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Created by : Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 18 2010 11:32:02 +0000
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Now a days "Old Age Homes" are increasing day by day in our society. In some Societies old people live with their children when they can no longer live by themselves.In other societies, the elderly live in special residences where they are looked after by professional caregivers like old age homes.


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Today people have become so busy that they are unable to spend proper time with their family and are unable to give time to their old parents who are with them. So, according to you which is better, whether old people living with their children and grand children or whether moving them to a oldage home or a special residences?? Share your thoughts on this........Which System do you think is better?

 
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I strongly feel that older people should spend rest of their lives with their children because there are some things that money can't buy especially "LOVE". Old age especially demands affection. Children are brought up by their parents since they are too young. Especially in a society to which I belong, parents are always ready for all the sacrifices they can make if demanded by life for the upbringing of their offsprings. So, if older parents are sent in some professional homes, they will not get the feeling being loved and accepted rather they would feel dejected by life. If all the members of a family live together, the unity amongst themselves will be strength and increases confidence in each of them.


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  10 18 2010 12:59:09 +0000
 
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Everybody might oppose me here for taking this side but, I don't think people have time today even to take care of their own parents, I mean they are busy running behind money and creating better future for themselves but are forgetting who provided a better future for them in the first place, and even parents at times think that they don't want to be a burden on their children and they themselves at times get registered to these oldage homes, as they are seeing whats happening infront of them and they dont want to be let down by their own kids infront of others, and also today people are not giving enough time to their parents and are unable to take care of....and with all the running behind of life and their chaos old parents at home are neglected, their basic needs at times are not met and when they fall sick they hesitate to spend money. Than looking at all of this it is better for them to go for an old age home than struggling in their own home being neglected by their own kids, this should not happen but it is happening. And at their age they need proper caring on all fronts, so it is better for them to stay in Old age homes than living with their own kids and being neglected which they don't deserve in the first place.


By Disha Roy, Lecturer, St Xaviers College  10 18 2010 13:27:20 +0000
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it is preferable if possible and the children are willing to look after you. in case the children are not favourable then it is preferred to live in a good old age home who can take care of of you till your death. but the people who do not have their children then the preference is to live in old age home only
By Onkar Datt Sharma, Manager (Technical), Retired  | 11 25 2013 13:53:52 +0000
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now a days our Indian society is intensely influenced by the western world.. & we have become obsessed with money so that we are gradually losing our morality.
its time  to realise that Aged parents are like children. & we should take care of them...
finally i wanna  say 1 thing that
WHATEVER WE GIVE IN THE PRESENT ONLY WE WILL GET IN THE FUTURE....!!!
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love ua parents and treat them as ua childrens....!!!
so that you will get that same love and caring in last days of ua lifes..!!!


By Srikanth Sunny, Pursuing Graduation student, Vidya Jyothi Instute of Technology  | 11 25 2013 10:39:18 +0000
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old people are big support for the family. bcz they are our base and having better experinces den new age people. and bcz old age people we r kwn in the society.and they r the strength of the family. so don't let dem to old age home keep them in family bcz in this age they need family support and care.......
By Rashmi Chaudhary, B.Arch student, dignity college of architecture  | 02 25 2013 13:36:26 +0000
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OLD AGE IS BUNDLE OF EXPERIENCES FOR ALL CULTURE WHICH MOSTLY NEED BY NEXT GENERATION TO KEEP SOCIETY RUN IN CALM AND ROUTING WAY.OOD AGG
By LAXMAN KESHWALA, Freelancer, Telecom/ISP  | 01 05 2013 18:55:57 +0000
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well according to me everyone has right to live with their family happily ..... to days people are  trying to avoid their responsibility ... they think old parents are only burden...there is no use of them...but i think if you got saperate by your old parents ..send them old age home.. then you are the next one who will suffer the same problem....


