Women In Your Life................

Vey nice article.. :)

Good Article, Tanimaji. I read it just now and forwarded it to my daughter. Thanks to you for sharing such a nice article. 

Mr. Deepak Bhattacharya, I can understand your feelings.  But, what we are talking  here is about women in general sense.  Some ifs and buts will always be there.  Responsibility of parents-in-law and parents can not be denied in such behaviour of their "daughter/daughter-in-law".  

People tend to take sides according to their convenience.  The same parents-in-law of a woman can be the parents of a daughter who is daughter-in-law in some one's family.  

These parents and in-laws often fail to weigh  things equally with their daughter and daughter-in-law.  

They provoke their daughter to fight her rights at her in-law's house and conveniently forget to tell her about her responsibilities there. Here comes the problem.  This is a kind of human tendency.  We cant blame any gender here.

I would like to add to this discussion a quote from one of my close friends in Facebook.
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When I'll be dead, you'll say words of praise, but I won't hear, praise me now instead /
When I'll be dead, you'll forget my faults, but I won't know, forget them now instead /
When I'll be dead, you'll wish you had spent more time with me, spend it now instead /
When I'll be dead, you'll miss me then, but I wont feel, miss me now Instead /
When I'll be dead, your tears will flow, but I won't know, cry for me now instead /
When I'll be dead, you will be putting flowers, but I won't see, give me now instead.

Spend time with every person you love, every person you care for, make them special, for you never know when time will take them away from you forever.
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Credits: Ms. Sobha Balu Mani / Facebook

Are we not missing some important basic facts here.
While we try to define and re-define the role of man and woman, some important facts related to nature that do not change even when we ourselves submitted to changes as we evolved.
Basically nature's creation of all species (except few exemptions) have evolved  clearly in two distinctive genders in order to fulfill the what the nature demands of them. The foremost of these is the distinctive individual functions of each gender related to procreation that are not interchangeable. 
All other activities we discussed in the posting are related to finding livelihood and mutual support and that are interchangeable; are insignificant as far as the basic intention of nature is concerned, and hence our squabbles on who does what and such are irrelevant. 
Otherwise these arguments could lead us to the level of thinking that man and woman are two entirely different species,  and just come together only to procreate and not binding to each other for anything else.    
   

Thanks everyone for sharing their views. Totally agree with you Srinivas Sir. Respects comes from heart and the behavior. We never enforce respect. In marriage two things r really important (i) Get the right person in your life (ii) being the right person. Trust, Understanding are the main pillars of any relationship specially in marriage. In marriage both men and women adjusts a lot, they are complementary of each other. Once again thanks every one for sharing their views.

Dont you feel that world runs only for women, first around them and then around their products. Man is servant to all to perform his duties towards women and only likes to be called master at home but Alas!!! here they like to treat him as Doggy. When do you think women were not important . They were at top, are at tOP AND SHALL CONTINUE TO BE AT TOP. AS PER FREUD " THERE IS NOTHING ELSE IN A MAN'S MIND EXCEPT WOMAN"

Difficult to find girls with full of such qualities....seriously!!! good for reading...good to give ourselves a feel good factor...thats it!!! nothing else. 

I do not know what transpired Tanima to write such article!
And I am also equally disgusted to find others, having enough disposable time to waste by reading and simply clapping for the great writing without adding any comments on the issue.
I can simply accept,respect and tolerate the differences between man and woman but nothing else.
I find the picture other way round:
Irrespective whether the woman is working, equally educated,bringing salary at per.
Asking the command of the house from the very first day,treating the in-laws of the house as nuisances and an inferior tribe, because all the laws of the country are in their favour.
What do those above clappers say?    

Nice to read the thoughts which we expect from the partner, & thanks to invite me to the topic.

With a soft heart , women is a substance of hard rock made by god from their very first origin, from birth till their end they hve to bear a lot nd sacrifices is their synonyms so really thy deserves a more respectable nd good life. so a salute from my side on behalf of all men to women. 

