How to push your kids, without pushing them over the edge?

The basic tendency is that every parent expects an ideal child like their dream and often frustrated when they found any thing below their expectations. The parents should understand that no body is 100% perfect and should behave accordingly. They play double standard while teaching morals to the children and create confusion in theory and practical. Please try to make them simple, truthful and sacrificing in attitude for a better future. 

yes i do agree with diya children are god gifted no one should hurt then let them do their own just show the actual path to follow and make them understand that parents are always with them and with care.

Childhood is golden period in ones life - time passes by in a flash - we are in January 2010 already we are nearing completion of one month in 2010 - it seems that it was just yesterday that we celebrated the new year.

The first thing that one should realize that let the child be a child, she has the whole life behind her to tackle but a childhood once gone is gone forever. Let her enjoy her childhood, be inquisitive, discover the nuances of what we call is life and the nature around it.

The irony around us is we tend to put a lot of pressure on our child - because we want her to accomplish the ambitions that we could not achieve - I wanted to be doctor - but could not become one, that does not mean I will put pressure on my child to achieve what I could not achieve.

Every child is special she comes to this world with a skill set that is unique to her which no one can copy. Let her be what she is, she will develop her own interests and chart her destiny, we should be there to support her and guide her so that she reaches her goal without any problems.

So as a parent one should be aware of what are their kids likings and interests that can be nurtured to the fullest. The child will love and enjoy her life because she will be in the career that she loves and she is interested in. 

I agree with Mr Ashoka, that most of the people are not intelligent or matured  enough to break the tradition of following a rat race. They follow the majority around them and find it risky if they do not follow/copy them. Most of the parents dream to make their kids an IITian or a CA or an IIM, ignoring the interest of their children, who are forced to follow the dreams of their parents, without their own interest, resulting excessive mental stress throughout their life, because what they do can not make them happy.

Majoriry of parents are unintelligent and push them to their surrounding trends or what is regular practice of education. Nurturing nad honing talent of each individual

is must and better for everybody, who will identify the kids talent, is our education is supportive? Is our parents are awAre of talent, ways to nurture them and earning potential? some body couseller/ NGO should step in.

If we review the gerations  IQ it is increasing generation to generation. Our IQ is far improved from our ancestors. so next and the forthcoming IQ improvement will be amazing. Our academic system can give some baseline of those particular subject and actual growth is happening from the individual\s  awareness , creativity and determination. Developing a person's personality is influenced by lot of external aspects.

Our main concern is to mould our kids with all our incurred knowlegde like the spiritual power of our  culture, natural or cosmic theories ,which will develop the personality and confidence to attain a perfect individual in the social community.

Balance may be the key in such a situation. Balance between too high and too low expectations from the children. Children need direction and supervision yet they also need the freedom to express themselves and do things their own way. They'll certainly falter and get up again. Support and trust can play critical roles.

Now a days, children are very talented and their observe power very high. Each one has different skills. So we should understand what they are and trust them. we will give full hope to them to find out their goal and make them realise to achieve the goal in right manner.

Mr.Russell your correct and I agree with what you said. But in India parents are more conscious of their children, and they try to impose their opinions into them. This affects the children and at one stage they feel it as torture and take wrong decision. So parents should leave their children free and just keep an eye whether the environment around them support what they are doing.  

I do not take the advice of Pink Floyd literally and do not believe "I should leave my kids alone." It is our responsibility to provide a safe and ultimately secure environment for them to experiment, explore and develop who they are but with the benefit of our wisdom and intelligence. My three children know i do have expectations of them. That I would like them to be passionate about what is important to them and that they should establish their values in life and be true to those values. It is true I try not to impose my passion and my values onto them other than I want them to choose their own.

Yes, as parents we need to encourage them to do what they would like to do. Provide them a proper value system to abide. This will make the kids to thing out of the box and look at new opportunities.

Also, Indian Govt. needs to change its approach in providing education. Education does not mean reading English or Hindi or a local language, but it is all about knowing your rights as Indian, your country - its history and its glory. When this is embedded into the little brains (not in the form of mugging but in the form of digesting), I am sure India will be a real Super Power by 2020. We can stand on our own and truly help the nations which are in need.