By Riya Bhati, B.B.A student, Institute of Technology & Management,Gurgaon  | 07 22 2011 16:18:11 +0000
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Thanks for invite Disha, 

Can not agree with your view even with best effort. Did our parents think the same way when they spared time, attention and energy for us? The answer is no.

If our parents could find time for us, surely we as well, can think the same way both for our children and parents. Provide quality time as also while we need to pay back even if it is at the cost of a few promotions less in job or making less money in other vocations. Being competitive was very much known to our parents as well and so was the rat-race, yet if they avoided we must appreciate that gesture.

Of course few from "Rat-race" may realize of this  being a differentiating factors to be called Human.

 


By Ravindra Sharma, Managing Consultant, CHEF-India  | 07 06 2011 10:48:02 +0000
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Now i am doing research related to the effectiveness of interactive session on quality of life amond elderly in old age home. when I am doing intervention, I really found their sadness and hoplessness. I cant able to support peoples who send mothers to old age home-sthomas4u@gmail.com
By Thomaskutty Puthuparambil, Pursuing PG student, Sri Ramachandra Medical College & Research Institute, Chennai  | 07 04 2011 04:49:17 +0000
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Dear Rasla,

Appreciate that you would like to thank for participation.

Please do not mind if I drw your thoughts on the expression "HAI"- In English it is meaningless and in Hindi it is equivalent of expression of sorrow. While Hey is mild arrogant address for known juniors.

Thanks for patience.


By Ravindra Sharma, Managing Consultant, CHEF-India  | 12 21 2010 04:46:13 +0000
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Hey Rathin Deb......Really thanks for your replay with your strong comment........You selected Opposite Side ("Live in special residences: Old Age Homes")that made me confussed.......
I hope u will continue your valuable participation into my contributions.....


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 11 02 2010 06:28:59 +0000
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Rasala, if you have understood me correctly, I am saying the same thing that how can children forget those days and send their parents to Old Age Home? Am I clear now Rasala?


By Rathin Deb, Advisor and retail consultant, currently as Branch Manager, Tower Infotech Ltd  | 11 02 2010 05:29:10 +0000
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Hey Rathin Deb, Thanks for participating this debate......But i am not agreeing with your point of view.....In my opinion Parents make great sacrifices for the care of their children. Day after day, parents protect their children from danger, attend to their cries, and reassure them after a bad dream. Parents give up necessities for their children everyday....But when the children grown up and if they reach better postion in the society, they are forgetting their own parents......I cant able to undersatnd, how they(children) can forget their past life?????how they can avoid their own parents in their life????Is it Good?????


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 11 02 2010 05:12:38 +0000
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Hi Jaygopal, Thank for participating this debate.......i am agreeing with your comment....how much we grown also, we should not forget our past.....Life...(child time)


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 11 02 2010 05:00:52 +0000
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Hey Rakeshbhatnagar, i am 100% agreeing with your point of view. I am really thanking you for your positive comment..........


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 11 02 2010 04:57:20 +0000
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First of all I would like to tell you that it's shamefull that we have to discuss this matter as we are forgetting our culture which tell us that mother father are god in the world . I agree with your views that parents must be kept with us if required we can keep servent to tocare for them in our absence and after coming from work we can spend some time with them .This much will keep them happy . 


By rakeshbhatnagar , GM Projects., wig brothers india pvt.ltd.  | 11 01 2010 15:59:26 +0000
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Of course it is always better to live with your children and grand children. It potrays the cosiness and warmth of a joint family. But one needs to analyse whether in reality that is the case. In todays world each one of us require their own private space, so given that situation, do we need a joint famliy set-up. Having said that, there is nothing against a joint family set-up. Even in such a family one can create their own space and not lose out on the overall aspect. That is why i voted for that.

But having said that, it differs from situation to situation. If you are in a situation which does not call for such a co-habitation policy, then it is always better to live in your own free residence without the attendant problems and botherations. In fact this is something that all parents from our generation onwards start practicing.

