Will "Living together and Pre-marital sex" create better bonded families?

i will definitely  go with Ur words Paul sir...

I would like to know how many of my elderly friends would feel the same way as Mr. Bhave's views, if you can imagine for a bizarre moment, that our only daughter whom we brought up with so much love and care; happens to go away and live with half a dozen boy friends in turn as a pre-marital trial phase and end up with few abortions, deadly diseases and thrown on to the street with some father less kids ??  

Every fundamental right has many sides and price attached to it, the sober ones stick to the  side that make sense to themselves and to those  who love and care about them.  Will we not be failing in our responsibility if we are unable to appropriately convey these in a proper way to our children?? May be I am a little old fashined, but this is my view and it had served me well in my life.   

As per Indian culture the concept of pre marital sex an live  in relationship is  a taboo

But thsi country has eveolved with time and has also aped the wets, so I do nto see any issue in thsi topic being dicussed here on this platform

It depends on the people who are for it, they are well aware of the implications

So the answer may differ some may say no and some may support

I am against as I do not belive in aping the west blindly

It amazes me that topic of this nature is being discussed on this platform. My perception of Indians are that they are all very respected, disciplined and well cultured people. As a young girl growing up I use to think it was one hell of a religious country but I have grown up since to realise how wrong I was and India is just like any other country. Sometimes topic like these make me feel some what embarrassed to participate in.

"Family" is the basic "Social Unit".Since ,Living together for Pre-marital sex doesn't constitute "Social Unit",how it can create better bonded family?

I dont have much words to say, burt I agree....

At the outset allow me to state that the following is strictly my personal opinion and I do not disagree with any one who does not agree with my point of view. Not being a hypocrite, I submit to the view that many (including me) would have yearned for pre-marital sex which some have exercised restraint, some dared in the open while others kept it their own private secret. The line separating extreme affection and sexual desire between two genders is too thin. For normal humans; mind is a very timid thing, the natural emotions going through it are sometimes very impulsive and uncontrolled and momentarily oblivious to external obligations of life. That is why our grandparents advised us to beware long close lone proximity, even with very close relatives of opposite sex.

One may question the sanctity of the border line of the marriage, to get license to have sex. If the couple can have sexual activity in the nuptial night, what is wrong in doing it the night before because there is no legal law forbidding it.  

Further, if consensual sex of a girl of 18 years and above is OK according to law, what is the big wrong in emotionally involving in sex of a girl of age 17 years and 364 days and so on. Looking at it, here also we find the lines between the rights and wrongs are too thin. If the line is trespassed, then it becomes nothing wrong in consensual sex of 90 year old male with a 9 year old girl who is somehow emotionally attached with him at that point of time.

It means that for the up keep of healthy social set up, it is necessary to accept and abide certain strictures of law as well as the social practices that are found healthy for the society for generations. For those who advocate that "Living together as friends without sex is good, I would like them to see again the film "My Friends Wedding", to see how the emotions play its role in actual life. Often I heard my wife telling our adolescent daughter to "always keep in mind that if thorn falls on the leaf or leaf falls on the thorn, the damage is always for the leaf"