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By : Nilesh Roy, Service Delivery Manager - IT Infrastructure, Capgemini Consulting India Pvt. Ltd.
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One fine day, Vivek's PL Bhatia asks him whether he has any time for a small meeting. Vivek obviously has time and so the two go to a conference room. Bhatia then clears his throat and says "Vivek, there is an on-site requirement. It is in Covina, Los Angeles. It is for six months. I can suggest your name. Do you have any problems?"
 
Vivek cannot believe his ears. Of course why should any one have problems going to the Sam land. "Of course no Bhatia.. I have no problems." he says.
 
Bhatia looks at him very kindly and says "You better draw up your personal plans with your wife and let me know in a day or two" That's when Vivek remembers that he has a wife. Then it strikes him that there is a himalayan problem in front of him. Shobana is working in Wipro. She is in the middle of a project in which she is a module leader. She cannot leave it all and come to Covina with Vivek. On the other hand it will be cruel on Vivek's part to leave her here and go to Covina for more than half a year. Moreover, they have just been married. Vivek can stay back. But one day he has to go..
 
He cannot stay back in India indefinitely. Project requirements are too demanding. Shobana can resign Wipro and accompany Vivek. But what is the guarantee that she would find such a nice job in such a nice company after they come back from Covina? So Shobana and Vivek discuss this issue. They reluctantly agree to get separated for six months.
 
Vivek hugs Shobana in the airport and says "I will be BACK" in a typical Arnold Scharzegger tone and then boards Delta Airways leaving Shobana in tears. In Covina Vivek gets lots of work and his stay gets extended by two more months. The days and months move very slowly. Vivek starts counting even minutes.
 
During this period, Shobana's PL Ashish Mehta calls her one day and asks her whether she has any time for a small meeting. Shobana wonders what that meeting is.. They go to the conference room and Mehta tells her about a great on-site requirement in Berlin, Germany for their customer.
 
"It is for six months and you are most suited person for this. I am going to suggest your name. Do you have any problems?" Mehta asks her.
 
Shobana gets excited.. Berlin! She has never been out of India. So she instantly nods her head. Mehta then smiles and says "Okay discuss with your hubby and let me know in a day or two"
 
That's when Shobana gets the gravity of the situation. It will be two months before Vivek can come home..... By the time Shobana will have left to Berlin for six months. Shobana cannot decline this as this is an important assignment. That night Vivek spends hundred dollars on telephone to discuss this matter with Shobana. Finally they decide to go ahead. Shobana breaks down in the phone and Vivek breaks down thinking about his phone bill. And then Shobana leaves to Berlin.
 
One month after that, Vivek comes back to India. Then Shobana calls him almost everyday and they discuss about all petty things on the phone.
 
Shobana applies for a loan to clear her telephone bills. Vivek gets into a new project which is not yet started. His PL Prateek Ray calls him one day and says that he has to go to Toledo Ohio for the requirement analysis of that project. Vivek frantically says no. Shobana is arriving next month. He doesn't want to miss her. But Ray assures him that the work is only for one month and that he would be back before Shobana comes to India. Thus Vivek flies to Toledo Ohio and gets into the requirement analysis of the new project.
 
That's when he comes to know how difficult it is to retrieve information from the users. You can design a system the user wants only when the user knows what he wants. Vivek gets baffled by the questions his users put..
 
"Do you think I need those fields "GMG_TYPE_HJHJ_TW" and "Auto_level_ind"? What are they by the way?" The requirements analysis stage continues for three full months at this pace. Shobana comes to India one month after that. And she tells her PL that she doesn't want anymore on-site assignments. "I understand" says Mehta and she desperately waits for Vivek to come back to India. It has already been two months over a year since they last met. Vivek then gets the role of an on-site coordinator for this customer. He calls Shobana that night and they really don't know what to do. Shobana offers to resign her job and join him in Toledo. But she is getting 21 grand per month in India and Vivek doesn't want to lose that. "Two more months Shobana and I promise I will be back" Shobana retorts back, "There is no solution for this problem." Vivek gets surprised. "What are you talking about?" he asks her. Shobana fights back her tears. "As long as I am in Wipro I will be getting a lot of on-site opportunities. Even if I decline all of them, what about you? You also work for a software company and there you need to go abroad almost once every quarter.
 