Live in your own residence once, the kids have grown up and settled down. That way not only do you end up with your own private space but also manage to keep the respect in tact. Getting together on occasions make it all the more merrier. But one has to decide on their own terms and situations and not follow an empirical formula.


By Jaygopal Raghavan, Marketing Manager, Landmark Group  | 10 30 2010 17:18:49 +0000
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Hey Natteraja, Thanks for participating this debate......I am really agreeing with your point of view.................


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 26 2010 05:09:44 +0000
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Thanks for the referral Ms.Disha.

But I support the views posted from this sides.

Our parents are taking too many difficulties or we can say they are sacrificing for the welfare of their children. Hence it should not be the right thing to leave them in the oldage homes. It is the duty of every one to keep their old age parents with  them and should be taken care by their children. In case the old age parents are left in the homes by you, which will be watched by your own children and tomorrow you will meet the same thing by your children.


By NATTERAJA R. ARIKRISHNAN, GM-Projects, Bentec Electricals & Electronics Pvt. Ltd  | 10 25 2010 19:07:22 +0000
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Hey Ravindra Sharma...........Thanks for the correction.............I am happy that you have participated in my debate. I hope u will continue your valuable participation into my contributions.....


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 23 2010 06:25:11 +0000
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Hai chandra shekhar......I ddnt get your view completely...............Which side you are supporting,,,,,,,,


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 22 2010 12:26:54 +0000
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Hai Ravindra Sharma.....thanks for participating this debate and for your positive comments....Really i am agreeing with your point.We all know world is keeps on changing and we are also moving accordingly, At the same time we are "Struggling For Our Existences......in this competitive World, But how much we are struggling also we should not forget our loved parents............


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 22 2010 12:19:54 +0000
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People who are in this side, have to wait and see...


By Chandra shekhar, Technical Writer/Quality Assurance, CMMI 3 Software Company, Hyderabad  | 10 22 2010 09:00:21 +0000
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Hai Sajo, I am really thanking you for a very Positive Comment...Really i am agreeing with your views.....


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 22 2010 07:04:45 +0000
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Whether elderly people should live with their children and grandchildren or in retirement homes depends on their personal choice and the circumstances in which they have been living till then.I personally feel elderly people must live with their children and grand children.
The chief reason for my view is old people are like infants who need constant care and attention.Most of them have some or the other medical conditions which may require assistance from people around.Some people may or may not be financially sound to live in retirement homes.Above all,it is the primary duty of the children to take care of their parents at such an age For example,In India most of the parents live with their children in their older age.This develops bond between different generations and bridges the gap between them.Younger generation can learn a lot from the older generation where as older generation can  know about the progress which the newer generations are making. Moreover living with the family creates a sense of security and warmth which might be lacking in any other type of residences.Finally,living with the family would be a better option.


By sajo jose, Content Engineer  | 10 22 2010 06:57:38 +0000
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Hey Piyush.......Thanks For sharing.........Its Really Heart Touching.......


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 22 2010 05:39:59 +0000
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this link is for those who cant find the embeded video posted by me

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o6L2B_6U37g

 

 

its worth a watch and for video like this every one can spend 3 minutes from there life,it is strongly recommended to all of you


By Piyush Asthana, Sr. Business Analyst. , TCS  | 10 21 2010 12:48:34 +0000
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Hai Nishant........thanks for your comment. i Feel really Your point of view is exactly Correct. Now a days people are loosing their moral values of life........Day by day Becoming "Selfish", Only focusing their career & Money Cultivation......


