Why people can't come out of an Abusive Relationship?

The main sufferers of separating couples are their children. Without the shelter of both mother and father often children become dipressed or violent from childhood. They grow up different from other children of their age. In short, their growth gets effected a lot by their separated parents. This is the reason that prevents parents from getting separated

It is not easy for a person to come out of any difficult circumstances. The circumstances can affect a person's way of thinking. As a result, that person may not see such an easy solution to the problem as the other around him or her do.

"Why can't people come out of an abusive relationship?"

Chances are you are looking as a third person at someone else's problem. Let them solve the problem. You cannot understand the intensity of the problem faced by someone else.

Everything happens at the right time. When a person develops the necessary strength to either tolerate or to walk out of such a situation, the problem will vanish.

I know that a lot of my young friends will not appreciate what I am saying but they will realize when they develop the needed maturity.

The person facing abuse has parents who make her feel that she can't leave her abusive husband, no matter what. And her other relatives keep faulting her for her husband's abuse, and may keep telling her that the phase would pass when the husband starts changing his behaviour or when she learns to please her husband. And if the abuse runs deep in the in-laws family then the sister-in-law etc may tell the abused women that such abusive behaviour is normal on the part of the husband.

Often the women has been taught to underestimate herself even if she has passed through college so she feels she cannot fend for herself financially and cannot deal with the blame that her parents and relatives will put on her.

Weak and egoistic persons appear to have a tendency to overdo in trying to assert. It is in many cases seen getting misused as against the maturity and restraint of other partner. The process to correction is rather slow and requires a lot of patience to bring to draw realisation of truth yet some do succeed.

On the other hand a one-up-man attitude whenever adopted by both partners invariably can lead to quick solution that, albeit may not lasting or satisfying. 

Many couples find themselves in abusive relationships basically for two reasons-one, is the pressure from stone age thinking of in-laws and the second from their own personal egos.In the first instance, if the girl comes from a wealthy family and the boy is from a relatively poor family, there is a tendency on the part of the girl to dominate on many issues due to the egging from her parents-this leads to marital disharmony and abusive relationships.

In another way, ego problems in a tight family situation such as meeting financial commitments/children's education and even petty issues gives rise to ego from either side - something which needs to have been solved in mutual and amiable environment turns into a ego hotbed and ends in many cases of abusive relationships.

Therefore,  to a bonding relationship, it is necessary for both to create an environment of love and understanding which will a ideal platform for solving many personal problems. Both should cultivate a habit of understanding and respect which will be away from all other considerations like status/wealth etc.

I believe that, not mainly for a male dominated society does 'abusive relationship' increase - Abusive relationships are the results of either side's mistakes in understanding a problem.

Why such an orthodox woris being used for relation. One should be permitted for with due respnsibility.  All settled values for an ideal life re good if the match is correct, normally which do not.