as a proverb says, then what is the use in wasting huge money in celebrating it? several marriages were not even celebrated their first anniversary. if u want to utilize that money go for a charity.
as in my view a simple marriage /or a court marriage will be serve the purpose.Rest they can utilize it for their future.Nobody will come forward to solve their problem/quarrels now a days divorce is a common phenomenon.
I saw peoples expend handsome money on even a invitation card, decoration ,gifts,celebration, what not?. Even one can purchase a bunglow in Nariman point with the money utilised for a politician's relatives marriage.
Is it worth?
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Bellala Gopinatha Rao, Assistant General Manager, Promax Management Consultants12 11 2008 15:47:47 +0000
It is nt necessary that u get married in lavish style.....I knw it is a very imp moment in u r life but thnk that tomm instead of lavish marriage u do simple one...... u save a lot of money whch can be useful for education of u r child or buying any new property, or many more..... so BE WISE INVEST WISE....:-) By
Manish Lalla, M.M.S student, H &GHM INSTITUTE OF MANAGEMENT
| 12 10 2010 15:07:46 +0000
Devi, Marriages in India are mostly arranged by parents and most of them last. Off late due to globalization, there is a spurt in the number of divorce cases, however that is not significant.
To arrange a marriage, there is a lot of background check done by the parents regarding the character, family background, financial background etc., There is another most important factor that is looked into...it might seem superstitious, but this is practically what is happening. The first step for any marriage arrangement is to check for the Horoscope match.
Families are closely counselled by parents and elders to sort out differences that might arise from time to time.
I think we are deviating from the topic of discussion, so let me stop.
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Rijo Stephen Cletus, Business Analyst / Consultant for IT, Hospitals and Healthcare Sector
| 11 09 2009 03:57:17 +0000
Rijo, I think your thumbs down meant you are not in favour of my comment. However, I would prefer you to say exactly what you don't like about my comment.
I do appreciate your comment about marriages last in India since I do not live in India and is not aware of the statistics of failed marriages in that country.
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Devi Kaladeen, Audit Manager, Health Sector Development Unit
| 11 09 2009 03:34:24 +0000
I don't agree to the fact that all marriages are made in heaven. In that case there should not be single case of divorce at all.
Marriage should ideally be union of hearts and minds and an oath for the entire lifetime to live together, under all odds. For the records we might declare this in public, but it is a personal contract between two individuals to live together for the rest of life.
Though this is an ideal condition, most of the world follows this.
Now celebration of a marriage has few major significance.
1. Sharing the best moment of their life with the near and dear ones.
2. A witness bearing ceremony to gather the maximum people to witness the ceremony. etc.,
Though Ideally this is what the celebrations are meant for, practically today it has got lot more significance.
3. A platform to show the degree to which one can be lavish.
4. A platform to show how the number of VVIP's they are associated with and how close they are with them. etc.,
So here is where the lavishness comes in and so according to me lavish celebrations are senseless and not required.
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Rijo Stephen Cletus, Business Analyst / Consultant for IT, Hospitals and Healthcare Sector
| 11 09 2009 02:56:26 +0000
i dont think a lavish marriage is a good one, because even though they made arrangement for a lavish marriage it may or maynot come in a fruitful manner.So there is no point in having a lavish marriage.
a marriage must be made from our heart not from outside our heart. The parents with one child or with only one daughter thinks to make her marriage a lavish one. The marriage must be to get blessing from everyone. To that i would like say one more thing that is we want to think there are many children who not even gets food for so many days. Do good to that people around your house, give them food for your daughter's marriage will enlighten her life which will be blessed by those poor people. I dont say that they dont require importance.
The amount we spend on marriage can be spend to charity which makes us feel happy in our life because marriage has value whether its a registered one or a simple marriage but more value to our life is doing good to others who wants to be satisfied.
Marriages are taking place in heaven means not in the world above us but the place where we live want to be turned in to heaven. It doesnt mean to be lavish but simple as our life. So there is no meaning in lavish marriages.
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jenny anto, MBA/PGDM student, DCSMAT BUSINESS SCHOOL
| 11 08 2009 04:00:27 +0000
Life is about celebrations........UTSAVA........Go celebrate as much as you can..........I even support the celebration of natural death after good life........
Prarthana , I support your point to an extent. None of us can predict if our marriage will last so we can't base our spending on this factor. However, we have to work towards making it a success. I will tell you a little story. I know of 2 persons who were very much in love and so they got married in a very short time. One was a news reporter ..the other weather forecaster. Unfortunately a year later, the marriage fell apart which ended in forced divorce by the male party. The female party was devastated...she did nothing wrong..she was still in love with him. The male on the other hand met another woman of another race (very aggressive type) and she was all over him..so he left his wife for her. This is just an example that your marriage can fail through no fault of yours.