By TooStep Team, Consultant, TooStep  | 10 21 2010 05:42:51 +0000
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I am amazed that there do exist some argument in support of an old age home! Children and grandchildren are their possessions by that age. I appeal children who feel annoyed or helpless in helping their parents during their difficult times, to please retrospect and understand that parents never complained for all the troubles which their children caused to them. They loved it and lived with it!
By Nishant Bhushan, PG Diploma student, Siva Sivani Institute of Management  | 10 20 2010 13:55:54 +0000
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Hai Kaliyamoorthy, You are trying to fix Your view was correct. I think People favoring old age homes justify their decisions with several points Like You.They say that the presence of old parents at home is too much trouble. There is no room for privacy. They have to constantly tend to them when they are sick. Bringing friends home becomes embarrassing. Going on a holiday becomes an impossible reality. Hmmmmmm..... really So many problems just to have elderly parents around!

But all justifications fall flat when we realize that the old parents we are talking about as ‘problems’ are the very people who took care of us whenever we fell sick. These people sacrificed outings, friends and vacations only to make us feel happy, wanted and part of the family. They did not ponder much about lack of privacy whenever we barged into their romantic rendezvous. They did it all for Us! Is this how we pay back? By dumping them in old age homes? i know Okay, times have changed. Now, both parents might have to work to run the home. Maybe, we don’t want to miss out on our promotions. After all, the money from that promotion will also be used to give parents a ‘better old age home!!’ And now-a-days, old age homes are all spruced up like hotels with all facilities including medicine and entertainment readily available. Fine, but pray tell me, if we have the time to party, if we have the time to watch television can we not find a little time for our parents at home? Is it too much to ask for? Old age homes may provide all material requirements but surely, we are wise enough( or are we?!) to understand that an old age home cannot fill in the vacuum of love and affection that only a family can provide. Even if we call them every other day, can the phone call fulfill the anticipations and expectation that a parent has to meet his/her son or/and daughter???????????????


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 20 2010 09:12:12 +0000
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Hai kaliyamoorthy, really thanks for participating the debate. But i am not agreeing with your point. The 1st and formost thing we should not forget about our culture & Family.Family plays a significant role in the Indian culture. For generations, India has had a prevailing tradition of the joint family system. It is a system under which extended members of a family – parents, children, the children’s spouses and their offspring, etc. – live together. Usually, the eldest male member is the head in the joint Indian family system. He makes all important decisions and rules, and other family members abide by them.


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 20 2010 06:27:20 +0000
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Hai Bipin, I am not at all agreeing with your view. we are not living in western countries. we all belongs to beautiful land"INDIA".India is blessed with rich culture and heritage. We should not forget that culture of India is one of the oldest cultures in the world.By seeing our culture World's will salute us if we carry our culture accordingly.


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 20 2010 05:59:58 +0000
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Yes.....piyush. really it will be a big insult to our parents.


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 20 2010 05:53:18 +0000
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Hai Ravishankar, Thanks for your comment


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 20 2010 05:52:11 +0000
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I completely agree with u sir.It is definitely an insult of parents


By Piyush Asthana, Sr. Business Analyst. , TCS  | 10 19 2010 16:00:20 +0000
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At your old age its better to be with your near and dear ones, since they understand you very well and at the same time lonliness wont bite you..


By Ravishankar , M.Sc student, M.S. Ramaiah College Of Science, Bangalore  | 10 19 2010 13:21:44 +0000
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Hai Onkar datt Sharma, I am very happy about your comments.I think its necessary for youngsters to create a good envirnoment for elders and take care of them - its a responsibility that has to be shared by every family. We cannot expect old age homes and government to take care of our parents. What if tommorw the same situation happens to us...... then we will realize the importance of belonging and caring.
In western world too there are elderly homes, but very few go there though they too have similar problems. Beyond a point old age homes will saturate....they cannot provide facilities for our ever growing population. Imagine what will happen if half of the people in their 30's and 40's go to old age homes in the after 20 years. Many will close down.
Ofcourse old age home is a facility for extreme cases and where such facility is needed....... its not a dumping ground for youngsters to dump their parents.


