| Topic : Honour Killings - Shame Or Pride?? |
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Honour Killing - A Growing Concern
Guys, here is something which will give an idea about the barbaric activities happening recently....
It might be time to apply a psychoanalytical approach to honour killings and other social issues of our times, in order to devise ways to engage with pathologies at a community level, says Rakesh Shukla (Supreme Court Lawyer)
The killing in July 2009 of 21-year-old Ved Pal in Singhwal village in Haryana when he had gone, accompanied by policemen, to pick up his wife Sonia, has re-focused attention on the honour killings of couples in accordance with a decision by the khap, or caste panchayat, and with the community’s complete approval. In this particular case, after carrying out the panchayat’s death sentence, a 400-strong mob from the village displayed the victim’s battered body like a trophy at a crossing in the centre of the village. Ved Pal had married Sonia, who belonged to the same gotra, four months earlier, against the wishes of her family.
Incest is a strong taboo in almost all societies. As far as the enactment into law of this taboo is concerned, the Hindu Marriage Act of 1954 bars marriage between sapindas — people within the third generation in the line of ascent through the mother, and fifth generation in the line of ascent through the father. It also bars marriage between certain “degrees of prohibited relationships”, including brothers and sisters. The law thus clearly spells out the ingredients of a valid marriage and excludes marriage between close relatives.
The moral indignation is ostensibly at the ‘vitiation’ of the ‘pure’ brother-sister bond by the act of marriage and sexual relations. At the conscious level, there is great reverence for the “pure” mother and sister. However, ‘mother-f*****’ and ‘sister-f*****’ are among the most common abuses and are part of routine speech in the region.
In fact, interventions in incidents of harassment of women in public spaces often see the perpetrator called a ‘sister-f*****’, while simultaneously trying to make him feel ashamed by enquiring whether or not he has a mother or sisters at home — indicative of ‘unbrotherly’ and ‘non-son-like’ feelings towards mothers and sisters. These thoughts of a ‘pure’ mother and ‘virgin’ sister evoke strong feelings of guilt at being ‘bad’ and are possibly difficult to tolerate. They are buried deep in the unconscious.
Even whilst growing up, adolescent boys in general have no acceptable outlet for their pent-up sexual drive. The revering of brahmacharya (celibacy) along with beliefs about loss of semen leading to weakness of the body, mind and spirit acts as a block to healthy masturbation. Even when ‘indulged’ in, it comes ridden with guilt, anxieties and fears about the consequences. Sexual fantasies involving close family members, and lack of interaction and sexual activity among peers, fuels further frustration accompanied by feelings of guilt and perversion too stressful to bear; they are suppressed in the unconscious.
It is possible that these suppressed feelings are mobilised and projected and whipped into righteous frenzy when two people from the same gotra get married, implicit in which is the having of sexual relations. The transgressing couple becomes the repository of all that is ‘impure’ and ‘bad’, while one remains ‘pure’ and ‘good’. It leads to the crossing of a certain threshold where an ‘othering’ takes place, and the ‘evil’, ‘lustful’, ‘animal’ couple become transformed into beast-like creatures, threatening all that is ‘sacred’ and ‘pure’, and so deserving of death.
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Yes it can be called inside information from a blog. We cannot the understand the real feeling without facing a similar situation. |