriage.Nothing is perfect in itself, you can see many short comings in traditional marriage system.
By Dinesh , MBA/PGDM student, PROTON bschool, ahmd.Gujarat  | 04 11 2010 11:45:11 +0000
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Even though I do not like, I left with no option as I wanted to live with my love. So I got married. I guess you have misunderstood my intension of being in live-in relationship. My definition of Live-In relationship is not something like when you get everything without marriage why marry again. My definition of Live-In relationship is to live together without any social bond of marriage but heart and mind bond of relationship. My definition of love itself is what is called as marriage where there is no concept of husband or wife but only lovers.

I am not here to change anyone's mind here or off course no one here are so dumb to listen to me to change them self but you can think about once about what I am talking here. As I mentioned in my previous argument, There is only one relationship which can make a happy or good relationship i.e., Love. Marriage is not going to make a relationship.


By Triguna Mutuguppe Sripathi, Lead Engineer, Manipal Global Services India  | 04 08 2010 10:20:34 +0000
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Completly agree with mr amith kumar.thumps up for him!!!!


By yogeeta umesh datir, Environment Officer, GOPALAN ENTERPRISES  | 04 08 2010 08:11:48 +0000
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Indians are really excited about pre-marital sexual relationships currently, so we might be interested for live in relationships currently.  But in longterm this is wont work in India.  But the statement from Supreme Court may lead to safe sex between some couples which wont spoil health conditions.


By venkat , Manager - International Business, BLB Commodities Ltd  | 04 08 2010 07:08:43 +0000
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I personally and professionally feel that Today we all are moving towards Live-in Relationship whether knowingly or un-knowingly but we feel afraid to give it a name of "Live-in".

Let's accept the fact and not try to run away from ourselves !!!!

The Live-in Relationship is getting spread in world as you can live the way you are !!!!! In fact, the other person also don't feel bound with you and can have the freedom of thoughts and sharing of views.

I do agree with the views of Devi on this as - we should be bold enough to accept the move of the society and trends and in fact let's not hide the things from even ourselves.

 

 


By Amit Kumar, Senior Associate, Newgen Software Technologies Ltd.  | 04 08 2010 05:09:40 +0000
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I do not agree with you Devi Kaladeen. I do not believe in Marriage. According to me, If there is Marriage, there is also Divorce. Why to marry when you want to divorce? I am not telling here that all marriages leads to divorce. But all divorces are married.I believe that if you are truly in love, you will be agreeing with your partner to live life long. There is no question of leaving in between. Marriage makes people think about Husband and Wife whereas without marriage it is lovers or friends. You cannot behave in the same way like how you behave with your friends after marriage right? I have seen families who still maintain that love after marriage but it is very few. Most of the marriages (almost 85%) are living with no dreams, no happiness, no peace. Reason being ego + expectations. When you don't marry there is nothing called expectation. Do you expect things to be done from your friend? Certainly not. As you know you are independent and you have to do everything you want. Marriage makes things dependent which increases pressure and tensions. An independent human being can do good things in this world than a dependent human being. Also I am surely against people who say when you get everything before marriage then why to marry, I hate the most people in this world who cheats women/men by promising to live with them and later cheats. I am talking about only True love here which lost life long. By the way, mine is love marriage and I married to the very first girl whom I loved. Till today I do not get any such feelings even if I am very close to any girl. So it is up to you to maintain the relationship. Whether you are married or live in a relationship or in love.


By Triguna Mutuguppe Sripathi, Lead Engineer, Manipal Global Services India  | 04 07 2010 17:56:37 +0000
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I feel that a person is free to live his life in whichever way he wants. Although personally not being in favour of 'live-in' relation.. i think we should accept this upcoming trend.

 


By Jaishree , Client Servicing Manager, Aspiring Minds  | 04 06 2010 15:57:03 +0000
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I very strongly agree with Yogeeta's view point. Thanks & Thumbs up for your comment


By Veejay Bhatia, Administration Manager / Recruitment Coordinator, French Firm dealing in Oil & Gas, Dubai (UAE)  | 04 05 2010 18:40:12 +0000
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Post your arguments


By Omkar Kulkarni, Accounts Officer, Minilec(India) Pvt Ltd  | 04 04 2010 13:52:56 +0000
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Those who don't want to take responsibility & only want enjoyment in their life wants Live in relationship.
By SHRIKANT MANOHAR DANKE, Zonal Manager / Sr. Project Manager ( Civil Engineering), Kumar Properties  | 02 21 2011 11:07:47 +0000
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@Kannann Very very correct sir. you understood real indian marriage system


By rahul p rinayat, Software Developer, Geometric Solution  | 09 09 2010 07:25:53 +0000
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i do not agree with this concept because for a short pleasure u loose so many things he or she may blackmail u.the love u get in afamily is missing..stranger.. can give sexual diseases..in  society u loose ur reputation


By govind agarwal, Freelancer, Freelancer  | 04 15 2010 08:04:31 +0000
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I totally agree with Ms Devi's comment
By kushal khandeliya, Head/VP/GM -Manufacturing, M.P. Steel Febrication  | 04 11 2010 06:23:52 +0000
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I am very surprised to see someone make such a biased, unsubstantiated statement like 85% of married people are without happiness. I do not know if this is best but reflects most of what I beliive is true - http://www.husbandclothes.com/marriage-facts/.