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 19 2010 10:56:41 +0000
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Hai L.D Maharajan, Thanks for Participating this debate. But i am not agreeing with your comment. Even though we are living in modern World, we should remember 1 thing thats nothing but because of our parents gave us better education, food, shellter etc . Thats why we all are in a better postion now. if they didnt provide anything then what will happen to our life????????


By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 19 2010 10:53:40 +0000
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Mr. Piyush u copied insight posted by Mr. Anand.

R U?


By SHRIKANT MANOHAR DANKE, Zonal Manager / Sr. Project Manager ( Civil Engineering), Kumar Properties  | 10 19 2010 09:46:35 +0000
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Hai SHRIKANT MANOHAR DANKE, I am really thankful about your comment.
By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 19 2010 06:19:52 +0000
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Hai Soumendra Nath Singha, I am not agreeing with your point of view dear friend. When teenagers will come to their parent's age then they will came to know the real play.
By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 19 2010 06:10:40 +0000
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Hai Rajeev N.Bhatt, I am feeling very happy by seeing your comment. I am 100% agreeing with your point of view
By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 19 2010 06:07:42 +0000
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Hai Haresh Khushaalni, Thank you for your comment.I think you know now a days Children are being more sensitive to their wives and own children. Thats why they are neglecting their own parents.
By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 19 2010 06:04:33 +0000
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Hai Ravindra Sharma, Thanks for Your Valuable Comment.
By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 19 2010 06:00:28 +0000
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Hello naveen gomes, really heart touching comment.I think what your friends father said was absolutely Correct. thanks for your valuable comment
By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 19 2010 05:43:27 +0000
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Hai Piyush Asthana,Thanks for your Valuable Comments.Really Its too bad on our part that we are thinking in such a manner we are also going to be aged and if our children's do this to us what will be our feeling we should honor them as for age as well as for their experience and what they have done we cannot return in any terms.
By Rasla.MB , Senior Associate, Genpact  | 10 19 2010 05:37:12 +0000
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Given the values enshrined in our culture for eons, the concept of old people's home is an insult. It should be restricted purely to those old people who are issueless and prefer to end their days with dignity. 

For those who have children I dont understand why old people's home should even be considered. Grandchildren brought up in the presense of grandparents grow up in a strong, reliable, secure environment that empowers them with proper family values and self confidence.


By RAMESH KANDADAI, Principal Consultant, ARM Consultants  | 10 19 2010 04:24:52 +0000
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I prefer that father and mother should live with their children in old age .Bec in old age they require more attention like small babby,when we are young/small they give us full attention and provide full support inspite of there regular service/business. Then why should the live in special residences in old age.
By Haresh Khushaalni, premier agent advisor, Max New York Life  | 10 19 2010 02:42:11 +0000
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Come on friend , I am telling you a little story " one day my friend's father made a little mistake then my friend shout on them.. his father replied , son , when you were small (child) you made lot of errors but i never rebuked on you , you did several mistake but i always tried to show you good manner to do that task. but today , when i am getting sick , my memory and body is not supporting me , you are not doing the same as what i did in past for you . Friends they are treasure for us, with lot of experience of life, with lot of love, with lot of honor . don’t loo se you wealth , they are root of your life , without root , you will not be strong and steady .
By naveen gomes, Network Admin/System Admin, om infotech pvt. ltd  | 10 19 2010 01:48:19 +0000
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I can't even think about sending my parent to such homes. They raised us beyond their means and just because they are old can't leave them in an old age home. It is disgusting to even think about this
By Rajeev N.Bhatt, Equity Trader, self employed  | 10 18 2010 17:15:43 +0000
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I believe that they should live in family and with family.I believe that whatever we do we do it for our family.If we can manage our small kids who also want special care why not our parents.We dont send them to some other kid care center then why there is problem with parents.If one can afford them to old age home then it could also be managed, care and attention could also be provided at our home by arranging some professionals who will come to home and take care of them.Definitely it cost higher but I think they deserve it.They don't need money,they need family and want to die in front of there loved one rather than some unknown professional.

