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My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.
I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love. One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.
"Why?" he asked, shocked.

"I am tired, there are no reasons for every thing in the world!" I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times.
My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can't even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him?
And finally he asked me:" What can I do to change your mind?"

Somebody said it right, it's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.
Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : "Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?"

He said :" I will give you your answer tomorrow...."

My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....

My dear,
"I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further.."
This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.
"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to saved my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism m. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand... and tell you the color of flowers, just like the
color of the glow on your young face...
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. "
My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting... And as I continue on reading...
"Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...
I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....
Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...


FRIENDS I HAVE READ THIS ARTICLE AND I  WOULD LIKE TO SHARE WITH YOU ALL. THIS IS NORMALLY HAPPEN IN EVERYBODY'S LIFE.

 Top Comment : rakeshbhatnagar    | 12 03 2010 18:02:38 +0000
LOVELY ONE DEAR KEEP IT UP.
 
38 comments on "WHY I LOVE YOU"
Nice one
  Commented by  LIon SAHOO, Principal Consultant and CEO, ITM Consultancy Services    | 01 16 2011 02:59:13 +0000
When We cannt satisfy with the First one(husband/Lover), it is very difficult to live with the Second . B'cse Every human being having some weak Point and bad habits , no body is Perfect . We need to learn more and have to live together .This relation has made by GOD , though we did love /arrange marriage . Sound comes when two object touch each other . We are not animals to changes one after other . Happiness is within us , No body can teach us or sell us  how to be happy ,we need to practice how to be happy . Nothing is permanent in this world Wealth , Car , Banglow , False Prestige, False Ego , beauty or what ever we going behind to happy , we will leave them and go for another life . Problem are every where and Problems are with every body . We may think a Rich man/film star/ smart and highly educated  is very happy , but these people have more problem than us . How much we are going behind the material and unrealistic things we invite more and more problem to us .Understanding with each other is good than getting advice from unknown. Because unknown persons are just waiting to destroy our happy life .If we through our EGO / False prestige then all our problem is solve. At last all the religious scripture (Including Bible, Koran) says Divorce is a Bad decision 
  Commented by  DEEPAK MITTAL, GM-Tech. Support,    | 12 13 2010 18:27:30 +0000
I don't like in love court, jealous work it make the weak love and human person also 
  Commented by  Jaygopal Raghavan, Marketing Manager, Landmark Group    | 12 13 2010 18:02:14 +0000
A lovely story. Is it fictious or for real ?
  Commented by  VAIBHAV JAIN, MASTER ENGG. STUDENT, SGSITS INDORE    | 12 07 2010 06:33:39 +0000
Great, Nice, Awesome, Amazing... Engineering Thanks To U Sir...Excellent.. 
  Commented by  Binod Ram, Accounts Executive/Accountant, Bihar Tubes Ltd.    | 12 06 2010 12:18:42 +0000
While reading this article, I was so serious as it is my own story. I was happy and satisfied when she opened the door. But when I come to reality there was no milk bottle and loaf of bread with me.

I liked the comment of Mr. Nohar Singh Dhruv.
Its so touching and true.....Just so beautiful and wonderful feeling & expression of Love
  Commented by  priya, recuriting and counselling, professional training consultancy    | 12 06 2010 09:48:31 +0000
excellent one
  Commented by  santosh lakshmi vempaty, Attorney, crownbridgegroup    | 12 06 2010 08:50:19 +0000
Wow!!really a very touching article - touches not onlyyour heart but also your soul.
THanks Natteraja sir for such a wonderful article.
  Commented by  Ravindra Sharma, Managing Consultant, CHEF-India    | 12 06 2010 06:26:22 +0000
Good one
  Commented by  Yogita Jaywant Patil, XML Associate, Trac Mail    | 12 05 2010 17:02:42 +0000
nice and again nice..................
  Commented by  Kiran Tiwari, MBA/PGDM student, KR Sapkal college of management studies    | 12 04 2010 15:46:30 +0000
Very intriguing and touching..thanks for sharing :)
  Commented by  swarnima kashyap, M.E/M.Tech/MS student, amity institute of nanotecnology    | 12 04 2010 12:20:18 +0000
beatifullll...thought...it says actions speak louder than words......but we pppl always yearn for words..widout looking at the ations done by the person you love..let it be parents...frenzzz..anyone....
  Commented by  Badri N Srinivasan, Head - Quality, Valtech India Systems Pvt. Ltd.    | 12 04 2010 06:54:32 +0000
Thanks for the referral, Natteraja...
Good Article...
  Commented by  rakeshbhatnagar, GM Projects., wig brothers india pvt.ltd.    | 12 03 2010 18:02:38 +0000
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LOVELY ONE DEAR KEEP IT UP.
  Commented by  NATTERAJA R. ARIKRISHNAN, AREA SALES MANGER, UNIFLEX CABLES LTD    | 12 03 2010 16:40:18 +0000
I extend my thanks to all friends in this forum for their active participation. Once again thank you all.
 
  Commented by  S. Muralidharan, Head, Project Planning/Strategy, Knowledge Foundation    | 12 03 2010 13:10:13 +0000
As Swami Vivekananda nicely put it "The misery that we suffer comes from ignorance, from non-discrimination between the real and the unreal.  We all take the bad for the good, the dream for the reality.  Soul is the only reality, and we have forgotten it.  Body is an unreal dream, and we think we are all bodies.  This non-discrimination is the cause of misery.  It is caused by ignorance.  When discrimination comes, it brings strength, and then alone can we avoid all these various ideas of body, heavens and gods".

