People: Their misgivings! - My thoughts!

Nice article Makrandji....it worths lots of applause...Thanks for sharing...

Sorry guys, I was a bit busy sorting out some things. I would second every word of Makarand with my heart not for the writing skills but for the  honesty and heart felt thought that he has brought up here and I would also go to the extent of saying that Makarand has represented all of us here because at one time or more each of us have got into some small or big, intentional or non-intentional arguements, blame games, etc., but people be honest and say it that we all have learned so much here from all the great and wonderful contributors. I have understood that fighting back all the time is not a solution. You have to listen to other people also before putting your thoughts and opinions. Tolerance is of equal importance. We all have hurt people knowingly or unknowingly and have also got hurt. Its all give and take here. There are some people who know no boundaries and hurt people badly, nothing personal here but I also feel that Devi has been mistreated here which is not correct. She has great knowledge to share and I don't think and have never noticed that she has pointed fingers at anyone for no reason. We are all here to discuss, debate, etc., but lets not insult anyone here. If such insults and bad behavior continue, we will unfortunately loose great contributors on this forum.

Lets play healthy here. Lets not hurt or insult anyone. We are all humans and we all make mistakes. We have got used to reading each other and their contributions so much that we at times take each other for granted, again there is no harm in doing so, but only as long as we do not forget that we have to respect everyone here and welcome everyone here even if we differ in our outlook approach and opinion.

I apologize to one and all if I have knowing or unknowingly hurt any one or annoyed anyone. I value each one of you here and I hope we have a great sharing relationship always.... 

cheers,
Alka

Makrandji, your article would surely fetch a loud loud applause if it were in a public place.
I was really sitting quiet, because when 2-3 elephants clash, the one who goes in between would be smashed and perhaps not the elephants. I was on the verge of advising Rohiniji about the same. But my social responsibility did not allow me to keep mum.
Dear all whoever is having a difference of opinion between each others, please write your words in a piece of paper and keep it with you for 2 days. If the same thing holds good (without a single correction) after 2 days, please post it in the forum.
This forum teaches us the Project Management. You have to manage win hearts of people and not to hurt. If you succeed without hurting anybody, you become project manager because there will be a lot of supporters for you.
Also that, whatever others write, please consider that it is their opinion. If it suits your mentality, give thumbs up, else forget (forgive) it.

Hi,

I read the article and the comments written by the respected members of Too step.
I am very disturbed by the fact .what are we doing here...come-on it is a professional site to discuss various issues and topics....but we like school kids are just fighting and arguing here.

All of us are well educated and professionals here. So instead of doing cat fights why don’t we concentrate in promoting the ideas and this awesome site........

This site is a great platform to express our views and share ideas.....and this site has helped me a lot in upgrading my ideas and I am sure all of you are with me in this comment...

So, when we are getting so much from this site so why we are degrading its status by fighting openly here and posting some unwelcomed comments to each other. Where has the professionalism gone…….?

I don’t want to loose any of members of this site but want to make a nice a healthy environment here.

I hope you all are with me.

Regards,
Rohini
Rohini.

Ms. Kaladeen, I have indeed changes my mind!! Mr. Singh here has just given me a brilliant valuable reason to do that!! :))

So I am around, you are around too... I am too much in love and selfish to gain knowledge... so I think I have risen beyond some foolish elements and I intend to make myslef grow into a much bigger knowledgable person than I already am!! I am around for a long time to come Ms. Kaladeen.. please go happy clicking those keys on your keyboard and keep contributing please! :))
Thanks a lot!

@ Makarand,

<<"I am simply put DISAPPOINTED IN YOU LOT!! I WILL NOT APPEAR ON THIS FORUM AGAIN!!">>

Sad that you had to put a post mentioning you do not wish to be a part of the forum anymore. 
I understand your sentiments and the effort you made to make all understand that infighting does not solve anything except help in boosting personal egos.
I guess you need to take a line from the discussions going on, that such issues need to be given scant attention and one should carry on doing the good work that one is attuned to doing in life.
While I might not be able to make you change your mind (if you have already decided to not participate in future), I could only request you as a fellow member to ignore the infighting and such members that do indulge in such tactics at personal levels. It would, indeed, give me great pleasure to have you change your mind and return to the forum with renewed vigor. I, personally think and believe that you have great ideas that would be of immense help to me and many others.

Thumbs down on comments is not a personal attack at all ..........attack is personal only if you take it personally.........when you push other person to think in your way and get convinced with you.....things start going down and down.....this is my opinion.....believe it or not.....

Sir this is a good article. Basically each person will have his/her own views on any given topic and by engaging in healthy debates one can increase his knowledge. Unfortunately the main problem arising here is that we are not guiding our discussions in  positive manner. Here in this article also you have mentioned the importance of taking criticism in positive manner but the comments put up is not at all supporting our intentions. Copying your comment "This is like a DOGS TAIL!!..." is apt for this situation. Try to take criticism in a positive sense. That can improve you in all means.
 Jai Hind

 No comments regarding any issues raised,

But Too step is a wonderful platform for sharing our views and experiences and it is painful to see the comment “Do you think after the personal attack I am faced with presently, I will have the heart to recommend this site to anyone in my country?”
I feel considering her valuable contributions to this site, Devi madam deserves better treatment.(personal)

Let us be world citizens.

