How to Strike balance between Ego and Confident?

In my opinion we should have strong self control because any time we can cross the line. I have taken this idea from the Movie Gajni where Amir Khan Said that There is a very thin line between Ego and Confident which is like this," I can do it is Confident" and " Only I can do it" is Ego". So I want to know how to balance this situation, Please provide your ideas.

Maintain a Balanced Ego. Never let it out of control.

Ego comes from the mind's perception of one’s own self in comparison with the outside. At times, one may think –  “I am the best in the world !!”, etc. At other times he/she may think “Oh darn it, I am the worst person in this world. How did I end up in this mess”, etc. Both are EGO at its extreme. Hence one has to maintain a balance and check when ego goes out of balance. Ego statements are something like – “Only I can do this; nobody else can”, etc. Ego is only ME.

Confidence arises from within. A person, confident of doing a thing, does not compare himself/herself critically with others. He / she just studies or learns the methods adopted by others who did the same thing before him and tries to follow the same method (sometimes putting his own creative ideas to the method). After studying, he / she gets a feeling that they would also be able to achieve the same result and if they put their full effort into it they might be able to better the result. Confidence is “me too” or "I can also".

If you ask many achievers who reached the peak, they would tell you that they had confidence in self as well as confidence in god. This is very important. EGO stands for “Edging God Out”.

A confident person gets the to get up and try again after repeated failures - That is real confidence. In over confidence, the person would give up easily after one failure. 

You cannot have strong self control unless you are able to weigh the pros & cons of the views of your critics & opponents.

You cannot also be true to yourself if you are not able to justifiably stand amongst your critics providing answers to the criticism of your critics and opponents.

So, both self control and being true to yourself can be achieved only if you are able to win opposition. Thus, you can strike balance between ego and confidence only if you are able to stand firm justifying logically your views and decisions and are not compelled to back out in anyway.

If you try to take firm stand in spite of staunch opposition, but without proper justification, you are egoistic. On the other hand, if the opposition to your views and decisions is mostly satisfied and fiddles out with your logic, you are confident in yourself.

JPC demand of the opposition in Parliament for 2G spectrum is a live example of egoism of the ruling party, where PM has neither been able to justify his decision to decline the demand, nor have been able to take a firm stand any more for long.

Consider that you are not yourself for a moment and you are Mr. Max or Ms. Mini.

Now think: Can Mr. Max or Ms. Mini spend a wonderful dinner night with you for an hour in a beautiful place without getting bored, without feeling dominated and without regrets?

If yes, then your ego and confidence have found their right places!

If not, then either of these is true:

1) What you think is confidence has gone overboard to become your dominant Ego.

OR

2) Your confidence levels are pretty low and you might be into "Self pitying" (most of the times unknowingly!)

There is a thin line between being Confident and Ego-centric! And this fact can only be understood by what people around you think about you.

Nice debate! Will refer! Thanks for inviting @Namrata!