0. Married adults at any income level were as likely, if not more likely, to report being happy than even the wealthiest unmarried adults.

1. Of first marriages that end in divorce, many end in the first 3 to 5 years.

2. About 64% of married people say they are very satisfied with the way their personal life is going, compared with 43% of singles

3. Couples who live together before marriage are less likely to stay married.

There are your facts, so you are free to conclude about a 5000 year old practice ...


By Kannan , Project Management Consultant  | 04 11 2010 03:35:44 +0000
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I am surprised people think that one can decide if one likes ones partner. It has to be realized that the only person 100% compatible with you is yourself and all else will be far far less same as you - 50% would be a miracle.  That is evolution, life and survival strategy of nature. In such conditions, the only way two people esp. man and woman can coexist as a unit is under an INITIALLY forced commitment to live together for life "for richer or poorer, in sickness and health". The real miracle comes forth 7-10 years of living together when they start fully being a single unit. Even the smallest level of casualness in this relationship will kill this miracle.


By Kannan , Project Management Consultant  | 04 11 2010 03:26:14 +0000
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Neha: Why can't that be done before getting into a relationship or marriage? Is a partner a thing or a product that can be tested and rejected if not found suitable? 


By Azhar Kazmi, Professor, King Fahd University of Petroleum & Minerals  | 04 10 2010 21:06:36 +0000
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in india live in people in society which is manage all type of matter happened in life

no need live in relationship it's required their where is not cultural available of indian

 

sanskruti all mode give in indian cultural why copy past the out of india public rule s

 

no needble to legal live in relation but it is social pollution need to stop as soon

as early in india. Indian constitution give totally freedom of speech work live easily

 

why should new pollution creat in our consititutional cultural


By bharat , Legal Consultant/Solicitor, bharatkumar lawyer  | 04 08 2010 04:37:47 +0000
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No problem Trigunga, you stick to your views and I will stick to mine. However, I am a bit puzzled about two of your statements as follows:

  •  I do not believe in Marriage.
  •  By the way, mine is love marriage and I married to the very first girl whom I loved.

By Devi Kaladeen, Audit Manager, Health Sector Development Unit  | 04 07 2010 20:03:14 +0000
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At their best, live-in relationships could be ideal where two independent beings of either gender can share conjugal bliss without any long-term commitment and be free to leave each other without bothering about any offspring that happens to come in the meantime. They can also continue to behave as romantic lovers.

At their worst, live-in relationship could be an arrangement for enjoying carnal pleasures while avoiding responsibility and commitment, a perpetual probation period where each partner can check out each other if s/he is suitable to become a life-long partner. Living together also breeds familiarity and familiarity inevitably breeds contempt. Live-in relationships is one of the products of modern life where perennial novelty is sought not only in consumer goods (that one bring home and return to the store with no questions asked) but also in conjugal partners.


By Azhar Kazmi, Professor, King Fahd University of Petroleum & Minerals  | 04 07 2010 19:52:26 +0000
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Live In Relationship is akin to prostitution! I am sorry to be using such a strong word, but given that one can have a physical and even emotional relationship without any responsibilities attached makes it no different. One can even have multiple live in relationships in parallel - there is no legal definition or obstacle! Having been married for long, I can appreciate the long road one takes to be a mutually interdependent team to develop healthy individuals for the society is a path that needs firm, unshakable commitment, that today only marriage has. It is the responsibility of the law to define each of these new relationships and their boundaries and only then can we be really for it.


By Kannan , Project Management Consultant  | 04 07 2010 16:47:31 +0000
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Why does one need a LIVEIN relationship!!!!!! Something I do not understand..... I am not 100% against that, but can a married relationship me not matured enough to be a LIVEIN relationship..... I mean why does one need to change his/her basic culture just for one's own comfort.!!!!!! And can anyone say the LIVEIN relationships are better "NON Committal" than married relationships????? Luk around..... I have seen so many relationships wherein one Partner still Latch on to other for their own benefits and needs on other in the LIVEIN.

 


By Mohanish Lohar, Propreitor, b2b Project Services - Designs & Project Management Consultants  | 04 05 2010 15:19:47 +0000
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