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Devi Kaladeen, Audit Manager, Health Sector Development Unit
| 10 21 2009 18:45:26 +0000
A lavish wedding is definitely a status indication. At the end of it , its not the money that lasts but the bond that lasts forever.. What is the point of a lavish wedding, if it would not even last a couple of months.... Wedding should be made to last whether lavish or not..... By
Prarthana , Business Analyst
| 12 12 2008 04:34:54 +0000
Marriages are made in heaven but performed on earth , that's the reason of celebration. & may be this is the only celebration which is not going to happened again & again. By
SHRIKANT MANOHAR DANKE, Project Manager, Phadnis Infrastructur Ltd
| 12 10 2010 13:39:03 +0000
think of it this way, a lavish wedding would give employment to so many, cooks, cleaner, etc., so if you have the money and and want to spend then, why not.
a vulgur display of money power and dowry should be avoided
It being a lifetime event,one must spend as much as he can without being a pin for the bride's family.It would be easier for me to preach that but our traditions have a deep impact on us.so its kind of must for nearly everyone.Personal preference is the most important thing of this debate.Afterall you can show off only if you have it.!!
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SUMEET DIKSHIT, Real Estate Transactions & Advisory, Real Estate
| 11 08 2009 13:26:01 +0000
We can celebrate any occassions by many ways.. by spending money very much in a special occassion like marriage may be normal but it is not advisable marriage in every year????
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Reni sebastian, Assistant Engineer, State government of Keralam
| 10 22 2009 15:18:02 +0000
Well Iam also not in the favour of useless spendings but still I would post in this side because marriage is once in a lifetime so it should be made memorable. As Devi madam said, none of us is sure whether our marriages will sustain or not, I would like to tell her if Husband and Wife share the same goal in the family and have proper understanding, then the poison of divorce will never happen. Majority of divorces occur because of the introvert nature of the couples who think only of themselves and forget that marriages are done to help and support each other in all way. In India, there was never the tradition of divorce since the necessity of it never occured. Husband and wife always made adjustments with themselves and used to make each other happy. Because of this westernisation, we have forgotten our culture, became selfish and are suffering this curse of divorce... Bellala Gopinath Rao sir, answering your point, marriages are not just two genders staying together. Indian culture says they are made in heaven thus its an auspicious thing. So, I don't think merely by signing, we can give proper respect to its purity. I can understand you said this point just to avoid useless spending. I would suggest the couples can get married in temple,mosque,churches or any shrines by following customs and rituals with minimal expenditure. Not too much of showbizz or useless spendings and give a feast to the poors and beggars on the streets or celebrate with the inhabitants of some orphanage/old age homes etc. In this way, not only the purity of the marriage will be maintained but also they will get blessings of ignored parts of the society...
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Sarika Singh, Assistant Professor, BIT
| 10 22 2009 06:11:13 +0000
Marriages are not made in heaven. Some of our marriages are fixed to the whims and fancy of our parents...others make their own choice and end up regretting it for the rest of their lives...some end in divorce and some in death..who did not commit suicide end up getting killed.
Marriage ceremonies are happy and special occasions, so no big deal to spend well to make it an accasion to remember. We are happy ..our friends are happy...everyone is happy. It is our duty...the married couple to make our marriage successful.
Yes some people will say it is a waste of money...it is not...we don't get married everyday. Then again if we can afford to spend it lavish ...why not?
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Devi Kaladeen, Audit Manager, Health Sector Development Unit
| 10 21 2009 18:28:06 +0000
there was heaven even before the word marriage was coined what heavens got to do with marriage.
if indeed marriages are decided up there hen why should they be divorces down hear.
marriages were designed as our civilisation developed itself and it was found to be a better way to fight infidelity and the wars because of that. it means not now wait fo r your chance one is hooked to someone else as on date.
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sandesh saboo, Research Associate/Analyst, saboo associates
| 09 15 2009 13:43:33 +0000
it's completely an individual's choice than lavish spending, who knows they even might do some charity, as the youth are well equipped today as of what to do and what not to, if it's their elders wish that they want to have a grand affair and want all of their relatives to witness their wards tying the knot or exchanging vows in different cultures, yes it will be a grand affair and lavish, as it comes once in their life time....
something tat comes ones in a life time, emotions n feelins of which we wud like to stay 4 eternity.. is called MARRIAGE.. SO Y NOT CELEBRATE IT WITH ALL V CAN AFFORD.. ITS DEFINTLY SUMTHING 2 MAKE A HEAVY INVESTMENT ON.. By
Anudeep , Student, Collage
| 12 11 2008 16:13:38 +0000
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