We should understand that no matter how high we rise in our life but we are in life because of them and we should help them to get the LOVE,RESPECT that they deserve. Here I want to post something that i recently gone through.

Today I'm sharing something that is very close to us & also very true. We all go through this ...plz read through...

At 4 Years
My daddy is great.

At 6 Years
My daddy knows everybody.

At 10 Years
My daddy is good but is short tempered

At 12 Years
My daddy was very nice to me when I was young.

At 14 Years
My daddy is getting fastidious.

At 16 Years
My daddy is not in line with the current times.

At 18 Years
My daddy is becoming increasingly cranky.

At 20 Years
Oh! It’s becoming difficult to tolerate daddy. Wonder how Mother puts up
with him.

At 25 Years
Daddy is objecting to everything.

At 30 Years
it’s becoming difficult to manage my son. I was so scared of my father
when I was young.

At 40 Years
Daddy brought me up with so much discipline. Even I should do the same.

At 45 Years
I am baffled as to how my daddy brought us up.

At 50 Years
My daddy faced so many hardships to bring us up. I am unable to manage
A Single son.

At 55 Years
My daddy was so far sighted and planned so many things for us. He is
one of his kind and unique.

At 60 Years
My daddy is great.

Thus, it took 56 years to complete the cycle and come back to the 1st. Stage.

Realize the true value of your parents before it’s too late.........................

Bye the way I want to thank the owner of this debate and to Disha.who gave me an opportunity to take part in this debate


By Piyush Asthana, Sr. Business Analyst. , TCS  | 10 18 2010 14:56:03 +0000
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I will go with Disha. Days has changed, for the better future people should go out side the home and build his carrier. But he/she should not forget his/her perents. Aleast he can give a call per day.
By Soumendra Nath Singha, Software Test Engineer, WIPRO  | 10 18 2010 14:39:45 +0000
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What I think is... The core reason of this situation is our cultural values are being challenged by two things - 1) Mixture of other cultures in our culture which has a history of 10000 year old values & 2) The eventual change in the definition of FREEDOM.

We are so happy to announce if we are pregnant but we are so uncertain about what are we gonna tell our kids when they ask us questions about life becoming so risking and uncertain. We measure our relations based on cost-of-living. Rich people have the option of casting their folks away into Old-Age-Homes; middle-class & poor class people fight all the time due to constant misunderstandings.

If we had to retain our cultural values, old people wouldn't have become extra-members in our houses. What I mean is, in western culture we learn that kids have to move out of the house when they start earning their own bread-n-butter. Taking that into consideration we usually determine our point of view looking at culture shifting its shape, poising its inclination, accepting new ways of learning life. Indirectly we start terming that, learning from the experience of our grannies & grand-pas ain’t as fruitful as burning our own hands to be prudent in the bitter world of ours.

So if I don’t know what is the role of my grandma or my grandpa in my life I start looking at them as some grown up people who await death or who are totally jobless being nosy in our lives.

The reason why I support Old Age Homes is because at-least they get their peace & tranquillity in there, above all get more chance to befriend more people. If not get more than two shoulders to cry on, instead of longing for, their own, which never seem to be to possibility.


By Mark Rénfro, Freelancer, Radio, TV & Films  | 12 20 2010 08:39:50 +0000
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No Disha you are on right side being practical and I am in total agreement with you on the subject.

What pains me is the children forget one day they will also be sent to some other old age home. They knowingly side step the hard facts in order to earn more and live a hassle free life. this is probably addiction towards money.


By Rathin Deb, Advisor and retail consultant, currently as Branch Manager, Tower Infotech Ltd  | 10 29 2010 15:43:25 +0000
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people here have personal experience....


