How our inner Ego sometimes mijudges a person ?

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	How our inner Ego sometimes mijudges a person ? Asked by : Suryanarayan Murthy, Free lancer Industry : Public Sector/Government Functional Area : Talent Management Keywords : personality ego appearance misjudgement Activity: Question posted: 02 11 2011 09:27:07 +0000, 15 answers, 392 views, last activity 02 23 2011 15:55:02 +0000	Answer

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A lady in a faded grey dress and her husband, dressed in a homespun suit walked in timidly without an appointment into the Harvard University President's outer office. The secretary could tell in a moment that such backwoods, country hicks had no business at Harvard and probably didn't even deserve to be in Harvard.

“We want to see the President" the man said softly.

"He'll be busy all day" the secretary snapped.

"We'll wait" the lady replied.

For hours the secretary ignored them, hoping that the couple would finally become discouraged and go away. They didn't and the secretary grew frustrated and finally decided to disturb the president.

"Maybe if you see them for a few minutes, they'll leave" she said to him. The President, with dignity, strutted toward the couple. The lady told him "We had a son who attended Harvard for one year. He loved Harvard. He was happy here. But about a year ago, he was accidentally killed. My husband and I would like to erect a memorial to him, somewhere on campus."

The president wasn't touched....He was shocked. "Madam "he said, gruffly, "we can't put up a statue for every person who attended Harvard and died. If we did, this place would look like a cemetery." "Oh, no," the lady explained quickly "We don't want to erect a statue. We thought we would like to give a building to Harvard." The president rolled his eyes. He glanced at the gingham dress and homespun suit, and then exclaimed, "A building! Do you have any earthly idea how much a building costs? We have over seven and a half million dollars in the physical buildings here at Harvard." For a moment the lady was silent. The president was pleased. Maybe he could get rid of them now. The lady turned to her husband and said quietly, "Is that all it costs to start a university? Why don't we just start our own?"

Her husband nodded. The president's face wilted in confusion and bewilderment. Mr. and Mrs. Leland Stanford got up and walked away, traveling to Palo Alto, California where they established the University that bears their name. Stanford University, a memorial to a son that Harvard no longer cared about.

Most of the time we judge people by their outer appearance, which can be misleading.... And in this impression, we tend to treat people badly by thinking they can do nothing for us. Thus we tend to lose our potential good friends, employees or customers.

Remember In our Life, we seldom get people with whom we want to share grow our thought process. But because of our inner EGO we miss them forever.

It is you who have to decide with whom you are getting associated in day to day life.

I end this beautiful story with a note:

Small people talk about others,

Average people talk about things,

Great people talk about ideas.

Ego is the best known step to lead to downfall.

And we in India have tons of it spread everywhere.

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by Ravindra Sharma, Managing Consultant, CHEF-India | 02 14 2011 08:32:48 +0000

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Answer modified by Sairam. M, System Administrator | 08 15 2011 19:08:11 +0000

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"EGOTISM" THE ROOT CAUSE OF ALL EVILS....

THANKS FOR REFERRAL MR.JAYANT VISHNU........

Answered by Jaygopal Raghavan, Marketing Manager, Landmark Group | 02 23 2011 15:55:02 +0000

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Wonderful story ! Thanks Jayant for the referral. Indeed a lesson for all of us in this one !

Answered by NATTERAJA R. ARIKRISHNAN, GM-Projects, Bentec Electricals & Electronics Pvt. Ltd | 02 19 2011 18:09:52 +0000

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Thanks for the referral Mr.Jayant Vishnu Ji.

Answered by NATTERAJA R. ARIKRISHNAN, GM-Projects, Bentec Electricals & Electronics Pvt. Ltd | 02 19 2011 16:55:15 +0000

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Yes, the ego and arrogance make people not to understand the truth or the worthiness of others. Empty vessels make sound and not the vessels with full of water. The jack fruit looks rough outside but the sweet is inside. So without knowing what is what and who is who, one should not come to a conclusion about others.

Thanks for the sharing Mr.Virag Shah.

Answered by SHRIKANT MANOHAR DANKE, Project Manager, Phadnis Infrastructur Ltd | 02 14 2011 13:51:56 +0000

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I want to support statement of Ravindra Sharma. Very correctly said, Mr. Ravi.

Answer modified by Debashis Gupta, Head - Control Assurance & Risk Management | 02 14 2011 05:41:18 +0000

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Heard this (perhaps apocryphal) story earlier. Goes to make a very good point. But do such values still persist? My take would be: no. We DO judge people by their appearance. Half the time, it may be because we don't have any idea (when we meet first) of their inner beings. But the other half is because, like it or not, people ARE prejudiced by perceptions and appearance. Black skin vs. white, nattily dressed vs. simple, smooth talking vs. circumspect.

It seems understandable if initial perceptions are formed on some (arbitrary) basis, but the tragic thing is - sometimes we do get a glimpse of inner goodness/brilliance but still choose to ignore it in favour of surface things. Especially in the business world, it seems all about presentability and smooth talking, innate ability be damned. And unfortunately, we seem to be bequeathing the same value to the next generation who have just entered (or are on the verge of entering) the workforce - that it's NOT ability to work that counts, but how much you can project even the minuscule amount of work done (or not done!). Much as the older (pre-colour TV!!) generation in India wants to fight against this, there is just no getting away from this phenomenon.

Answered by Mathew Cherian, Research Associate/Analyst, Western Michigan University | 02 13 2011 18:23:31 +0000

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American Academic presidents are some of the most sane entities one can find. This may not be ego, they start discusions slowly not jumping into conclusions waiting for all the data to come by so that decisions won't be in haste. Those who talked to presidents there know that most of their workd are delegated so if someone buts into their office for decisions will usualy find them undetaking this slow start to business or trying to grasp the situation from their underlings before they can give you an answer. It is their way of life. For students who want academic decisions taken by him usualy will find him to be the wrong person to go to, rather they can go elsewhere for faster resolution like an ombudsman. For endowment support like the one described above I feel is not because of ego, it is due to the way the work is done by them for all who go to them.

Ofcourse ego is another matter, it is represion of your wishes and aspirations. If one is not rational in this repressed unconccious thoughts then things can get realy messy. Ego is another source for neurosis a mental deviation.

Answered by Anantha Shayana. D, CTO/CIO, RAYSITI | 02 12 2011 13:28:26 +0000

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Nothing to say here! @Muralidharan has said it all! Very good article @Suryanarayana Sir.

Answered by Jayant Vishnu, Art Director/Sr Art Director, Creative | 02 12 2011 07:23:18 +0000

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