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We are adults only          Hindustan Times          Jul 29, 2009

http://www.hindustantimes.com/StoryPage/Print/437381.aspx

Discussions of sexuality in India invariably centre on India’s ‘ancient’ past where public expressions of sexuality were not taboo. This is the Kama Sutra narrative that is a product of colonial history, nationalist aspirations and European theorising about a ‘free-flowing’ Orient that was different from a ‘repressed’ Occident.

The Kama Sutra narrative of Indian sexuality is largely irrelevant to an understanding of its modern manifestations and is best confined to expensive coffee table books of our ‘glorious’ past that was supposedly destroyed by foreign invaders. The Government of India recently blocking the offshore internet porn site savitabhabhi.com should focus our attention to the extensive non-Kama Sutra history of Indian sexuality that illustrates that the state often has little idea about the culture it seeks to ‘protect’.

However, a qualification is in order: the Savitabhabhi comic strip is hardly the paragon of ‘liberated’ thinking. In fact, it incorporates the most conservative male fantasies about the ‘modern’ woman who is forever willing to please a man. Given this, the issue is not Savitabhabhi and her male originators’ fantasies of power. Rather, it has to do with the curious case of a state that hardly knows its own culture. And while on the one hand it parades Indian culture as one with ancient and strong roots, on the other, it thinks it so fragile as to be shattered by every gust of a ‘foreign’ cultural influence.

Let us begin with the curious case of Dr A.P. Pillay (1889-1956), one of the leading lights behind the family planning movement and a pioneering figure in the history of modern Indian sexology. Based in Maharashtra, between 1934 and 1955, Dr Pillay published a slew of popular books that discussed sexuality from a wide range of perspectives. He was one of many such authors at that time, though perhaps the best known among English language writers on the topic. His publications included The Art of Love and Sane Sex Living and Sex Knowledge for Girls and Adolescents.

Dr Pillay was a curious figure in as much as while — along with many of his contemporaries — he subscribed to a ‘scientific view’ on sexuality, he also foregrounded pleasure, women’s rights as sexual beings, and ‘alternative’ sexual practices and behaviours. Our minders of public morality might be shocked to read Dr Pillay’s advice in a 1948 publication that masturbation, either as ‘auto-eroticism’ or as heterosexual  or homosexual practice, was a ‘harmless method of relief’. And this from someone who contributed to the founding of the Family Planning Association of India!

In North India, a variety of Hindi language publications furthered the dialogue initiated by Pillay. So, small-town magazines such as Nar-Naari and Hum Dono were part of a semi-illicit circuit of debate and discussion on sexuality, drawing participants from small towns and qasbas that were not part of official discourses on sexuality and ‘sex-education’. Magazines such as these created a forum for non-moralising discussions on desires, fantasies, anxieties and intimacies. Of course, they sought to escape the wrath of the state’s ‘obscenity’ laws by presenting their discussions through detached medicalised language.

Nowadays, the most explicit discussions of sexuality take place in a variety of Hindi-language ‘women’s’ magazines such as Grhasobha and Grhalakshmi. Indeed, for the past 20 years or so, there has barely been an issue that does not include an article on sex and sexuality. Most remarkably, women’s sexuality is the most frequently discussed topic. Whereas in earlier publications such as Dharmayug, sexuality was invariably discussed in the context of ‘nation-building’, contemporary publications have decisively moved the focus to sexuality-as-consumption.

So, ‘Grhasobha sexuality’ is about how women might explore their sexual selves, rather than only serve the nation as ‘good’ citizens. It is commonplace to find articles that ask whether ‘virginity is necessary before marriage’ and ‘why there are no virginity tests for men’, as well as others on ‘menopause and sex’. Savitabhabhi has come home, and the Indian culture the state seeks to protect from evil foreign influences has been ‘evil’ for quite some time.  It’s grown up actually.

The problem is that just like many sexologists, the state too believes that there is something fundamental about our sexual selves, and hence sexuality must be policed. So, we face minor embarrassment if exposed as a bad cook. But to be revealed as someone who is ‘bad at sex’ becomes an existential problem requiring the intervention of many an ‘expert’. However, despite what we are constantly told, there is no single truth to sexuality without which we remain incomplete humans.

This belief may help in the marketing of cosmetic products and ‘advice’ books, but it also creates peculiar ideas about our sexual selves and the threats to Indian culture from ‘bad’ sexuality. The modern history of sexual cultures in India is one of great diversity and one that shows that its participants have not suffered from the fear of the decline-of-Indian-civilisation-as-we-know-it. The state needs to learn from that.

Sanjay Srivastava is Professor of Sociology, Institute of Economic Growth, Delhi, and author of Passionate Modernity: Sexuality, Class, and Consumption in India.

 
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  Commented by  Balram, Sub Editor/Reporter    | 10 26 2011 05:12:45 +0000
TRUTH is JUSTICE

and

JUSTICE is LAW

and the MOTTO of our country is

SATYAMEV JAYATE ---- TRUTH ALONE TRIUMPHS
  Commented by  Balram, N.A., N.A.    | 10 25 2011 04:36:40 +0000
The above knowledge has been shared only for the purpose of learning.

