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One of my ex colleagues always thought of himself as a good adviser. He always liked to give unsolicited advices to everyone around. However arguably no one liked his advice and looked at him as a talkative person. In fact people stopped sharing anything with him whether its official or personal by fearing that he will start giving his ‘expert comments’. Sometime later people even stopped interacting with him, frightened with his advice/opinion.
It’s very easy to have opinions. We all have them based on our experience, perception, qualification and knowledge. But the decisive factor is knowing when to keep them to yourself and when to express them. Most of people just don’t keep quiet and keep on giving unsolicited advises or expressing their opinion because they think their advice/opinion:
• count for something.
• has an audience.
• is important and valaubale
• will be helpful and make a difference
• will make them look intelligent/knowledgeable/clever/effective
• will command attention/recognition
• will get respect/love
• will be regarded as a communicator/leader
All the above mentioned points are wrong reasons for giving/expressing their advice/opinion. The real reason should be whenever you are asked for one. If you are asked, then say what you think. If you have not been asked then its good to be keep quiet. This is as simple as that.
You have your own ideology, perspective and problem solving skills. What you have to say is important and you just dont waste your opinions arbitrarily. At the same time you can not demand from the people to listen to you and follow your opinions in any convoluted situation. What you should do is to:
• have an opinion ready for when you are asked.
• express that opinion clearly, precisely and accurately.
• take your opinion one step forward which should seem like the actual solution that will be implmented
Just to extend the last point, your opinion should not seem mere like an opinion. It should be more like a fact and hence should be expressed as a fact. Avoid saying, ‘I think we should’, instead say, ‘We should’.
So avoid saying following terms:
• I think
• In my opinion
• I guess
• I feel
So, don’t give advice unless it’s asked for. And your advice/opinion will have more importance and value.
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Keep your feedback coming.
Regards,
Sanjay
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Dear Rohit, Thanks for copying my blogpost. This blogpost is written by me and posted on http://talentequity.in/blog/do-you-think-before-saying-yes/ The least you could do is to give me the credit for my hard work. |