I cannot accompany you as you don't want me to resign my job here. Does that mean we have to stay like this forever? Vivek! I love you and I don't know how I spent fifteen months without even seeing you once. I may not recognize you also if you come in front of me now... Tell me Vivek, is there a solution for this problem?" Vivek doesn't speak anything for a moment. He then realizes the truth in her sentences. It is a never ending problem. But what about the 20 grand she is getting per month?
 
"Vivek, is money everything? Can't we comfortably live with what you are getting? Please Vivek, try to understand the situation" Shobana breaks down. Vivek is still undecided. He married a software engineer with a hope that with two incomes he would have a good deal of money to plan their future. "Let us face the reality, Vivek" Shobana says, "How much are you paying for the phone calls now? More than 20 grand per month.
 
If I am with you there will your phone bill be so astronomical? Just tell me one thing. Won't you be happy having me there with you?" Shobana slowly turns hysterical. Vivek gets into the crux of the situation. It is true.
 
He has been spending around 600 to 700 dollars per month on India calls... that is far more than what Shobana is getting then. He thinks and thinks.. for two days he does nothing else but thinking. Finally he decides that he should have Shobana with him all the time from then onwards at any cost.
 
Shobana gladly prepares the resignation letter and submits it. Her PL smiles and says "You've made the right decision Shobana..
 
Congratulations for the bold step. I understand your problems.
 
Anyway! You have a three months notice period here, right? We have a one month assignment in Singapore..."
 
MORAL: No software professional should marry another software professional ... unless one of them is ready to resign.
 Top Comment : Jai Prakash   | 08 26 2008 01:08:42 +0000
Thought provoking story. Family or Career (Money) - what should be preferred? It is a million dollars question. Ultimately, it is sacrifice and devotions for each other that makes family life happy. Money is required for good and decent living but every thing should not measured in money terms.
 
23 comments on ":: A Story about Onsite...! ::"
  Commented by  Subrahmanyam, Technical Lead, Verizon Data Services    | 08 25 2010 22:01:35 +0000
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I agree with you totally. 
  Commented by  Rabirashmi Ghosh, Development Manager, Knowledge Adventure    | 06 01 2009 08:58:48 +0000
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The root cause is the fact that the exchange rate between dollar (or euro, pound whatever) and rupee makes going onsite an attractive proposition. It is often viewed as an incentive by the Indian software professional. What people fail to realize is that all the money earned will not have any significance if the family life is non existent. Software professionals in India  still earn a decent pay packet in general and can lead a comfortable life if they spend wisely. Sacrificing family life is not necessary at all just to earn more money. 

That said, there are certain situations where an onsite assignment cannot be refused because of professional commitment. It just makes sense to plan better and refuse where the family life is at jeopardy.
  Commented by  Mihir Jhaveri, PMP, CSCM, Oracle Supply Chain Management Head, Bristlecone India    | 06 01 2009 05:26:04 +0000
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Thought provoking story. In todays business world, the small nuclear family needs to decide the priorities, lifestyle and how they plan to achieve their dreams fulfillment. It also depends on sacrifice, devotions, objectives. Because for each one the case is different, we do not know the history of the same, many of my friends and their spouse are working due to family fianacials constraints and obligation and few for better life style. 
Personally believe it should be a joint discion of the couples how they want to shape up.
  Commented by  BEENA AGARWAL, Head/VP/GM-Corporate Planning/Strategy, ANADI HI TECH AGRO PVT LTD    | 04 08 2009 09:09:54 +0000
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Oh its great and real happening and not juast a story.It happens in everyones life where both are software engineers.I also know such couples.They love each other badly but same situation arises always.Life is becoming really tough in sense of relationship.Money has become a great role.We in India know and feel the meaning of marraige.....even we have to suffer emotionally!! as there is no way out always.
  Commented by  Anirban Bhattacharya, Team Leader -(Technical), Navayuga Infotech    | 04 04 2009 16:18:31 +0000
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Family or Career? Yes, this is undoubtedly the biggest dilemma. Family is where happiness, peace belong. Money means affluence, power to get all? If family is tranquility, money is the eternal temptation. It depends on individual to decide which one to select, but I know whatever decision he/she takes, the decision making process always becomes very hard. Only who has passed through this phase can only understand it.
  Commented by  Deepali Gulati, Sales/BD Manager, Nvish Solutions Pvt. Ltd    | 04 04 2009 07:29:57 +0000
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It is a true story of any couple working for software companies and that too on such projects which have onsite requirements. Ultimately Family matters a lot. You should know your priorities in life and its easy to take decision. Also, our life has different chapters and every chapter has its own importance, so live every chapter of life 100% so that you should not regret later on.
  Commented by  Radhakrishna Marar, Business Analyst, Oracle    | 04 04 2009 06:38:27 +0000
Mr. Nilesh a very true story.I also know a couple who has the same problem and ultimately one of them has to resign.I would say that money is not everything in life, one needs to understand that you can live with less money but you can't live without your close-ones.
  Commented by  Diptanjan Mukherjee, Team Leader -(Technical), Navayuga Infotech    | 04 04 2009 06:21:00 +0000
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Ahh... wish someone shared this story before I got married... LOL... We both work for reputed organisations... So far we both managed to put down some really good offers, but really don't know how long we can continue to overcome this temptation.