DO NOT TAKE OUT WRONG INTERPRETATIONS....

TRUTH is JUSTICE

and

JUSTICE is LAW

and the MOTTO of our country is

SATYAMEV JAYATE ---- TRUTH ALONE TRIUMPHS
  Commented by  Balram, N.A., N.A.    | 10 25 2011 04:29:29 +0000
Epic revelations          Hindustan Times          November 13, 2007

http://www.hindustantimes.com/StoryPage/Print/257609.aspx


The permissiveness of ancient Indian society and their ultra-liberal view on sexual relationships is breathtaking. Nowhere is this better depicted than in the Mahabharata, the greatest epic ever written. Writing in these columns on the katha tradition (January 11, 2006), I had referred to the Mahabharata as “supreme itihaas” and unparalleled “kavya”. It is at once incomparable philosophy and a unique confrontation with ethical dilemmas. It is an encyclopaedic edifice to which poets, acharyas and thinkers brought their diverse offerings, making it a rare meeting ground of different traditions, styles and viewpoints.

Today, I turn to the liberality in the Mahabharata on relationships between the sexes. This is seen right from the origin of its author and of the Pandava/Kaurav clans. The preface starts with Queen Girika asking King Uparichara to make love. The king leaves without doing so, but is so consumed by passion that he ejaculates on a leaf in the forest, which he then sends to his queen through a falcon. The seed drops mid-flight and impregnates apsara-fish Adrika, who gives birth to a son and a daughter. The king keeps the son and a fisherman keeps the daughter, Satyavati. The celibate Parashara is so besotted with Satyavati that he makes love to her in a boat, and of the union is born Ved Vyasa. Parashara blesses Satyavati, saying that that her son would be the “greatest poet the world has ever known”.

Shantanu, the 14th Kuru king, is mesmerised by Ganga, whom he marries, but undertakes never to question. Their physical love is so overpowering that Ganga becomes pregnant seven times in seven years. But she drowns each of her children. Shantanu is distraught but does not question her. When he finally does, she tells him of the curse on her and leaves Shantanu, taking with her their eighth child, Vasu Prabhasa. She promises him that Prabhasa would return after 16 years to rule the Kurus. It’s again Shantanu’s uncontrollable sexual urge that leads him to marry Satyavati. His “old and mighty illness, love” leads him to promise Satyavati that only her children would rule the empire. This is fulfilled by his son, Devvrata, who takes a vow that not only would he not claim the kingdom, but he would also never marry and remain celibate all his life. It’s this sacrifice that makes Devvrata Bheeshma.

Abduction of princesses from swayamvaras is frequently practised and accepted as ‘gandharva vivah’. Bheeshma abducts Amba, Ambika and Ambalika for Satyavati’s son. Amba, unable to marry her beloved, seeks union with Bheeshma and her rage at being spurned leads to her rebirth as Shikhandin. Then, in the first sex-change of the ancient ages, she is converted into the male Shikhandi by a yaksha. There are graphic depictions of group love-making between Satyavati’s son and his two queens. When he dies issueless, both Satyavati and Bheeshma openly apply the apparently established “ancient custom, allowing a brahmana to be called to sire sons” from the two young widows to ensure continuity of the family line. Satyavati entrusts this task to her son, Veda Vyasa. Mahabharata describes in minute detail hours of lovemaking on successive nights between Vyasa and the queens. Since Ambika closes her eyes in fright, blind Dhritrashtra is her offspring and since Ambalika is ashen-faced at the sight of Vyasa, pale albino Pandu is born of her. Vyasa also has a sexual encounter with an unnamed maid, which leads to the wise Vidur’s birth.

The concept of immaculate conception and giving birth without a nine-month pregnancy is typified by Kunti. A rishi and his wife decide to copulate in an open forest and turn into a stag and a hind for the purpose. Pandu kills them while they are in the act and is cursed that he would die the moment he made love to anyone. So, Pandu lets his wife Kunti practise “immaculate conception” with the gods, giving rise to Yudhishthir (with Dharmaraja), Bheema (Vayu) and Arjuna (Indra). Polygamy is common and Pandu’s second wife, Madri, seeks the same benefits.

Vyasa created Gandhari’s 100 sons from the foetal pulp disgorged by her. Pandu died because he could not control his libido on seeing Madri naked. Masturbation, as practised by Muni Gautam’s celibate son Sharadwan, leads to the birth of the twins Kripa and Kripi. Having been won by Arjuna in an archery contest, all five Pandava brothers share Draupadi, since Kunti had unknowingly said “all of you share the alms you have got”. But Mahabharata describes in detail how all five brothers desired Draupadi and how she desired each of them. Polyandry was thus equally acceptable.

Arjuna’s escapades while away from Draupadi included passionate lovemaking with the snake woman Ulupi, who practised pre-marital sex, and his active pursuit and eventual elopement with Krishna’s half-sister and his own cousin, Subhadra. After her initial anger, Draupadi welcomes them both and even makes love to Arjuna. Incidentally, this also recognises marriage between cousins.

Such examples are endless. The approach to these issues 5,000 years ago is truly mind-boggling.


Abhishek Singhvi is MP, National Spokesperson, Congress, and Senior Advocate.
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