What creates Conflict

Buddha says," Desire is the root cause of miseries" . Miseries are a sort of mental agony. These agonies are either part of the effort to attain the desires aspired or hurdles that is to be overcome to reach it. Basically , the mental imbalance created by few phenomena as stated here makes it . Control of mind to shed away desire leads to control of mental conflicts.
Thanks for referral Ms Kavitha shankar.

Thanks Darshana for referral. The culprit is Human Ego.

Gr8 Sir....

 Thanks,Darshana for referral.The real culprit is "COMPLEX".Please come out of this and your rest of world will be pleasant.

       Conflict is a routine in our day to day business either in the office or in the house. The reasons like ego,separation,possessiveness etc etc so many emotional and ulterior motives causes the conflicts. Not the reasons mainly to concentrate only we seek precautionary  measures to avoid the conflicts. "Maintaining the emotional balance in crucial situations and accepting the situations as it is rather than probing and poking into it will avoid most of the conflicts. Prevention is better than cure.

nice points , ekta

Basically Conflicts are the result of ONE WAY THINKING. Interesting, Thanks Ekta.

Our grasp of reality is so fragmented and varied so that when we seek the source of conflict, we find many causes.  The quoted passage identifies mind, ego, separation between us and others, pride and greviances; and commenters add other causes. We think we understand conflict because we can identify these related factors. But all these causes are themselves effects of other causes, and until we identify the root cause of the creation of conflict within and among us, we are not going to be able to reduce its incidence.

The conceptual systems for interpreting our common reality are both error-prone and incompatible with one anothers'. This inevitably generates interpretations of what's going on among each of us, that are inconsistent both with what's really going on, and with others' interpretations of what's going on.  All this occurs because of the root cause: all of us start out each with an inherited conceptual system obtained while being 'brought up' resulting in all of them being error-prone, and being error-prone from different sources, being therefore also inconsistent with one anothers' conceptual systems.

This root cause results in each of us interpreting our common reality in ways that are both uniquely inconsistent with reality, and inconsistent with the distortions of others' conceptual systems.

Little wonder that so much conflict gets created by this condition among us.

In order to reduce the incidence of conflict, each of us must try to do four things:

1. Become aware that the conceptual systems with which one interprets what's going on is both inherited and error-prone.

2. Become able to focus on one's own (local) conceptual system, and begin editing out errors and inconsistencies in it.

3. Be aware that others likewise suffer uniquely error-prone and inconsistent conceptual systems with which they are each condemned to interpret our common reality, and to make allowances for these distortions.

4. Wherever others are receptive, begin to enable them too to edit their respective local conceptual systems.

EGO CLASH- to let others know how great you are may also every time be found as a common reason for any conflict.
Obviously the other reasons could be one's personal problems that may be ignored or unattended or overlooked.
Conflict raises ones BP and after sometime everyone realizes what was right or wrong but till then perhaps things change on drastically.
Its the words that make a person good or bad.While raising one's voice one must keep in mind that others setiments and emotions are never hurt.
A gentle response to a gentle reminder can be always adopted.
Accepting ones fault,keeping calm at the time of dispute and then giving time to rethink can be adopted as good practice to avoid a conflict...

conflict is the lack of appreciation for others and over expectations from others...

Nice posting.

Thank you very much for sharing sir.  It largely depends on our perceptions, our traits.  We must assess a situation/person/thing with an open mind.  Try not to a conclusion without properly assessing.  This hinders our judgemental capacity.  Conflict is from disagreement with the views of others and close mindedness.  Rigidity and confinements forces us to conflict.

Good Sharing, Murthy Sir.
Thanks for referral, Ekta.

WHEN OUR SUB CONSCIOUS MIND IS FILLED WITH UN WANTED THOUGHTS RESULTED IN CONFLICT.
INSTEAD OF GIVING ROOMS FOR VIRTUES LET US DISCOUNT THE NEGATIVE VIBES. ONCE WE START DELETING THE -VE VIBES IT WILL SLOWLY TURN OUR MIND TOWARDS HEIGHT OF EMANCIPATION OR ENLIGHTENMENT   

nice one.......but I dont think religion is the reason of separation among people. Its just the "preachers" of religion who often don't represent things in the way they are ought to and let me be honest we people do have time to read big books of diferent authors on finance, marketing, HR and other subjects but when it comes to religion we are at the back of the envelope. I don't think any book on earth teach and talk about peace more practically than our religious books. Concept of peace itself is extracted from religion otherwise had it been in the hands of George Bush, Osama, Obama and others we would have perished!

This is nothing but a deep thought that gets etched in the sub-conscious!  Manifestation of such thought springs up in wrong time creates a permanent dent in relationship, i.e. conflict!  How does one overcome this syndrome?  Etched memory should be erased and fresh positive thoughts should be ingrained!  The best way to do this is to practice "Alpha Meditation" that will have cure to such types of animosities!

In addition to your points, some more are nowadays creating conflict among people:
a) Misunderstanding (this happens mostly among husband and wife)
b) Ego - common to all
c) Inferiority & superiority complex(nowadays, most of the women are earning more than men)
d) Short temper - due to stress in work and in some cause, we use to get angry with people
e) No Fear of God or lack of Humanity - It is the main cause for all conflict in all sectors of people.  A person should either fear of the Lord or have passion on humans, otherwise, conflict will arise. Due to this lot of divorces are increasing nowadays.
f) Children - ( due to children in our house, the parents use to quarrel with one another and with outsiders also.  This may be due to possessiveness on our children or even with our husband/wife)
g) Lack of respecting elders - This will lead so many complication in life.  We can extract the elders' experience and we may ignore their childishness, since the old people are become child in their late age around 70s. 

Degrade the others on values and work what he/she had done for you and yours

When the two or more solution is available for one problem conflict arises which is the main reason of confusion. conflict always create confusion. Now how to stop conflict and the confusion because of conflict. we have to find one best method out of many called resolution of conflict and the confusion will disappear. 

thanks sir for sharing with us

Yes sir. The conflict starts in the mind.
Mind monkey is the key to all this. We have huge egos. pride and do not value others. This is what leads to problem.