This amounts to treating the elders of the house as fools, as those who have not gone through the same situation, as those who are unaware of the efforts always made by a newly wedded woman when she moves to her in-laws house. It is mere frustration by unsuccessful women who fail to live up to the expectations in society. No amount of love, affection or accommodation by the in-laws can change such attitudes of women. They realize this but only too late when enough damage has been done to their families.

It's excellent tanima very very very nice and tahnk you so much or sharing and inviting me 

women are blooming flower and the men are sun so both are very valueble. nice article

I agree with you in many ways Tanima, but things have changed very much recently. Women have started to ask and enjoy their rights and men are also changed.Now family is no more men -centered as it was 10 years before,But anyhow we cant ignore as this is still a case in majority of families.But i thank you for bringing this wonderful topic for discussion, Tanima, keep it up

Man and woman are complementary to one another. Both should understand this fact then only married life will be happy

Good one. Thanks for the referal.

The moment marriage becomes compromise the above incompatibility arises. The process and procedures in Hindu religion is very elaborate; hardly people follow it, it becomes a merry making money making show off etc, session.

If the individual accept each other, the man and the women consciously without frills like ego status, financial status, responsibility. I want you as a man in my life “Kabul Hai” makes things simple.

When human beings accept something they adhere to it seizing all the cross talk inside their heads the ego male supremacy, irrational jealousy, inherent insecurities etc. melts away.

Acceptance is the stepping stone or the touch stone to turn things pink, jealousy would turn it grey, and hate burn it down.

Good one. Thanks for the referal.

Tanima, I don't think its about boy or girl or men and women. Its all very individual and what the person is. Respect your woman, is as good a statement as your "Whoz a boy?" article. Its much more necessary that you treat a person individually as he/she is. Each person have those vibes around him. Few may deceive, but most of the times your judgment is right. Further, even in marriage, you have to get in peace with yourself. Each husband also has his limitations, wife should not be too stressed out to cover her limitations. She will be loved and respected, after all thats what love is all about.

approach to life well defined and thanks for referral

Thanks Manish for referral. There are some article which seems to be out of world. I have already commented. What an article by Tanima. 

Tanima an excellent insight and a very well narrated. I appreciate your practical approach to life.

This is awesme article. Everyone needs love and care but women sacrifice all for the sake of their family so respect HER.thanks manish for referral.

Everybody should respect Woman in each role- whether she is a mother / sister / wife/ daughter etc.Nice sharing Mam.
& thanks for referral, Manishkumar.

Very Nice Article to Share. Even our beloved prophet (peace be upon him) preached the respect for women, not verbally only but he used help his wife in the kitchen as well, i.e, sweeping, making dough etc. He is the perfect example regarding the respect or equality of a woman. 

Nicely explained by Srinivas sir, no more words to say anything. Ms. Tanima ji its good article. Keep it up.

that's true:) and i always appreciate women:)

Beautifully narrated madam Tanima.  Respect comes from the behaviour, whether it is men or women.  I believe middle class holds the culture of this nation.  They have certain values.  The educated women are nothing less than their other gender.  But, certain things are not suited to women.  Drinking, partying in the late nights, smoking are not our culture for the women.  Do they need to do these things to catch up with the men.  I dont think.  Traditionally women are to look after the family and men is to earn bread.  In the changing atmosphere both have become earners.  Then who cares for the family.  Both need to share these issues.  Both need to have understanding of this scenario.  Trouble comes here. Egos crops up.  The financial independence being enjoyed by the present day women dont allow them to compromise.  After all marriage is a compromise.  Compromising is for both the wife and husband. Once they are not knotted together, they are not just two individuals, they are one in all senses.  Understanding each other, helping each other is required today.  Unfortunately Indian temper never allow us to think about responsibilities but asks for rights.  How you get on with these conditions is the test for the younger generation.