Prove your potency before marriage

No harm in making this mandatory if the majority would like to have it. But I am not sure if this will succeed as our culture is one of envy, deceit, laziness and muscle power. So, it is the core culture that has to change.

To avoid infertility , cheating , no cohabitation allegations also to avoid cheating allegations of having affected due to AIDS it should be made compulsory to have preventive checks ups, then comes doctors whose tests should be virgin.

Potency? Rather I'd be in favor of a comprehensive medical examination of both persons going to be married that could test for life-threatening diseases like AIDS and cancer as well as sexually-transmittable diseases. 

Even when I first read about it, it created only a favorable impression in my mind. Though the medical certificates can also go wrong, that would be only exception, not the rule. Even now at the proposal stage these doubts do bother both sides. If there is a legal framework, it would become a regular process. Prevention is better than cure. Both sides should appreciate that the whole exercise is for common good and cooperate. This may not solve all the problems but I am sure it would certainly be helpful, once the people accept it as a matter of routine.

whats wrong in it, it is good for both, those who are able and others, to know facts is no sin...

Hello Devi Madam,

Is marriage all about sex and children?

Yes, this is the main reason why couples culminate their lives in divorce. Then why should he/she ask compensation if he or she knows that the marriage is not all about sex and children. To be honest here everything is happening sex before marriage, after marriage even secret love all bull shits everywhere.

Few countries have adapted only few elements from western country where STD's are more and growing drastically and human race started to diminish

WHY NOT..........???

Yes its necessary. One should know about himself/herself.

There is lot of discussion going on whether there should be Potency test before marriage.

  I agree that there should be Potency test before marriage.

 I also feel that there should be Psychological test for both the partners before marriage. Some girls are very desperate to get married because of their past misdemeanor. They think, once marriage takes place she can continue doing the things that she used to do before marriage. They bring hell down for their husband because they know the law is more women pro. Because of aggressive behavior or nagging of female spouse in the bed room, there is possibility of male loosing his erection and interest in sex.

 Whatever is said above applies to male partner as well. But male is more vulnerable, because he is the performer. He has to get erection, retain it for long time enough to bring pleasure to the woman partner.

 Psychological test and Gynecological test before marriage will ensure that all things are in right place.

 There is no problem in having sex before marriage. But once marriage takes place, both the partners should be committed to each other and raise a beautiful family. Kids are gods. They bring so much happiness to the family, which, no amount of money can bring.

 Sex brings pleasure; this is nature’s wonderful gift for animals. If there is no pleaser no body, in this material world, would have gone for sex. This is how world groves.

Even though it knows there is risk for its life, male spider does not stop having sex with female spider. We should throw more light on this. Most of the male animals need to fight with the competitors, to have sex with female. This is how world groves stronger.

 But what about human being, can any body answer? Is he also animal? What about physically not so strong intellectuals?

I heard that, as per "the Kama Sutra", there are four types of women in the world. I also heard that the book explains who should get married to what type of woman. Can any body put more light on this?

Yeah manoramha has point here ! no matter what wrong with groom it is the bride which is to blame in our country. this will change that.But again it remains to be seen As we all know India has one of the best laws in the world but implementation of them is all to gather a another ball game

absolutely right

I agree with the author's point of view but there should not be any kind of fertility test .... As because the base of marriage should not be set up on the basis of fertility test...

'PREVENTION IS BETTER THAN CURE' Yes definitely there should be law for "BODY SCANE" before getting marriage so that one can live smooth & healthy life. Now young couple are becoming aware regarding these types of diseases & they go for test of their body before getting marriage. It is only way to prevent the disease like HIV. Govt is taking initiatives by advertising regarding the same in public to prevent it. But Govt itself cant prevent it, we should help them in these types of campaign by testing of body of him/herself & his/her partner's. 

This may reduce divorce cases....

ENACT A LAW :: INSERT IN THE MARRIAGE LAW/CONSTITUTION :: IMPLEMENT IT IF WE CAN

It is right to go on such type, as  the family matters shall be resolved well in advance, so as to say that there shall be no evidence for the couple to prove that any more in the court of law

Neatly done Yash!! I would have suggested this to be posted in a Q&A rather than a debate. Nobody in their right senses would even look at the other side!! Thanks for the referral! :)

Awesome topic and it is very important right now and how to set this up as an rule right away? Cos this would helps us to move off from HIV/AIDS and also from divorces which is happening drastically these days. This will break the chains of astro stupidity and other useless rituals.

Unquestionably, its a wanted change, desperately needed and I better not waste a single minute to fully second our veteran Manorma, for a great thought, in deed!!

Anything which brings in certainty, belief and also can stamp out ignorance or a deliberate fraud MUST be accepted acknowledged with open arms, by all.

Fine job done Yash Singh.

This is a good start according to me, and it will help couples who will be going for arranged marriages and the person might not tell the truth to avoid embarrassment and this will create problems in future, by default this should come from the couples who are getting arranged marriage, as sandesh has said it will not be making that difference as people who know a person for a very long time will be knowing what he or she is. so this will help in huge way to stop building relations on false terms and will help the spread of HIV, i firmly believe that because people didn't go for these tests earlier is the cause of its spread the way it is now, with this kind of mutual understanding it will help the cause, and from the law point why not, when we have leagalized homosexuality, why not make these tests compulosory.

is this the only way to control hiv.

is marriage all about potency and hiv.

 people s get married to those having hiv knowing fully well.

why marriage should be linked to such a step.the problem arises outside the marriage system.so it has to be controled outside the marriage system.

what the link with marriage and pootency...many people stay on go ahead and adopt a child.

marriage is a agreement to stay together life long in pain and in gain.dukh mai aur sukh mai.

Ablsolutetly right. Also, such tests should be done and certificate issued free of cost by all Government hospitals.

Its a very good step. It will indeed help in controlling HIV up to a lot extent...

Yes Yash, I am fully agree with you. If there is a confidence building between those than what is the issue. Its a great prevention technique for AIDS.