By Chandra shekhar, Technical Writer/Quality Assurance, CMMI 3 Software Company, Hyderabad  | 10 22 2010 09:01:54 +0000
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Hey Rasla,

What I mentioned here, is that, there are aberrations. Mean to say that people living in extrovert conditions. It is not necessary that every one need to follow a cultural things. Certain abnormal conditions , normally , that people will have is highlighted in my argument. They may be cultural but, beyond their reach, they may be forced to live helpless. When these numbers goes high among population we have, no other go, but to find a possible & acceptable solution. A few conditions people will face is highlighted there. That's all.


By KALIYAMOORTHY , PHSEM, CTCI Corporation  | 10 20 2010 07:31:45 +0000
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I already told in my comment that I had gone through a good article recently.I thought that this article has its relevance here so i copied the last part this is mainly for those people who missed that article.

 


By Piyush Asthana, Sr. Business Analyst. , TCS  | 10 19 2010 15:58:44 +0000
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Its good to have concern for elders at Old Age.But, there two many things harping on my mind:-

  • When husband & wife both works & no one available at home,then it makes Elders insecure & need someone's attention from outside- may be at the expense of small money.
  • When everything available at home,and if the Elders prefer to stay away from them for the reasons known to them. In such cases, old age home helps them.
  • A culture develop in mind between the parents that living in Old age is good then, it is unavoidable.
  • Old Age Home is also becoming a business that motivates them to live in that.

It is not necessary that, Old age home increasing , means that, ELDERS ARE LEFT AGOG.


By KALIYAMOORTHY , PHSEM, CTCI Corporation  | 10 19 2010 15:45:57 +0000
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According to view, I support "Old Age Homes" because the question is analysed from the moral point of view, we can say that it would be very wrong on children's part if they send their parents to old age homes. butthe idea of old age homes need not be looked down upon as detestable. because today many old people prefer such hermitages where they can socialize with people of their age and have a good time. sometimes they become a necessity.


By Bipin Lal, B.Tech/B.E. student  | 10 19 2010 12:39:10 +0000
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The present day life is so busy that even if the children want to take care of their parents during old age  they would find it very difficult and they have to compromise on their career and also their comfort. In spite of that even if they try their best and cope up or do not complain, elders will find it difficult because the children may provide the facilities but can definitely not spare the time for parents to the extent the parents want it.

When the children have to go for urgent work, if there is  a  need  for medical help there would be a serious problem. Theycan neither leave the parents nor attend. If they have to provide nursing in the house, still the parents feel that children have not done adequately.

Instead of that it is better if the old people stay in old age home, they get facilities, and also suitable company. Some other youngsters who are fond of doing service and those who can spare their time for voluntary service can give them company.Their children can periodically visit, depending on the time they can spare  for meeting the parents.

Hence, parents should accept the reality and live in old age home, preferably without grumbling.Children need not feel guilty that they did not take care of the parents. It does not mean that they do not love the parents.


By V V N Bhaskararao, Chief Technical Officer, Viaton Energy Pvt Ltd  | 10 19 2010 11:56:02 +0000
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Now a days young people have no time to take care and spend life with their grand parents. The older people, better to spend their respectful life living with their own agemates, sharing their common ideas,interest and life style.
By L. D. Maharjan, Senior Nursing Supervisor, Tribhuvan University Teaching Hospital (TUTH), Maharajgunj  | 10 19 2010 08:57:58 +0000
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In todays life I agree with this argument. I am also a senior citizen and wants a respectful life for myself and my wife but looking at the life style of today's young families, practically it is not possible for the children to properly look after their parents, but a majority of the children likes that their parents are properly looked after and a proper essential services are required to be provided to them. Their has to be an arrangement supported by both ie children and government so that both share the responsibility of their parents. One more thing is necessary that the grand children are also allowed to spend some useful time with their grad parents. The Govt must vcome forward to start such a healthy practice shared by the children of old people.


By Onkar Datt Sharma, Manager (Technical), Retired  | 10 18 2010 17:42:34 +0000
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