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Started by : ANAND M, Freelancer, Human Resources (HR) Consulting   03 17 2011 05:36:46 +0000
Industry : Radio, TV & Films
Activity:  38 views;  last activity : 10 05 2011 05:00:58 +0000

A 11 year old girl commited suicide in mumbai as her mother read her personal dairy and came to know about her feelings about a boy in her class. The mother confronted her daughter and went to meet the principle of the school, whihc mad ethat girl kill herself!
Times are changing and we need to be more sensitive towards the children.
The hormonal changes today are faster than what they used to be. Here the sensitive level of parents too need to be changed.
May the little girls soul rest in peace. We would not talk or hype this matter here.
What I need to know is how to be more supportive to your children in this changing time?

 
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6 Co-ordination and Keep on Monitor
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8 Be Carefullllll
idea posted by ANAND M Freelancer, Human Resources (HR) Consulting

Make a point to talk to them. Talk to them about relationship and values. Don't frighten them. Instead explain them that how to tackel these changes and tell them that as the time will pass their feelings too will.

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Good one! Thanks Mr.Anand.........only way to bring their emotions out by talking to them friendly rather than making a mess .Take them to nice place treat them with what they want to eat and start sharing your own experience or other's experience which is close to the matter..........so that they can get the confidence to open up their emotion in front of u .listen patiently give them full room and space to express to understand their involvement and not immediately ,but slowly take them on the journey of realization what is correct and what is not ,not directly but only with examples of others a causal talk the process will make them to take decision on their own. What is correct? What is not? it’s by understanding the changes can be brought into them not by sudden action hurting their feelings, yes as a parent, it may be difficult task. We have to take measures for their future.

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Anand thank you very much for the raising a issue which is common and very sensitive to each of us. This problem has been there for time. And it will remain there. The only thing which we can think to resolve the issue is to talk ya talk as much as you can. don't let the child feel neglected. Yes here the amount and time is crucial. So make it a daily affair. Make it your routine. Talk to child on all the aspects of life and a person. Try and make him/her your friend. Though it is easier said than done. But an honest effort is all that you are required to make. See the result is not in your hands but making an effort will atleast relinquish you of the guilt that you might aspire in the event of any mishappening. No I am not saying that in the event of mishappening you can move around and say I tried my best look what can anybody do of this. No. I am talking of the emotional part only. Because with the child the emotions also come in. What is going to happen will happen but an honest effort on your part is the only thing that is required of you.

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I fully agree with you .Only one to one talk & boosting their morale is the only way to deal with this situation.

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Try to be a friend...

idea posted by Jaygopal Raghavan Marketing Manager, Landmark Group
and not act like a parent. Remember this is the age of the rebellious due to the advancement on all fronts in society. Be a friend and talk it out with them. You will be amazed to learn a lot about them this way.
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by MS_Pi , Top Management, Confidential  | 10 05 2011 05:00:58 +0000

There is a proverb in Sanskrit "to treat your son - after 16 years - as a friend" The sooner you treat your son as a man,the sooner he will be one.

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coaching

idea posted by S. Muralidharan Executive Director, Knowledge Foundation & Campus Around the Corner
Coaching, and not coercing, is the best method to handle them. They should be treated as friends and share both the sides, allowing them to distill the wisdom that best suits the situation and condition. If you enhance their comprehension, then their rebellious attitude towards parents would change.
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idea posted by Himanshu Joshi Regional Manager, INCS
The parents need to participate in the growth of the children. At the same time be conscious of the fact that they need to grow out of their times when issues of liberty were taboo in their times. The parents have to become friends. Must know the difference between being harsh and being firm. Inculcating good values among their children all through the formative stages and explaining the meaning of relationships at various levels is a must. The talk on Sex, love as well as love making (in the present context), the necessity or not of having boy or girl friends, and the limits of exposure to such relation ships must be discussed with growing children. The kids are fairly well aware today and would understand their parents better. On of the cuff suggestion, that DTH services should have the facility to pick and choose TV channels so that the subscriber parents can exercise some influence as to which TV serials could be viewd intheir homes. There are a host of channels and shows which depict family relations in very poor light and in a horrible mix of the unimaginable. Unfortunately the channels come as a bundled package. In homes where girls are growing up, the mothers have a real tough job to do. But I remember reading an article onthe net where the author suggested 1000 days of patient conduct with a pre teen or a tenage girl. I do subscribe to that view. It takes about a 1000 days for a teenaged girl to transform into her mother's friend. The mother has to be willing, and the father supportive. Great debate. Thanx for the invite and warm regards.
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Cut Source of Funds

idea posted by V. Srinivas Freelancer, Information Technology
Only way any organisation/human being can be brought to heel is by cutting source of funds. It worked for nations. It works for human beings also. They are getting an un-reasonable amount of pocket-money. More perhaps than the initial salary that most of us started out with. Cut this dowm if he cannot respond to normal requests.
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Co-ordination and Keep on Monitor

idea posted by JAGADEESAN S Project Leader/Managing Consultant, Project Consultant
This is very fine and most modern world can make better relationship with parents and their kids
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Be careful

idea posted by Santosh Kumar Mohanty Civil Engineer-Municipal, Sambalpur University
We are the friends and enemy of ourselves. Sometimes, we damage a lot due to erratic behavior and relationship. Today, we are more sensitive and reactive to any small issues. Parents need to be careful for themselves as well as for their kids.
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idea posted by Rafi Network Engineer, 3i-Infotech Ltd
Mr Mohanty: I am agree with your thought..these people has been involved in so many thing and not able to give some moment of life to understand each other weather its relative or other. just make them into hue& cry..i just say give some space to individual life.
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