Suicidal tendencies Increasing among youth

A person feels stressed out due to many reasons and one important reason is due to depression, and among youths its mainly due to peer pressure and exam stress, even we have all been through varying levels of exam stress in our lives. While some stress is desirable for motivating us to do well in our exams, being too stressed out only reverses our productivity and interferes with our performance.

Amazingly, there are some that will fake a suicide attempt to gain attention, this is termed a suicidal gesture. No suicide attempt should be ignored though, it must be viewed as a desperate cry for help. Either way, it is a wake up call for their friends, family, and significant others. These people feel so hopeless and depressed that they want to end their lives. Most of the time, they are not strong enough and do not have the willpower to do so. For some, the only reason they don't kill themselves, is because they do not want to hurt those they leave behind that love them. You have to remember though, with every attempt, they become that much closer in succeeding the next time. They need help and they need it now, because tomorrow will be very late.....

So as a parent please do not force your kids to achieve unachievable things, understand where his good at and let him do that, the current education system is such that they give only importance to the book knowledge and not the talent that kid posseses and even parents put similar pressure, and in the end unable to handle pressure and depression one attempts for suicide....

I think, in todays times there has been Immense Opportunities of Growth & Fame through various Competitions.

But one thing we need to understand as Parents& Elders that apart from Success, Failure is also a part of life. And every failure churns out a better Individual out of us.

The very first thing what today's parent do is COMPARING their child with others child. I Swear....  i feel this is the worst thing they do with their child and make them realize how low they are. Yes, if they do by comparing with others and tell how ahead they are from others, then that would be gr8!! But no, they always compare those talents which they are bad at. No one tries to realize what good talent is there in their child and encourage them to intensify that talent. I feel a child should be realized his talent and be encouraged to gain more depth of the same in which he feels the world is existing..... Thank you, Manish N

Cheers!!

Thank you Darshanaji for raising such relevant topics.I feel that one of the main causes of Depression and eventual suicides is THE INABILITY TO IDENTIFY ALTERNATIVES.Suppose the 12year child you talked about,at that stage everything is connected to studies,his friends circle,his school,his parents,his teachers infact his very life would have appeared to have depended upon it.Once he failed,he would have found himself staring into darkness with no hope for the future.But in real life is it that only the most highly educated are successful?No.Teachers and parents need to realize this themselves and tell this to students that education only builds people,it is not everything.There are fantastic opportunities available that dont need an M.B.A or doctorate,and students should not feel depressed if they are not good at it.            The same applies to other aspects of life too,people continue to suffer in bad jobs or broken relationships and when the inevitable happens,they commit suicide.I believe that AS LONG AS A PERSON IS HEALTHY,HE SHOULD NOT LOSE HIS SELF ESTEEM.HE SHOULD BELIEVE THAT HE CAN AND WILL DO GOOD TO OTHERS AND ONLY GOOD THINGS WILL HAPPEN TO THEM.               

I think counseling would we of a great help in these cases.

In most of the suicidal case,it is seen that parents are over expected from their child.Whatever the things they could'nt able to achieve in their lifetime,they want their child to accomplish it.Which in turn get them into so much of pressure.They become feared with their parents.May some of them are not good in that particular side which their parents are expecting to do,which makes them feel of total failure and this subsequently compell them to commit suiside.

To grow in any way, we need competition. But anything in excess brings a bad result. Youth, today are in fierce competition to excel comparatively more in negative accomplishments, than the positive ones. A healthy introspection of one's own abilities, skills has become a necessity to choose the competition. Its observed that leadership in any path is a choice. And to lead, you have to know the pros and cons, although one cannot be a master of everything. In a competitive and open world today, competition is also your choice. We have to choose competition according to our own capabilities and skills. Mere copying the success is not the solution. I personally feel, that todays youth lacks patience, persistence and a clear vision to accomplish things. Most of them depends on a series of sparkling success through media which makes them impatient to reach their dream goals as soon as possible. As very well said by Dr.APJ KALAM, a dream is not that you see while you sleep, but a dream is something which doesnt let you sleep. But it is applicable if you focus on only one dream at atime. Todays youth seems to be focussing on multiple dreams at one time and that is resulting in frustration, jealousy, unhealthy relations,crimes and extreme cases of suicide.