 

This is like a DOGS TAIL!!... Try to straighten it, it will still curl and keep wagging!! Its maybe not the best example but a very apt one!! nd all this from mature, learned people!! I remember in one of the debates about man and animals, civilisation, I had mentioned that we are worst than animals because of the fact that we have emotions, but animals are devoid of it, they cannot speak... I prefer them to people anyways!!

If you guys think that by keeping this mudslinging going on you are proving a point here... I am sorry to say that you are just CRACKING THE MORROR THAT HAD ME LOOK AT YOU IN HIGHESTEEM!!
It doesnt matter who started it, what matters is that you wish to keep going!! Well, its your party I tried to bring in some semblance, but it seems that you prefer being in a drunken stupor of VICTORY!! I am simply put DISAPPOINTED IN YOU LOT!! I WILL NOT APPEAR ON THIS FORUM AGAIN!!
thanks for your company... I hhave indeed learnt that EDUCATION IS NOT THE KEY TO GOOD BEHAVIOR AT ALL... IN FACT IT SPOILS EVERYTHING! I AM HONESTLY VERY IRRITATED WITH THIS AND ALL YOU LOT OF PEOPLE (I AM NOT TAKING NAMES AS I KNOW THE PEOPLE WILL UNDERSTAND)!!... GOOD GOD.. ITS TIME FOR MY FREEDOM FROM THIS ATROCIOUS CROWD!!!

For all the others who are not here or hve chosen to remain away thinking of another mudslinging match... SURPRISE SURPRISE... This is a DEFINITE FORUM FOR PROFESSIONALS and has been proven BEYOND DOUBT TODAY!!
Thanks to those for being here nd those who have read and left silently... :))

Mr. Dikshit, Mr. Jalutharia, Welcome!! Appreciated your efforts too. This is exactly what professionalism is. Notwithstanding the paltform but protecting dignity and thoughts. I believe you have made yourselves better brand ambassadors and I commend you for that!! Thanks for being here, truly appreciated!! :)

Well said Makrand....great post

Excellent Makrand....I don't have to say anything further. We need to raise..... 

Mr. Bhave , a great Post (Heads Off To You Sir) !!!

My dearest MAKRAND,
I wrote u a personnel letter u didn't reply,in that very letter I told u that I was ur fan,after reading this article my eyes were full of tears,that u can only the person who can write such an original thoughts, nothing copying and pasting in any of the article ,debate etc till now ,u must have gone through my profile I am throughout topper in all classes and degrees,thing is I am B.TECH from IIT MADRAS,but after that purely technical and never wrote such a big letter,had steno's auditors to write and take dictation and type,I know typing very less ,though I employed many.
Now coming to main point I am 61 years and when many have started giving me thumbs down without reason or telling me or guiding me in non technical matters it hurt me and for English writing and language too.
In spite of all these,ur article have moved me allot and for the mistake which I didn't do I take all responsible and feel sorry to all my younger' s even.
Regards again
SBDIKSHIT

i respect and love this forum .... as it not only gives me opportunity to learn but also guidance from fellow members ,.. but now scenario is change ..due to so many reasons.. hard comments and instead of positive feedback its going to more personal .. which no body will admire..
i want to request every members plzz respect every bodies feeling.. 

Thanks and regards
varsha

i respect and love this forum .... as it not only gives me opportunity to learn but also guidance from fellow members ,.. but now scenario is change ..due to so many reasons.. hard comments and instead of positive feedback its going to more personal .. which no body will admire..
i want to request every members plzz respect every bodies feeling.. 

Thanks and regards
varsha

@ Ms Kaladeen, Makarand.
I have been off this forum for some time due to another engagement that has been taking up most of my time (not that I have been a very active contributor in the past), but what I see of the recent postings makes me sad. I agree that as self-respecting individuals and professionals, we need to be also aware of another person's thought processes. If there are ideas that do not gel with one's thought processes, one might wish to put forth one's views on the same, but obviously, one needs to have the basic decency to put forth one's ideas without hurting another's feelings or sentiments.
As for me, I have been on innumerable fora in the past and have realised that such scathing personal attacks are a part of such debates. However, one needs to understand that the one who gets personal in attacking/ debating, is one who would not be able to justify or stand by what comments they make, once pushed into a corner.
Such people need to be ignored as much as their writings should, since there is not much content to learn from there, in any case.
My suggestion is to let bygones be bygones, continue relevant professional postings and ignore people whoa re on the forum to just create misgivings and hatred amongst the community without themselves contributing to anything satisfatorily.  

Ms. Kaladeen, I empathise! I can also imagine your stress. But believe you me, for people what matters most is what and whom they read. Comments can come and go, the person and his thoughts remain. The reason for the appeal is not for anypseudo handshakes or whetting the crious appetites for identity claims... its basically for people to relise that we are on a forum and there is a certain amount of decency that needs to be maintained!1 For me, I would always read you most enthusiatically, always. I need not be satisfied by who and what you are, but what you post and write tells me a lot about you and I maintain that you are one of the person who matters to me!! So shun the thoughts of people who need to be satisfied by who you are and remain doing what you do best!! Thanks for being here. :))