Why there is an increased rate of divorces among the youth?

If we sit down and think logically, then there are several reasons that can be cited behind the alarming rise in the divorce rates. Like for example, financial freedom of today's Indian women (as most of them are working women)is the first most reason, then there is also greater acceptance of divorced daughters by their families in urban areas, professional rivalry between husband and wife, the loneliness associated with nuclear families which is on the rise, and the increasing number of double income no kids; couples who do not have any fear related to how the divorce is going to affect their children will all contribute to this rise in divorce rate among the youth. I am not just pointing fingers here at women, but then it has also got to do with the attitude of young couple's who get into relationship before knowing the complexities of it, this is where the problem is according to me.

The root cause of all problems is Expectations!! If you have understood each other.. and got married.. there must be a space to explore new opportunities in life rather than expecting the other to do just as you thought!!

The higher the expectations/ desires, the more frequent the divorce is likely.

Few even learn to have multiple marriages from movies and serials... that also adds to it..!!

Many youths rush into marriage for all the wrong reasons:

Selfishness: quite simply, any relationship is one of give and take. In a marriage if both partners want what is best for their partner over and above what they want for themselves then there won't be bitter arguments and conflict. It's when we insist on having our own way that problems arise.

Lack of Communication: when something is bothering you in your marriage then clamming up and shutting the other person out will cause that concern to fester and grow. Your imagination might run completely wild until you've worked yourself up into an angry accusing state - which will certainly lead to more arguments. If you talk about your concerns before they become massive, and if you can talk openly and honestly with each other, then most problems can be sorted out quite amicably.

Lack of shared values and goals: if you got married in the heat of romance and lust then you are unlikely to have really explored each other's values and goals. Once the initial honeymoon period is over reality kicks in. The differences can be quite fundamental, perhaps you want children and your spouse doesn't, or vice versa. If you want different things from your marriage then you are likely to be disappointed and disappointing. It's vital to discuss these sorts of issues before you decide to get married. Is this really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? While a broken engagement hurts it is far better than the hurt, acrimony and unpleasantness that could be caused by a divorce several years down the track.

I feel that one major reason is the lack of empathy and dedication besides unwillingness to make compromises. Marriage like any other human relationship thrives on mutual understanding, effective communication, spending quality time together as well as remaining attractive to your spouse.

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Today, women are no longer tied down by thoughts like 'What will happen to me after divorce?', 'How will I manage?', 'I need a man in my life!'

These are a thing of the past - today's women are confident, self-reliant and independant. Women don't have to stick in a loveless marriage with a non-understanding partner the same way that a man doesn't have to think about leaving his wife defenseless if he chooses to opt for divorce.

Both partners are mature, independant and take decisions which are mutually acceptable rather than live out their whole life in misery. I think that divorces which happen because of incompatibility are better for everyone concerned.

Of course, there are divorces which are hastily taken, which are based on ego-play and immaturity and just two words of advice to these folks - Grow up!

For any disagreement to loose control on itself and reach a point of no return, the single most important reason is EGO.

It is Ego alone that prevents return to sensible point of being able to weigh with logic and reason, others point.

Nowadays the patience level in the youngsters has decreased and they are not ready to hear a word agaist themseles or their seld ego. As deu to higher education people have become aware about lots happening around thier surroundings and thier financial freedom makes thier dependency on thier partners less and they try to negotiate among thier partners which is not at all workable in personal life.

Living with your partner is not a partnership deed that if you dont fulfill some criteria's the cotract is null and void as it is in partnership deed in business. LIfe is not a businessand should not be treated like one.

Just take an example of our parents and their self ego and patience level. Even they face problems in certain casesand have fights among some issues but they do not reach to solution of divorce rather they try and solve it out among each other by discussing the issue and keeping aside thier self ego's. It's the way lie works out not the way we youngsters are doing "hire and fire" style's.

By the way me being a bachelor is not a proper person to comment on but those are my views about  the higher cases of divorce these days

The social stigma on divorce is less than what is used to be. Changing partners is a part of the growth process, whether it happens before marriage, or after that. This generation has tasted multiple relationships before marriage, and hence, does not see a change as a catastrophe. Yes, the children can be a major factor in influencing the decision to stay together. But, people do work out arrangements, where the children are in touch with both parents on a daily basis.

Professional and financial concerns have gained more importance in the priority list.

However, convenience does not justify the trend. There is considerable effort put in to sustain the second or third marriages. The same effort invested in the first marriage could have easily saved it.

So far people beleived and practice a system where girls duty is at home produce children, cook food for the family and look after boys parents. In summary Girl is ment to be a servant. The So called kundali matching only aims at that. Slowly brave girls took custody of their husbands in their hands and made him dance to their tunes. Many girl parents terminated their prgnincy if they come to know that they are going to have a girl child mainly because girl will eventually will desrt them after marriage (Paraya Dhan).  Situation now is differant Girls compete with boys in every field and finaciallyindipendant. They know their duty to their parents particuarly when they dont have brothers who can take care of parents.