"Comfort is no test of truth; on the contrary, truth is often far from being "comfortable".  If one intends to really find truth, one must not cling to comfort.  It is hard to let all go".
  Commented by  Atul Kumar, Project Leader    | 12 03 2010 11:56:28 +0000
Very nice one. Well explained the need to being together for helping each other in need to make live more lovable than just LOVE.
  Commented by  Vivek Singh, Project Manager, L&T    | 12 03 2010 11:22:40 +0000
WONDERFUL...multiplied by 1000....0
  Commented by  Rathin Deb, Resident Manager, Tower Infotech Ltd.    | 12 03 2010 08:01:35 +0000
Thanks Manoj for referral. Really an wonderful article.
  Commented by  Rathin Deb, Resident Manager, Tower Infotech Ltd.    | 12 03 2010 07:55:54 +0000
Thanks Sharad for referral. Really wonderful.
  Commented by  Rathin Deb, Resident Manager, Tower Infotech Ltd.    | 12 03 2010 07:51:15 +0000
Natteraja excellent. Actually true also but people don't understand.
  Commented by  Deepak D S, Client Servicing/Key Account Manager, Advertising    | 12 03 2010 07:47:54 +0000
Nice one. Reminds us of how easily we tend to neglect our near and dear ones...
  Commented by  Chandra shekhar, Content Writer, Leading Clinical Research Company    | 12 03 2010 07:00:19 +0000
Very true.....
Thank u very much for this beatiful article.
The misunderstanding sometimes comes because of the fear of insignificance.it influences our behavior.Here the couple should have effective communication of various issues that may crop up now&then.
  Commented by  s.baalu, Consultant, XYZ LTD    | 12 03 2010 06:50:41 +0000
vERY GOOD ARTICLE.
Wow.  Its very beautiful. People are confining themselves to self and egos cropping up even between the loved ones.  Whatever may be our own aspirations, we must also value the perceptions of the other.  This is missing every where at every time.  Marriage is a life time compromise, one must digest this fundamental fact.  Bed rooms are becoming battle fields because lack of proper understanding and egos.  We need to have patience and courage to attach value to the perceptions of the other.  Differences of opinion will always be there between two individuals. It is ridiculous to get separated for having a different opinion.   
  Commented by  SHRIKANT MANOHAR DANKE, Consultant, Project Management Consultancy Firm    | 12 03 2010 05:59:42 +0000
It is a good lesson to retain/continue the marriage in this strange period.
Thanks for referral, Manoj & thanks Mr. Natteraja for posting it on Toostep.
  Commented by  Sharad Gupta, Software Developer, Tripura Technologies, Hyderabad    | 12 03 2010 05:58:07 +0000
it is excellent one, Thanks Mr Natteraja for such a beautiful post...
  Commented by  Nohar Singh Dhruv, Assistant Engineer, PMGSY    | 12 03 2010 05:57:43 +0000
Relationships-- of all kinds-- are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost. 
  Commented by  Sunil Kumar Sharma, Software Developer Trainee    | 12 03 2010 05:56:44 +0000
Awesome article....Thanks Mr Manoj for referral...Teaches that we must find the suitable path before accepted the blind demands,,,, to be die is not only way to show love... but to care some one more than any one else is far better...
  Commented by  Nohar Singh Dhruv, Assistant Engineer, PMGSY    | 12 03 2010 05:52:01 +0000
Mind blowing article... This is so true and happen in human life.. Thanks for referral this nice article Mr. Manoj and thanks for sharing this Mr. Natteraja...  
  Commented by  Vineet Thakkar, Associate Executive- Product Marketing, Aris Global    | 12 03 2010 05:35:34 +0000
Thanks Natteraja for sharing this..... this is a wonderful feeling and its true that sometimes it demands more than life :)
  Commented by  Thoufeek. A, Event coordinator, Stark Event Expo Pvt.Ltd.    | 12 03 2010 04:56:16 +0000
excellent one...i love it...
  Commented by  Mohammad Bakhsh, Project Leader/Managing Consultant, Freelancer    | 12 03 2010 04:44:24 +0000
Thanks,Mr Manoj for referral and Mr Natteraja for penning such a beautiful post.I infer that courtships and post courtship relationships aka "marriage" measures up on different "touch and feel frequency". The post marriage "touch" is messed up with "feeling" and that is the story of a couple Mr Natteraja was discussing. When the touch was restored  subtle reminder she realized her folly and net result was the cementing of the relationships.Cheers to the couple and to the readers not to mess "tf". 
  Commented by  Manoj Kumar, Sr: Manager - QA, ARCHETYPE GROUP, INDIA    | 12 03 2010 04:12:13 +0000
It is so great Natteraja, Thanks for feferral....My today started on happy note since I am an Engineer.....and hope it will remain throughout this day
  Commented by  Nitin M Aras, XYZ    | 12 02 2010 18:08:26 +0000
thats great feeling... and only an engineer can give the answer with reasoning....great one....
  Commented by  NATTERAJA R. ARIKRISHNAN, AREA SALES MANGER, UNIFLEX CABLES LTD    | 12 02 2010 17:01:48 +0000
Getting of tired emerges in life because of not understanding properly each other. One should not think one way but his/her side also about what.... sometimes understanding each other will take some time till they get the level of maturity. Love is telescope and marriage is microscope. The life partners should understand the ups and downs of life with enough patience and adjusting with each other. Marriage is for living together for long till death with all happiness and unhappiness. Ego is the first enemy.   
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