Asked by : ujjval jain, Retail, Retail
Industry : Human Resources (HR) Consulting
Functional Area : Leadership Styles
Activity: Question posted: 02 13 2010 12:05:52 +0000, 27 answers, 753 views, last activity 07 06 2010 20:18:08 +0000
One I think is a psychological need where other seems to be a unwanted by-product.
How you see this fine drawing,,,please comment,,,,
I am surprised to see this question arising on a site originating in India, land of Hinduism and home of Buddha. But then, perhaps, this is only further evidence of the secularization...the "middle-class-ification"...the "Westernization"...of the whole world.
I think before any of us attempts to answer this question...that is, if we take its consideration seriously...we would have to ask ourselves "who" is it that is asking the question. I do not mean who posted this question on Too.step, but "who" in me is doing the asking and what legitimacy does that "who"...that "I"...have in me. Does that "I" speak for me? Always and at all times? Even when I am in touch with the divine within me and striving to be in touch with the higher, the finer elements outside of me? Or is it an "I" that is only active, prevalent, dominant in me when I am not so in touch? ...when I am in this world, occupied by the material elements of it, consumed by the ordinary? Depending on how one answers these questions so defines how one answers this subject question.
The "Ego" and "Self-respect" are both constructs of this world...this world of illusions and suffering...and though they may be part of the game we all play as we make our way through it...as we try to learn how to live in this world...they really have nothing whatsoever to do...other than as distractions and symptoms of our waking-sleep...with our relationship with anything lasting or eternal.
The "ego" IS our illusory self and "self-respect" (in the context of this question) is the illusion of esteem or the sense of regard we hold for that so-called "self". All of this is simply part of the mental gymnastics we all play daily in our sleep-like, mechanical existence.
The real question is how does one penetrate this illusion AND still live in this world...that is, without abandoning it and all that it is in order to pursue the way of a yogi? How does one come to cease to be an automaton...not actually in control of one's own life or capable of "doing" anything...or without having to hide away in some cave to simply meditate on one's navel...but actually finding one's real self and learning what is true respect?
That is a question with which many flirt, but few grasp, much less pursue. Perhaps it too is part of the illusion...or is it simply the first obstacle one has to overcome to discover real self?
I think self respect is a standard made by one to be presented to the world. Same time the person takes care of others with same standard. Any thing below that standard hurts his self respect, and anything at par or above that made him feel proud. Whereas the EGO is slightly different, In this case also a person makes a standard for self but to maintain his standard he forgot maintaining the same standard for others. He wants that people should pay attention to him above that standard but he is reluctant in reciprocating the same to others.
So, My request leave EGO and live with Self respect.
Thanks Mr James for your wonderful interpretation, you really seems to have an encompassing view over the subjects like Philosophy & Psychoanalysis.
What is surprising to me is your initial comments regarding the question arising in Indian website.I don't know in what context you have wrote so but I suppose we have all reasons that this should beposted in an Indian website.
All thanks when this is glorifying our culture of Mahavir,,Budhha & the path of introspection & self realization.
For the flip side, I think we are one of the most ancient civilization in the world & Hindus can be tagged as one of the most secular community.
From our childhood we learn that how the fake ego (we call it 'ahem') of the all well learned & pandit Ravana has brought him ruins & we also know that for the sake of self respect & for the respect of her beloved Rama & entire Ayodhya, how innocent Sitaji sacrificed her life. (In one of our most sacred Ramayana Epic from very ancient times)
So we don't have to follow any western philosophy or whats the buzz 'middle class' to discuss such intrinsic puzzles of life.
Regarding 'who' is asking the question, here is a common man from a country of over a billion people who thinks he should better understand this fine line from some experts here so as to avoid any mistakes being repeated.
Thanks again for your b'ful comments.
Ego which is rational is self respect.
Ego in itself is not a beast.Ego is just your measurement of yourself.If your measurement is correct its your self respect otherwise its ego.
If your ego is too low,you will tend to be introvert.If it is very high you will tend to be dominating.
So the fine line would be the sense of rationality.
1) EGO IS BEING SELF CENTRIC; IT IS PART OF US, CREATED BY US AND IS A HINDRANCE TO OUR PROGRESS (BECAUSE OTHERS RECOGNIZE OUR EGO-CENRIC BEHAVIOUR)
2) OUR SELF-RESPECT IS AFFECTED WHEN OTHERS INTRUDE INTO OUR DOMAIN, MORE THAT WHAT IS CALLED FOR AND WHEN THIS DOES HAPPEN, IT HAS TO BE HANDLED TACTFULLY
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Why not..if trust is there...
Thanks Mr Manishji...inspirational....as always..