The main cause of divorce is this social problem. We need to change our customs and rewrite shastras to suite the modern world. Unless we do that divorces are going to continue 

Traditionally Marriages held because they had to. No matter what happens people had to live with his/her life partner through out their life. I still know a lot of people who believe that. Added to that, our culture gives a lot of importance to men, which meant its women who often gave everything up. Women became the one who will go away soon, other house property, political tactic between families and lots of other stuffs.

But in recent times women have started to gain financial freedom. This freedom has allowed women to choose a life other than give everything up and stay with the men. This freedom has come after a lot of work by many people from both sexes and is really good. For the first time in the nation women want certain things from their men.

At present our culture is also very mixed, many families still put importance to men. Now when marriage happens between a man, who expects his wife to throw away her life and a women, who expects her husband to support her in her carrier. Things go aloof. I don't believe divorces happen because they behave childish or if they have extra martial relations. Most of the time after divorce both the husband and wife will spend a lot of time alone before they marry again. This cultural differences will disappear with generations, though the divorces will reach a even alarming rate in the near future.

The meaning of marriage has changed from "The jail we have to live in" to "Lets live happily together". 

There is also a even bigger problem with Asia, low cost labour. This is very generic to all Asian nations where increasingly high number of Asians dont want to marry because their job is too demanding. People in growing companies often work 7 days and 80+ hrs a week. This stuff is also one of the reasons for divorce.

Its simple as that,,, the person whom we don't like we cannot love him,,,, still geting arranged marriage or jus to get marry with a person whom we jus have an affection ,,,it comes to a divorce, which very common,, so instead of fooling yourself that i love my partner a lot it doesn't bring any respect for eachother,,, true thing is,, to marry, to like n then to love somone is important,,,

Infatuation & personal ego seems to be prevailing over love & mutual respect...

husband = hunter

wife = f-16

no tcp/ip communication protoclo available

result :: crash ....divorce ...

Expectation from the partner...for happiness or fulfilment.

If the question is that why youth get separated then off course....and what do you expect that grandpas will get separated?

Well jokes apart (I have to tell that I was joking else nobody will laugh). In olden days the relationship of husband and wife, especially in joint families, was very different. The husband had to visit her wife secretly. There was negligible living together. It was true upto my grand parents and partially in my parents generation. So separation or divorce was out of very concept. You must be knowing that there is no pure Hindi word for Divorce or Talak (unless created after independence).

Hence that time and this time can not be compared.

I think today marraige has become like a formality type.

There is lack of maturity among younger ones. Before marriage they think dream and keep flying. but aftr one-2 years itself big-bang starts. Either small arguments or money related issues or extra martial affairs. 

In case Both men and women work, hectic hours in office, mental strain, again when they are back home the same strain they show in terms of their words towards each other.

I think they never have cool, calm and patient feelings towards each other. 

Every one has their own way of thinking.On a particular topic, couples want heir say in it and they dont want to compromise on any thing.This creates a distance in every further discusion as they related it to the last argument.

In present days both Husband and wife are working.This leads to less of communication due to fatigue/pressure of work at each ones place.This along with economic independence leads to lack of understanding and appriciating each others stresses which eventually results into seperation.

In the current world with demanding work life and considering both Husband & Wife are working it becomes very difficult to get the balancing act between the Job & Family. Couples do not get enough quality time together. Moreover, seems everybody is stretching their limits, most of the time, which leads to stressful days and then a small misunderstanding could turn out to be the cause of divorce.

The problem comes to certain  set of people  who either doesn't know to live with others or unable to adjust with others particularly at home front.  The same will either ready to anything for business or money making.  when comes to home they are too selfish and doesn't want to live for others.  As long as this attitude persist, there will be increase in the divorce senarios !

If people start living for others and they will definetly enjoy it for ever !   

i think the rate of divorce increase due to the lack of understanding the couples have between them .Some times the expectation of the girls in a marriage is much different from that of guys.Few even happen since they can  not adjust with any of the family. The newly wedded girls normally are not ready to accept teh guys family as their own .

Yeah, the divorce in India is increasing alarmingly.  In the golden days of our parents, there is only one earning member i.e. predominantly it is the male.  In the changing economic scenario, both the wife and husband are forced to do earn.  This has given the financial independence. Female of this era with the financial independence, they are looking at the relationship in the financial direction only.  Life is full of compromise.  But none of these two are ready to compromise.  The influence of western culture is  one other cause.  The single parenthood, living together without any bond and not sticking to one partner are some imported cultures becoming a part of culture.  Our culture is at cross roads with these tendencies