Desire to be wealthy through wrong ways is the most dangerous symptom of homicide which involves fake affairs with opposite sex  too. 

I think, in todays age of information, proper managment of information is the key to avert suicides in youth.

In my view, Parents, Mentors, home atmosphere, Religious teachings(all religions teach humanity basically), Professional guidance and care for society, proper ethical practices are the keys to save tomorrows youth  from adapting destructive paths.

let me have other perspectives

THANKs

Mohammed

communicating with individuals to understand their resilience levels and gradually increase ability to cope. This cannot happen only in work situation but also should begin with parents, teachers and others who interact with individuals

Most of the suicides are associated with introvert and self-absorbed behavior. The more intense the sharing of information at home with the dear ones, the more is the level of confidence. Let it be children or parents. Cultivating an atmosphere of open communication assumes importance not only at workplace. The difference between the two situations lies in the time when the need for open communication is identified & started. At workplace, people can be intermittently trained to communicate so as to bridge the official information gaps, whereas at home it should start at the childhood age. This culture is carried forward in a person’s life cycle, which he demonstrates throughout each phase of his life. The impact of being the prisoner of one’s own feelings is much different in a workplace and home!

i strongly feel dat we shudn even care bt those kids who suicided.@ d age of 18 or 15 what do they noe about life? they r cmpletely unaware bt what life is ... as a teenager i strongly feeell dieng is not a solution for anyting .... am jus concerned bt dose parents whose children had died..

my friends life is a god gift to each one of us....we are here to enjoy it..we face hapiness and dificulties side by side......when we are hapy..no one sees our sadness behind of it...but they accept our smile...and they participate in that....when a person fails somewhere he gets shocked because each n every one is afraid of that but u should know that u r one step near to ur success by ur failure...u enjoy more n more when u have to overcome more more challenges..this is life...face the challenges and get through them dont just demoralize urself that u cant do anything...each n every one in this world is haviing somee goood and bad qualities in itself...rise ur good ones ...not ur bad ones by commiting suicides...kyoki. buudy kuch pane k liye kuch karke to dikhana padega...do more and more hardwork..and then success is there for ur way..to welcome u..thanx

How far and since how long is a 18 and a 15 year student running this race of life? Life! what do they know about it. Suicide! what do they know about it and how did they get this Idea at this age? Success, Failure, competition, who teaches them all this? or they learn by themselves? the ans is no they don't know anything at that age. We teach them. They are forced to enter the competition. And when they are not interested they are been compared with other students. The feeling is as insecure as you and me must have experienced at least once in the whole life time when our Girlfriend/Boyfriend or the people whom we love the most is actually praising some 1 else. Moreover we are also compared for no reason. every 1 has 1 unique quality in them. No 1 is dumb or no 1 has a 0 IQ. Every 1 excels in some or the other field. The only thing we need is time to realize our line of interest. Students should never be forced but they should themselves enter the competition.

                      Considering the fact that some students are very stubborn and notorious but if they are guided properly their own nature will lead them to success. Especially parents should take care of this. We should stop grading students on the basis of their marks in Math and Science. No 1 scores highest in all the subjects. The same way we cant run on every race course.

What student are doing is because of low thinking.Let Them know they are descendant of ARYA SANSKRIT. Arya never gives up Hi fights with even death .They are able to defeat it. Then How can small problem make them frustrate. This is the only solution nothing can work out better than this

Sadly i should say either in our system of education or at home we teach very less to the youth regarding the life, its importance, purpose of life, values and other moral education to empower our youth, today, the youth is not able to face a small failure or difficulty which drags them to commit suicide which they think is an answer for their problem in question, but let me put it, the suicide is not at all a solution for problems of any magnitude under the sun!!

good content dear, thanks for referral,

More important for parents to know the interest and capability of their child.Because if a person choose  career in his/her field, he/she will certainly do better.

I would suggest to teach young people to reapect for life, in all its expressiona, and especially their own lives. Show them that all of us have a mission to complete, a reason we come to life. And alway remind them that they are not real failures, there is always an opportunity to come back and succed.

If the young people commit suicide it is because adults have not been able to provide them with a life with values like the one we receive from pass generations.

Darshana, very good topic and all the suggestions contributed are worthwhile. I hope and pray that We Walk the Talk.