How to Overcome Shyness with Girls 

Shyness is a debilitating condition for many men. It prevents them from functioning in social situations, from voicing their real concerns, and most sadly, from approaching the woman of their dreams.

The truth is that many shy men are exactly the kind of guys women look for. But since they're too timid, women get left with the swaggering jerks they always complain about but seem to date exclusively. If shyness has kept you from getting that special lady, read on to see how you can overcome it.

1. Practice with a friend. One of the big factors in shyness is the fear of rejection. Eliminate this factor by approaching and picking up a woman for your friend or your brother (but make sure your friend knows!). Since your own ego isn't at stake, you'll be less inhibited in your approach. You'll see it's no big deal and will want to pick up for yourself next time.
2. Focus on baby steps. Treat dating like a 12-step program. Start with a smile; show everyone (not just the cute girls) you're friendly and approachable. On following days, move up to saying "hi." A few days after that, engage in small talk. Keep going as you gradually open yourself up to people and see it's not as hard as you thought. If you make a blunder, forget about it. Most people are more forgiving than you think. If beautiful women intimidate you, take baby steps up the beauty scale. Start by approaching more average-looking women you feel confident with. As you become at ease with them, move on to prettier women, and so on.
3. Start by asking this special girl simple questions. You can show that you care by asking her how her day was.
4. Don't take things personally. If you want to succeed in the game of romance, you can't take every comment, insinuation or joke that a woman might throw your way as a personal affront. People sometimes say things they don't mean. You'll have nothing to be self-conscious about if nothing bothers you.
5. Learn to listen. Don't do all the talking. Let women talk about themselves for a while. Ask open-ended questions and just sit back and listen. If the conversation lulls, have new conversation topics ready. And to ease the burden of initiating something, have a few icebreakers handy to get the ball rolling.
6. Talk to a lot of people. Don't be afraid to chat up everyone you meet, from the old lady doing her groceries to the bank teller. Practice makes perfect.
7. Don't fear rejection. Great boxers go in the ring knowing there's a chance they'll lose. Similarly, you can't expect to succeed every time. Nothing is 100%, so view every encounter with a woman as a positive learning experience. The trick here is to not be self-conscious. Shyness and hesitation occur when you think about your flaws. Instead, focus your thoughts entirely on the woman you're talking to. You'll forget about your jitters and she'll be flattered by the attention.
8. Get out and socialize. Join activities in which you're always interacting with people, such as the gym, exercise classes, a college society, or a hobby club. In these environments, you must always socialize, and after a while, you'll get comfortable with it. Furthermore, you're practically guaranteed to meet interesting women.
9. It starts with you. When you leave your shyness behind, which will take time and persistence, you'll see how much your life will change, as you'll begin to go after what you want with fewer fears. And here's a secret: should you enter a room and feel those familiar jitters, remember that most people you meet are too busy worrying about what others think about them to really notice and judge you

How to Overcome Shyness 

Instructions

How to Overcome Shyness With Girls 

You're confident, funny and outgoing with your friends. When you get around girls, however, your palms sweat and you stumble over your words when you finally come up with something to say. Try these strategies to overcome shyness around girls and allow your true personality to shine through.

Instructions

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     Talk to girls while participating in clubs or other after-school activities. Since you already have something in common, simply ask about the next meeting time, what she thought of the last project or how she builds chess strategies, for example.

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     Build your self-esteem by chatting with girls to whom you're not attracted. There will be less pressure when the conversation isn't romantically motivated. Practice by starting new topics, answering questions and telling jokes. You may even get along with someone so well that you eventually do want to ask them out.

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     Ask girls basic questions and let them carry the conversation with detailed answers. They'll think you're fascinating if you're just listening to what they have to say. Ask one how she did on the last test, why she loves the sport she participates in, what she watched on television last night or which songs she likes.

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     Concentrate on the conversation and not what the girl or surrounding students are thinking of you. When you're hanging out with friends, you're not concerned about how you look or if the guys are "judging" you. Tune out your worries to be more at ease.

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     Joke about and admit your shyness when talking to girls. A self-deprecating sense of humor is charming, and they may find your nervousness cute.

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     Study your friends who aren't shy. Emulate their attitude, techniques and conversation starters until you're confident enough to develop your own.