I PERSONALLY VALUE FAMILY AND RELATIONS MORE THAN ANYTHING... but you know people changes..
  Commented by  Radhakrishna Marar, Business Analyst, Oracle    | 03 23 2009 14:44:23 +0000
Well yes, its true and everyone has to realize that plan earlier itself is career important of family as said by Jai Prakash. 

I do agree that its a million dollar Q, and only those can answer these who went through that situation.... :)
  Commented by  Subrahmanyam, software engineer, Capgemini    | 10 29 2008 23:12:46 +0000
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Wow. This is really nice.
  Commented by  Vinayarajan KV, Head/VP/GM-Sales Tech    | 10 29 2008 10:03:55 +0000
Nice
  Commented by  Prashant Gajjar, QA Engineer, Cybage Software Pvt Ltd.    | 10 05 2008 12:24:25 +0000
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Nice!!!
  Commented by  varsha mishra, technical Manager(QMS), rfrac    | 10 05 2008 10:36:54 +0000
very true
  Commented by  Sree Vidhya Ramachandran, Team Leader, Solutions    | 10 05 2008 08:52:46 +0000
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Good article. It all depends on the choices people make given an opportunity.
  Commented by  Vijayanand Kuppurao, Software Developer Vigna Systems    | 09 05 2008 04:43:15 +0000
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Nice one
  Commented by  Saket Vishal, Software Developer, Xebia    | 09 01 2008 21:31:52 +0000
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Ha ha ha ha ah ah, Great Moral, being a Software Engineer myself, I need to take this very seriously into consideration :)
  Commented by  sridhar a, Business Analyst, Shriram value services    | 09 01 2008 04:08:31 +0000
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good
  Commented by  Darpan Sinha, Solution Architect, Fujitsu Consulting India Pvt Ltd    | 09 01 2008 03:56:14 +0000
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:) Good.....
  Commented by  Upendra Pratap Singh, Head/VP/GM-R&D, SAIL,Bokaro Steel Plant    | 09 01 2008 02:14:39 +0000
Rating : +2 
Thought provoking.Money cannot be sole purpose of life.
  Commented by  Rajesh V, Team Lead, AppLabs    | 09 01 2008 01:48:51 +0000
Rating : +1 
Nice story
  Commented by  Mallikarjuna Gupta Bhogavalli, Sr. Product Manager, Oracle India Pvt Ltd    | 08 26 2008 04:41:12 +0000
Rating : +2 
yes, it is true and many of them do not realise this at the time of marriage
  Commented by  Abhishek Tiwari, Network Admin/System Admin, STPL INC.    | 08 26 2008 03:52:47 +0000
Nice 1
  Commented by  Jai Prakash, Chief Manager, Sindri Unit    | 08 26 2008 01:08:42 +0000
Rating : +4 
Thought provoking story. Family or Career (Money) - what should be preferred? It is a million dollars question. Ultimately, it is sacrifice and devotions for each other that makes family life happy. Money is required for good and decent living but every thing should not measured in money terms.
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